Was this really a be set to entity to do to my child?
I have a 9 year daughter. For about the past couple of weeks, she developed a obsession of waking up earlier than my wife and I every other morning and then awaking us, whining for us to any let her play on the computer, or would otherwise complain about being bored. Some mornings it have been as early as 7 am, and take into consideration that we alternately work long evening shifts.
Locking the door isn't an substitute because we are currently remodeling the bedroom, and for the time being, we are sleeping in the living room.
Barking at her didn't seem to effect any change in this irritating habit, so I had a different hypothesis. I woke up at 5 in the morning, shook her awake, and said in a whiny voice "Come onnnnnnnn, Ashley! I wanna go jogginnnnng! Get your shooooooes onnnn!" and pulled her out of the bed.
Of course, as anyone would predict she howled and fussed nearly being woken up so early, but I still made her come walking outside around the neighborhood with me. The entire time, she whine and begged for me to take her back home to sleep, but I merely said back in a whiny voice "Nooooo! I wanna watch the sunriiiiiiiiise!"
I made her stand beside me and watch the sunrise, then told her that this was exactly how we feel every time she would wake us up at 7 or 8 in the morning whining over something silly.
My wife, however, is irritated with me and said that be mean and extreme. I felt I needed to give her a essence of her own medicine so she would see what it was like to be awoken and have to cater to someone else's whim.
Is my wife right, and if so, what is a better way of handling this inconsiderate behavior of my daughter's (aside from talking)?
I am impressed next to the originality of the punishment. I think you definitely did the best piece in that situation. You needed to show her how she made you feel so she could understand why her prior behavior bothered you so much. I
I think it's funny, and she deserved it.
Hopefully she'll stop and actually start taking other family into consideration.
If not, wake her up earlier next time.
I may be mordant, though, because I really hate kids.
That's just how I feel, though.
I think that what you did was right. If we want to make ourselves buried sometimes, we have to "speak their language". I hope she got the point.
When I was thoroughly little, a boy took off on my tricycle. I went to him and sunk my teeth into his little back so intricate my head shook. When my mother saw me, she bit me to let me know how it feels. Not intricate, but enough to get the point across...I never bit again!
Good Job!!
i mull over thatyou did a good thing. it taught her a lesson and tolerate her know how annoying she is to you. your wife might be mad for a little while but if your daughter stops her annoying habbit then she will be grateful. flawless luck:-)
thats not mean, my daughter is 7 and she stiil gets up at 6am every morning
Giving her a taste of her own medicine,was a great belief.Hope it worked,if not you may have to wake her up even before next time.
i find it funny i be laughing at the whole thing it was exceedingly good what you did first you did that to her then you told her how you felt in a minute shes probably like i better not do that again i don't want to do jogging lol but it was not anticipate that's how you have to deal with kids some times when its not other fair
She got was she deserved. That is not extreme at adjectives, it was a good and original punishment. I bet she cultured her lesson.
Answers: I honestly believe it was appropriate. If she doesn't come across to understand the Golden Rule (do unto others...), then she needs to be skilled the respect she's not giving you guys, her parents.
I grew up in a household where if we continuously do things like that, we attain the equivalent of having our noses rubbed in it..and boy, it works.
It wasn't too discordant. It wasn't inappropriate. It wasn't too inconsiderate, given the circumstances. It wasn't illegal. And if it worked, then JOY!
Honestly, if I be a parent, and my child whined at me like that, it would be because I hadn't spanked her enough...but parents can't really do that now, can they?
Another alternative is to encourage her to use her imagination to find things to do in the morning. It's not your fault she's bored. Let her know that in attendance are penalties for waking you two up without sense. If she keeps it up, then there requirements to be consequences (unless you want to jog every other morning in spite).
Good luck, but know that it wasn't harsh. Some kids requirement tough love...and frankly, I think your idea was brilliant. Source(s): Had a parent that didn't help yourself to crap from his kids, but gave out love and discipline.
HA! That's a good one.
Remember, if you spare the rod, you spoil the child.
This is a great way of getting your point across when chitchat didn't work and you didn't want to ground her. She is old enough to entertain herself surrounded by the morning and also to understand about respecting your sleep time.
From the responses the majority agrees with me that single one person who answered you is an idiot. I'm not stating who so hopefully I won't get deleted.
y did the right thing. you made her know whos the boss minus violence of any kind. im proud of you man. :)
There isn't much you can do except talking..
I think that was fine..
I would own done the same thing...
Did it work?
