Do you ponder I be out of rank for giving my ex-wife a piece of my mind?
My ex left me and our daughter over six years ago when she was only a year elderly, shortly before her 2nd birthday. For the first few weeks, until the police found her a few hundred miles away, living with another man, as part of their missing those enquiry, both myself and her parents were fearing the worst.
The subsequent we heard was Sarah's 3rd birthday, when she sent a card with a EUR20 record inside, a few birthday cards later and she decided she'd like to see her daughter again. She arranged a call on last August but didn't turn up, then no contact for 10 months, then she fixed she'd like a visit and came to spend a few hours beside a social worker present (my condition for the visit), yesterday.
I know raising a girl as a single man isn't the easiest thing in the world, but she have turned out to be a very mature, kind, adjectives round nice young girl, she never gets in trouble, get glowing school reports etc, and does way more work around the house stale her own back than most kids would do under pressure, so I don't think I've done a doomed to failure job.
All her mother could do was criticise me for how I was raise her, "You shouldn't be letting an 8 year old wear a bra." - she doesn't wear it as a fashion accessory, she is an impulsive developer and her Granny took her to get measured up for it. "You shouldn't have got her ears pierced" - I didn't "get" them pierced. She asked for them, it be her decision, not mine, I just allowed her to make the result for herself and took her to get them done. "You shouldn't be taking her to soccer lessons, you should be involving in her girly sports, not tomboy sports".
I lately flipped and told her that she abandoned the one person she should love more than life itself, when she be still a baby. That means she can [rude word] off if she think she is any position to call me a bad parent. I know I'm not doing a perfect mission, but I'm doing the best I can, and that is way more she'll ever be able to right to be heard.
I would hold done the same thing. She doesn't have any place to be discussion.
no, you were a lot nicer than i wouldve be. tell her to get bent! i dont see how a mother could leave her toddler...i have a 7 year old and i could NEVER leave her.
if your daughter is developing breasts, she needs to wear a training bra at least. girls are roughly expected to wear them by fifth grade anyway. if your daughter wants to play "boy" sports, then that's cool. i would hold loved the chance to be more sporty when i was younger. if she wants to embezzle dance, that's awesome too -- maybe both if you can afford it. *shrug* on the ear piercing thing. i wouldnt allow them to draw from them done until 13 or so, but that's my personal opinion. plenty of parents do it at birth even.
from your description, you're doing a fine job. sounds like my sister's problem beside her ex (if my sis was in your position). she pretty much gave up her parental rights when she departed you both like that with no word.
Good for you. I would've kicked that woman's @ss halfway to hell if she criticized my parenting skills. She has no right to tell you what's wrong when she hasn't see the girl for 8 years, or even raised a kid herself.
Answers: I would have said the same thing...I merely hope you didn't do so in ear shot of your daughter. She shouldn't have to hear these things. Also, I think that you should engender sure that mom's last "visit" was her LAST visit. Coming and going contained by the child's life the way she does is going to do nothing but more heartfelt harm.
Good for you ... :) regardless of what she has or requirements to say don't let it get to you. She is simply mad because she wasn't the one to be making all those decisions but that be her choice so she will have to deal with it. This is her guilt not yours. Keep doing what your doing! :) Your daughter have a GREAT dad! :) Take care
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The subsequent we heard was Sarah's 3rd birthday, when she sent a card with a EUR20 record inside, a few birthday cards later and she decided she'd like to see her daughter again. She arranged a call on last August but didn't turn up, then no contact for 10 months, then she fixed she'd like a visit and came to spend a few hours beside a social worker present (my condition for the visit), yesterday.
I know raising a girl as a single man isn't the easiest thing in the world, but she have turned out to be a very mature, kind, adjectives round nice young girl, she never gets in trouble, get glowing school reports etc, and does way more work around the house stale her own back than most kids would do under pressure, so I don't think I've done a doomed to failure job.
All her mother could do was criticise me for how I was raise her, "You shouldn't be letting an 8 year old wear a bra." - she doesn't wear it as a fashion accessory, she is an impulsive developer and her Granny took her to get measured up for it. "You shouldn't have got her ears pierced" - I didn't "get" them pierced. She asked for them, it be her decision, not mine, I just allowed her to make the result for herself and took her to get them done. "You shouldn't be taking her to soccer lessons, you should be involving in her girly sports, not tomboy sports".
I lately flipped and told her that she abandoned the one person she should love more than life itself, when she be still a baby. That means she can [rude word] off if she think she is any position to call me a bad parent. I know I'm not doing a perfect mission, but I'm doing the best I can, and that is way more she'll ever be able to right to be heard.
I would hold done the same thing. She doesn't have any place to be discussion.
no, you were a lot nicer than i wouldve be. tell her to get bent! i dont see how a mother could leave her toddler...i have a 7 year old and i could NEVER leave her.
if your daughter is developing breasts, she needs to wear a training bra at least. girls are roughly expected to wear them by fifth grade anyway. if your daughter wants to play "boy" sports, then that's cool. i would hold loved the chance to be more sporty when i was younger. if she wants to embezzle dance, that's awesome too -- maybe both if you can afford it. *shrug* on the ear piercing thing. i wouldnt allow them to draw from them done until 13 or so, but that's my personal opinion. plenty of parents do it at birth even.
from your description, you're doing a fine job. sounds like my sister's problem beside her ex (if my sis was in your position). she pretty much gave up her parental rights when she departed you both like that with no word.
Good for you. I would've kicked that woman's @ss halfway to hell if she criticized my parenting skills. She has no right to tell you what's wrong when she hasn't see the girl for 8 years, or even raised a kid herself.
Answers: I would have said the same thing...I merely hope you didn't do so in ear shot of your daughter. She shouldn't have to hear these things. Also, I think that you should engender sure that mom's last "visit" was her LAST visit. Coming and going contained by the child's life the way she does is going to do nothing but more heartfelt harm.
Good for you ... :) regardless of what she has or requirements to say don't let it get to you. She is simply mad because she wasn't the one to be making all those decisions but that be her choice so she will have to deal with it. This is her guilt not yours. Keep doing what your doing! :) Your daughter have a GREAT dad! :) Take care
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