Parenting a Child who desires CONSTANT attention?
Well I am not actually the parent, I am the older sister who serves pretty as the mother role. My 8 year brother has have HORRIBLE parenting from my mom & his father, who are divorced. And he ALWAYS wants to be with my husband & I. He often make comments about how he wishes I was his mother & my mom always brags at how economically behaved he is after being at our house & about ALL the things we inculcate him. Anyway my question is... He is SUCH a LOUD child. He talks SO loud & has to CONSTANTLY be making some sort of din! Be it humming, singing, talking, asking questions, etc. It's like he can't ever freshly be silent & CALM!! Any advice for this? It's also very hard as you can see in your mind`s eye, we teach him to say please, ma'am & sir taking one step forward. Then he goes home or to his dads learn things that take him 2 steps back. We are definitely swimming upstream here. And YES, I do realize we are NOT his parents. But If I can spawn ANY difference in his life and shaping his character, I am going to do it. Thanks :)
I infer you should try to get him to live with you, if his dad is making it worse.
and the noise, ably, keep trying to get him to understand to be noiseless, but kids talk A LOT, so that's gonna be real hard.
sorry i couldn;'t abet you more
I've worked with many ADHD children and they weren't all loud, but it's indubitably something to look into. But in the meantime, what to do? Start by paying him less attention when he's loud and more attention when he uses a quiet voice. Tell him this is what's going to transpire so he's not all confused.
GOOD LUCK! ... I mean ... shhh ... good luck Source(s): www.bratbusters.com
My 10 yo son is EXACTLY one and the same. It drives me nuts!! He comes from a very stable, loving family and is in a able ed program at school.
I think its just kids:)
p.s its prob not adhd, able children are also known to be overactive, unsettled etc. Im not saying he is, but everyone now days seem to think there is a prob if you child is not sitting on the couch, stuffing their face.
My son who is 6 also is in constant motion, he always have to be clich¨¦ something and doing something. He is great kid, but it can get annoying. He is ADHD, so you might see to get him tested.
Answers: I'm never going to vote to a parent "Oh I think your child has ADHD," because I think it's road to over diagnosed. For some, not all mind you I know some children truly have ADHD, it gives some parents a channel out to say look it wasn't me. It's not my fault because I was never in that for my child and had them sit in front of a television, and never have any quality time with him. It's because he can't help it, blah blah blah.
Sorry a short time ago my opinion, and I know I'll get some thumbs down for it. But to me it seems approaching his constant noise making and movement is a way to get attention, albeit glum attention. From what you said about his parents he doesn't get any at home, and he desperately needs the love and affection of his parents as capably. You two you give him the attention he needs, that's probably why his parents think he's acting so capably, because he's probably happy. Just do your best to help him, don't just report to him to stop, but ask him can you stop doing that ____________, (insert behavior). Hey buddy your getting a little loud, can you stop talking so loud I'm right here. Again this is a device to get him attention. He probably doesn't realize how loud he's actually being. You don't have to repremand him for adjectives of it, but eventually it will probably stop especially if your reinforcing for the good things he does. It can be a positive comment like, wow I really liked how you _______________(set the table, or didn't bawl today) keep it up.
The only problem is no support at home and I wish you the best of luck near him. Just do what you can.
Really sounds like ADHD to me
I just required to tell you that i am glad that you are his sister and don't stop doing what you are doing. My prayers are with you and your husband.
It sounds resembling ADHD, I agree. There are doctors who can diagnose and help most of these children. These can be the most irritating traits, but I can tell you that they are very intelligent and gentle children even if they are constantly in motion. And he has not had such great examples set from his parents so you are the one he gravitates toward instinctively. He's so fortunate that he have you and that you care so much. I think any progress is wonderful and even if it is two steps forward and one step back or even vice versa at times, you will see the difference you made contained by his life someday when he's grown. Don't ever think it's not worth it. He needs exactly what you are providing.
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I infer you should try to get him to live with you, if his dad is making it worse.
and the noise, ably, keep trying to get him to understand to be noiseless, but kids talk A LOT, so that's gonna be real hard.
sorry i couldn;'t abet you more
I've worked with many ADHD children and they weren't all loud, but it's indubitably something to look into. But in the meantime, what to do? Start by paying him less attention when he's loud and more attention when he uses a quiet voice. Tell him this is what's going to transpire so he's not all confused.
GOOD LUCK! ... I mean ... shhh ... good luck Source(s): www.bratbusters.com
My 10 yo son is EXACTLY one and the same. It drives me nuts!! He comes from a very stable, loving family and is in a able ed program at school.
I think its just kids:)
p.s its prob not adhd, able children are also known to be overactive, unsettled etc. Im not saying he is, but everyone now days seem to think there is a prob if you child is not sitting on the couch, stuffing their face.
My son who is 6 also is in constant motion, he always have to be clich¨¦ something and doing something. He is great kid, but it can get annoying. He is ADHD, so you might see to get him tested.
Answers: I'm never going to vote to a parent "Oh I think your child has ADHD," because I think it's road to over diagnosed. For some, not all mind you I know some children truly have ADHD, it gives some parents a channel out to say look it wasn't me. It's not my fault because I was never in that for my child and had them sit in front of a television, and never have any quality time with him. It's because he can't help it, blah blah blah.
Sorry a short time ago my opinion, and I know I'll get some thumbs down for it. But to me it seems approaching his constant noise making and movement is a way to get attention, albeit glum attention. From what you said about his parents he doesn't get any at home, and he desperately needs the love and affection of his parents as capably. You two you give him the attention he needs, that's probably why his parents think he's acting so capably, because he's probably happy. Just do your best to help him, don't just report to him to stop, but ask him can you stop doing that ____________, (insert behavior). Hey buddy your getting a little loud, can you stop talking so loud I'm right here. Again this is a device to get him attention. He probably doesn't realize how loud he's actually being. You don't have to repremand him for adjectives of it, but eventually it will probably stop especially if your reinforcing for the good things he does. It can be a positive comment like, wow I really liked how you _______________(set the table, or didn't bawl today) keep it up.
The only problem is no support at home and I wish you the best of luck near him. Just do what you can.
Really sounds like ADHD to me
I just required to tell you that i am glad that you are his sister and don't stop doing what you are doing. My prayers are with you and your husband.
It sounds resembling ADHD, I agree. There are doctors who can diagnose and help most of these children. These can be the most irritating traits, but I can tell you that they are very intelligent and gentle children even if they are constantly in motion. And he has not had such great examples set from his parents so you are the one he gravitates toward instinctively. He's so fortunate that he have you and that you care so much. I think any progress is wonderful and even if it is two steps forward and one step back or even vice versa at times, you will see the difference you made contained by his life someday when he's grown. Don't ever think it's not worth it. He needs exactly what you are providing.
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