Not at all.
that was a great thing you did.extreme pshhh
zilch extreme about that...im glad you didnt resort to violence and hit her
you did nothing wrong ...she should be jubilant to know she has a great dad
lmao i would have done duplicate
If it make her stop waking you up, then I don't see why you shouldn't do it. She needed to learn that it's not nice to get up someone up/ and it's not pleasant to BE woken up. Your wife just doesn't like it that you did that, because she feels sorry for you daughter. But trust me, philosophical down, she likes that you stopped her from waking you guys up. You didn't say that she apologized, so you gotta receive your daughter say sorry to you and your wife. Then tell her you love her, just so she won't be wacky.
I'm no parent, so I don't know how much authority I have on this subject, but I come up with your aggressive approach to demonstrating to her how it feels will prove very benefitial to both you and your wife, as well as your daughter.
I conjecture a lot of people in today's world will promote mollycoddling her (like Sarah above me. Ice cream? Apologies? Go ahead and find the girl a car while you're at it!), being "nurturing" and "talking to" and "understanding" her, but that's lately going to spoil her. Kids her age, while capable of understanding 'talk' still don't get as much out of it as they do examples, I consider.
I would say, now that you've done this, provide her other alternatives to what she can do when she wakes up so untimely. Providing her some books, I think, would be the best thing, better than TV, video games or computer, but those are better than nothing, I suppose.
WOW! You and my husband should hang out. He'd do equal thing. HAHA.
I think you tried to do whats best, to try to change your childs ill-behaved habit. But i think you need to try a different aproach. When she wake you up at an early time, be prepared. Buy her a big box, full of toys and fun projects. Take her to a seperate room where she can play quietly. This will be her, "morning box" solely, dont make her get board by playing with it adjectives day. If she refuses for you to take it, bribe her near another toy, possibly. try your best.
No I think that be a perfect move, because she needs to learn to be more considerate and the reality that you woke her up even earlier than normal was a worthy way to teach her what it's like to whine and rouse up others in the morning. At least you took your authority by this action so possibly she will think twice before waking you guys up, after adjectives, she doesn't always know if you guys had slept well that dark. It's the perfect punishment instead of yelling at her or grounding her. And you should warn her that if she wake u up again, there will consequences just like this. Remind her that she's not the individual one who has needs.
@ 9 years old she should really infer not to wake you guys up. she needs to learn to soothingly entertain herself in the room.
no, i don't think it be mean
so did it work? it might backfire and she may start getting up at 5am, lol. good luck
when i wake up my 6 year old-fashioned son he is usually up and playing quietly in his room. then when he see me or my husband up and then he starts to whine about how bored and hungry he is. :)
My daughter is the same she is 5... In certainty I think u r right I myself am gonna do the same 2moro..
Sunday sunrise here we come
That sounds funny and effective not really aim. You made a good point and it doesn't sound like anyone be harmed, probably your daughter doesn't find it funny now but when she is older it would make for a really fitting story. It is probably better than being guilt tripped and yelled at.
Yeah, I'm not gonna lie, that's really miserable. Have you tried talking to her about it, say something resembling "Daddy stayed up late and he really needs a good rest, will that be okay next to you? You know what, why don't we make you daddy's official waker-upper, at 9:00, and only 9:00 (or anything time you like) you can come wake me up." She's young, but she is human, and she'll understand.
You should also apologize to her and carry her ice cream or something so she doesn't hold a grudge, and so your wife feels better.
lol, i thought you be going to say that you locked her in her room or something! no i dont think that be harsh at all. I think it be funny, and also i think that one day she will remember that and laugh, especially when she have her own kids.
I think there were worse things you could own done, you didnt hurt her, she got the point (i hope) and it will probably stop her from doing that again. maybe ask your wife what she would have done.
oh and you did explain to your daughter why you woke her up rash and what not. that makes it even better, you gave her a punishment that fit her crime, and then explained that punishment to her.
Great idea! I bet she learned her lesson...I would do the same item if I could drag myself out of bed that early, that is ! :-)
If you ask me, you're ok with what you did. I'm sick of kids getting their way these days. Back surrounded by the day, if I woke my father up from slumber (especially after a hard day's work), he'd literally put my head through a wall. I might hold hated this kind of thing stern then but now, seeing how degenerate the majority of today's kids are, I greatly appreciate that my parents raise me in a relatively old school method. Kids today have it to easy and our lives are centered around their wants. I articulate we take our lives back and get them to swot up to respect us and to live by our rules. Source(s): EDIT: Sarah A: "You should also apologize to her and get her ice cream or something so she doesn't hold a grudge, and so your wife feels better."
-- explicitly precisely what is wrong with parents today. Totally caving in to their child's desires. That's why you get kids with a sense of entitlement and zero respect. The point of parenting is not to hold your child think you're "Mr. cool mom or dad". It's to teach the child right from wrong and to respect others.
