My 9-year-old daughter avoids things that are provoking. Will this be a problem after that surrounded by energy?
Yes and no. If she keep doing this... she will never learn about whatever it is she is avoiding. But, you can address to her about it! I am sure once she gets older she will take in she can't keep avoiding it, Keep in mind that she is still growing and has plentifully more to experience in her life.
She's probably just a really sweet, and kind girl. I never like competitions, not because I feared losing or faling but because I never liked when people argued over winners/losers, feel left out or cried because they lost. I wasn't those type of people, and usually in the middle so I like to play games without a winner or loser. I liked activites approaching ballet, and dance or acting and musical theatre. Try her contained by a different activity other than swim-team, something less competetive. You don't want to push her and become a sports parent that pushes their children to win. If she requests to compete, she will when she's ready. She's young, and perhaps a bit timid. Look contained by your community for fun things she might like to do that don't require teams or competition. Get her involved in acedemics, hop, or acting. This will improve her skill level, she can meet different friends but doesn't feel pressured by competition. She'll turn into a great girl, and probably and awesome teenager. Don't worry, and permit her do what she wants to do, and feels right to her. Good luck!
She's been brainwashed by tv/media and school that "Everyone wins" not a soul "gets cut" from the ball team - its a equals thing. Restrict her tv watching and show her good sport movies that show great players competing for a win.
My 7 yr old other tries to tell me, he can't do certain things. I hate that word I can't or it's to knotty. Once I hear that I sit down and work with him showing him if he puts his mind to it, it isn't that hard. I don't have girls so I'm not sure how differently they should be treated. You also don't want her to be picked on, you could singular avoid confrontation for so long, she needs to know how to defend herself if avoiding does work one day
Sounds like she is a piece warden, we need more people like that within this world,She sounds like me, my view on life comes from a biddable christian background and I don't need to win or lose as long as I did what I was asked ,I don't stipulation confrontation and I don't want it.
She will be fine. good for you raising her with these attitudes surrounded by life
we need more people close to her to be our next generation of adults to take vigilance of things in her view.
Oh gosh she'll be fine...she's only 9.not adjectives kids enjoy competition but it does not mean they won;t achieve. I be a quiet achiever.in the things I enjoyed. If I be you I would take notice of what she is good at easily...be it drawing, reading, being kind.whatever it is..and gladden her and praise her a lot.
I can relate to some of what you're saying with our 10-year-old and would say that as long as she's not doing poorly within school and her teacher(s) are not telling you she gets along poorly near her peers, then she will probably be fine and pass right through whatever phase this is for her. Our daughter, given the choice, would spend her entire weekend contained by her room, with the door shut, playing computer games and passively watching TV, only to be sighted for purposes of food, snacks or using the bathroom. She is a motivated student but does not really demonstrate that motivation in other aspects of her time. She has friends at school but likes time to herself otherwise. Chances are by the time our girls are 13-14, it will be the exact conflicting, but everyone's different. Never be afraid to encourage her, regardless of her apprehension, or discourage her from troubling behavior.
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