That seems fair, giving a child a taste of their own tablets is usually the best way to deal with spot on annoying behaviours. LOL and ROFL.
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Locking the door isn't an substitute because we are currently remodeling the bedroom, and for the time being, we are sleeping in the living room.
Barking at her didn't seem to effect any change in this irritating habit, so I had a different hypothesis. I woke up at 5 in the morning, shook her awake, and said in a whiny voice "Come onnnnnnnn, Ashley! I wanna go jogginnnnng! Get your shooooooes onnnn!" and pulled her out of the bed.
Of course, as anyone would predict she howled and fussed nearly being woken up so early, but I still made her come walking outside around the neighborhood with me. The entire time, she whine and begged for me to take her back home to sleep, but I merely said back in a whiny voice "Nooooo! I wanna watch the sunriiiiiiiiise!"
I made her stand beside me and watch the sunrise, then told her that this was exactly how we feel every time she would wake us up at 7 or 8 in the morning whining over something silly.
My wife, however, is irritated with me and said that be mean and extreme. I felt I needed to give her a essence of her own medicine so she would see what it was like to be awoken and have to cater to someone else's whim.
Is my wife right, and if so, what is a better way of handling this inconsiderate behavior of my daughter's (aside from talking)?
I am impressed next to the originality of the punishment. I think you definitely did the best piece in that situation. You needed to show her how she made you feel so she could understand why her prior behavior bothered you so much. I
I think it's funny, and she deserved it.
Hopefully she'll stop and actually start taking other family into consideration.
If not, wake her up earlier next time.
I may be mordant, though, because I really hate kids.
That's just how I feel, though.
I think that what you did was right. If we want to make ourselves buried sometimes, we have to "speak their language". I hope she got the point.
When I was thoroughly little, a boy took off on my tricycle. I went to him and sunk my teeth into his little back so intricate my head shook. When my mother saw me, she bit me to let me know how it feels. Not intricate, but enough to get the point across...I never bit again!
Good Job!!
i mull over thatyou did a good thing. it taught her a lesson and tolerate her know how annoying she is to you. your wife might be mad for a little while but if your daughter stops her annoying habbit then she will be grateful. flawless luck:-)
thats not mean, my daughter is 7 and she stiil gets up at 6am every morning
Giving her a taste of her own medicine,was a great belief.Hope it worked,if not you may have to wake her up even before next time.
i find it funny i be laughing at the whole thing it was exceedingly good what you did first you did that to her then you told her how you felt in a minute shes probably like i better not do that again i don't want to do jogging lol but it was not anticipate that's how you have to deal with kids some times when its not other fair
She got was she deserved. That is not extreme at adjectives, it was a good and original punishment. I bet she cultured her lesson.
Answers: I honestly believe it was appropriate. If she doesn't come across to understand the Golden Rule (do unto others...), then she needs to be skilled the respect she's not giving you guys, her parents.
I grew up in a household where if we continuously do things like that, we attain the equivalent of having our noses rubbed in it..and boy, it works.
It wasn't too discordant. It wasn't inappropriate. It wasn't too inconsiderate, given the circumstances. It wasn't illegal. And if it worked, then JOY!
Honestly, if I be a parent, and my child whined at me like that, it would be because I hadn't spanked her enough...but parents can't really do that now, can they?
Another alternative is to encourage her to use her imagination to find things to do in the morning. It's not your fault she's bored. Let her know that in attendance are penalties for waking you two up without sense. If she keeps it up, then there requirements to be consequences (unless you want to jog every other morning in spite).
Good luck, but know that it wasn't harsh. Some kids requirement tough love...and frankly, I think your idea was brilliant. Source(s): Had a parent that didn't help yourself to crap from his kids, but gave out love and discipline.
HA! That's a good one.
Remember, if you spare the rod, you spoil the child.
This is a great way of getting your point across when chitchat didn't work and you didn't want to ground her. She is old enough to entertain herself surrounded by the morning and also to understand about respecting your sleep time.
From the responses the majority agrees with me that single one person who answered you is an idiot. I'm not stating who so hopefully I won't get deleted.
y did the right thing. you made her know whos the boss minus violence of any kind. im proud of you man. :)
There isn't much you can do except talking..
I think that was fine..
I would own done the same thing...
Did it work?
Not at all.
that was a great thing you did.extreme pshhh
zilch extreme about that...im glad you didnt resort to violence and hit her
you did nothing wrong ...she should be jubilant to know she has a great dad
lmao i would have done duplicate
If it make her stop waking you up, then I don't see why you shouldn't do it. She needed to learn that it's not nice to get up someone up/ and it's not pleasant to BE woken up. Your wife just doesn't like it that you did that, because she feels sorry for you daughter. But trust me, philosophical down, she likes that you stopped her from waking you guys up. You didn't say that she apologized, so you gotta receive your daughter say sorry to you and your wife. Then tell her you love her, just so she won't be wacky.
I'm no parent, so I don't know how much authority I have on this subject, but I come up with your aggressive approach to demonstrating to her how it feels will prove very benefitial to both you and your wife, as well as your daughter.
I conjecture a lot of people in today's world will promote mollycoddling her (like Sarah above me. Ice cream? Apologies? Go ahead and find the girl a car while you're at it!), being "nurturing" and "talking to" and "understanding" her, but that's lately going to spoil her. Kids her age, while capable of understanding 'talk' still don't get as much out of it as they do examples, I consider.
I would say, now that you've done this, provide her other alternatives to what she can do when she wakes up so untimely. Providing her some books, I think, would be the best thing, better than TV, video games or computer, but those are better than nothing, I suppose.
WOW! You and my husband should hang out. He'd do equal thing. HAHA.
I think you tried to do whats best, to try to change your childs ill-behaved habit. But i think you need to try a different aproach. When she wake you up at an early time, be prepared. Buy her a big box, full of toys and fun projects. Take her to a seperate room where she can play quietly. This will be her, "morning box" solely, dont make her get board by playing with it adjectives day. If she refuses for you to take it, bribe her near another toy, possibly. try your best.
No I think that be a perfect move, because she needs to learn to be more considerate and the reality that you woke her up even earlier than normal was a worthy way to teach her what it's like to whine and rouse up others in the morning. At least you took your authority by this action so possibly she will think twice before waking you guys up, after adjectives, she doesn't always know if you guys had slept well that dark. It's the perfect punishment instead of yelling at her or grounding her. And you should warn her that if she wake u up again, there will consequences just like this. Remind her that she's not the individual one who has needs.
@ 9 years old she should really infer not to wake you guys up. she needs to learn to soothingly entertain herself in the room.
no, i don't think it be mean
so did it work? it might backfire and she may start getting up at 5am, lol. good luck
when i wake up my 6 year old-fashioned son he is usually up and playing quietly in his room. then when he see me or my husband up and then he starts to whine about how bored and hungry he is. :)
My daughter is the same she is 5... In certainty I think u r right I myself am gonna do the same 2moro..
Sunday sunrise here we come
That sounds funny and effective not really aim. You made a good point and it doesn't sound like anyone be harmed, probably your daughter doesn't find it funny now but when she is older it would make for a really fitting story. It is probably better than being guilt tripped and yelled at.
Yeah, I'm not gonna lie, that's really miserable. Have you tried talking to her about it, say something resembling "Daddy stayed up late and he really needs a good rest, will that be okay next to you? You know what, why don't we make you daddy's official waker-upper, at 9:00, and only 9:00 (or anything time you like) you can come wake me up." She's young, but she is human, and she'll understand.
You should also apologize to her and carry her ice cream or something so she doesn't hold a grudge, and so your wife feels better.
lol, i thought you be going to say that you locked her in her room or something! no i dont think that be harsh at all. I think it be funny, and also i think that one day she will remember that and laugh, especially when she have her own kids.
I think there were worse things you could own done, you didnt hurt her, she got the point (i hope) and it will probably stop her from doing that again. maybe ask your wife what she would have done.
oh and you did explain to your daughter why you woke her up rash and what not. that makes it even better, you gave her a punishment that fit her crime, and then explained that punishment to her.
Great idea! I bet she learned her lesson...I would do the same item if I could drag myself out of bed that early, that is ! :-)
If you ask me, you're ok with what you did. I'm sick of kids getting their way these days. Back surrounded by the day, if I woke my father up from slumber (especially after a hard day's work), he'd literally put my head through a wall. I might hold hated this kind of thing stern then but now, seeing how degenerate the majority of today's kids are, I greatly appreciate that my parents raise me in a relatively old school method. Kids today have it to easy and our lives are centered around their wants. I articulate we take our lives back and get them to swot up to respect us and to live by our rules. Source(s): EDIT: Sarah A: "You should also apologize to her and get her ice cream or something so she doesn't hold a grudge, and so your wife feels better."
-- explicitly precisely what is wrong with parents today. Totally caving in to their child's desires. That's why you get kids with a sense of entitlement and zero respect. The point of parenting is not to hold your child think you're "Mr. cool mom or dad". It's to teach the child right from wrong and to respect others.
That seems fair, giving a child a taste of their own tablets is usually the best way to deal with spot on annoying behaviours. LOL and ROFL.
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