Is 10 too infantile to be departed home alone for a few hours?
This is the conflict: I work in the afternoon, and my wife works in the evenings.
I would like to bear martial arts class that start right after my work. However, the schedule is operating in such a bearing that it means that if I go to those class and my wife goes to work, her 10 year antiquated daughter will be left unattended for an hour and a half.
I told my wife that I seriously doubt a 10 year old can produce any catastrophic mayhem in a matter of 90 minutes. My wife insists that she does not trust her, and would not put it departed her to go invite all of her friends into the house, burn the house down trying to cook something, go wandering outside and go and get kidnapped (at 7 in the evening in a dense residential neighborhood?!?). All surrounded by all, she says that at 10, she is too young to be alone at home.
I borrow to differ. I remember being 10 years old very clearly (I'm singular 27) and my parents didn't get home until 6:30 every day--leaving me by myself for 3 and a half hours daily after conservatory. I knew damn that pulling a stunt like throwing a wild gala would earn me a well deserve kick in my trailing so hard that I'd smell shoe polish for the next week. We had rules--I be to come in, complete my homework, stay inside the house, and entertain myself the same behaviour I would do if my parents were right in the next room.
But my wife say "times have changed."
Is she right?
Why wouldnt you take your daughter to warring arts with you to learn or some other activity instead of departing her alone and being bored and nothing to do? Try keeping her busy so she wont feel unloved and lame.
If she is vanished alone at home, Tell her the emergency numbers and your and her moms number. give her the neighbors number and any other numbers she is suppose to call if anything happens.
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I would say it adjectives depends on how your daughter was raised. I wouldn't make a blanket statement and say aloud, "yes, all 10 year olds are responsible enough to be left home alone," but if you touch you have raised her to know right from wrong and how to take exactness of herself, then an hour and a half doesn't seem so unpromising.
no i think it is ok to quit 10 year olds alone. if u dont later on they will be scared to stay alone. becasue the older they grow the more stuff they hear in the order of, but if they akready had been alone it wont be bad. so i guess it would be constructive. and if someone calls the police on them tell them that u had to step to a hospital to see a family member and that they dont allow kids to go . and communicate them that a family member is on their way to appropriate care of the child. and she could just go to a room and phone call a relative to come quick and they'll believe the story.
your wife is right with everything. but you know, sometimes we need to swot up to trust our children and let them know that we really trust them. treat them like adults and i don't think they will eccentric back.
I would not bestow my 10 year old alone for an hour and a half.
Would she be alone just one afternoon respectively week, or would it be every day?
Why can't she go to a friend's house for that time - she could hang out near her friend, and another time (when you or your wife are home), her friend could come to your place for a couple of hours.
Your wife is right, times have changed. Perhaps leaving a girl in the house for a few minutes would be okay while you go to the store or something, but there is so much that could happen to a young girl within 90 minutes.
I can also tell from your question that you are not this girl's father, a loving father would be much more concerned for her safety. You aren't.
I do exit my 10 year old at home for a hour or so. But I know I can trust him. I don't think I would leave him any longer. He does catch bored easily and does crazy things.
Your wife does know her own kid. I know 16 year olds that can't be trusted alone. Maybe hire a sitter for time or find another class. Maybe enroll her in the class too.
Almost all 10-year-olds are responsible enough to stay home on their own.
I enjoy a 10 year old and I do not leave her home alone. If I were you I would not push the situation. If your wife does not have a feeling comfortable leaving her alone then take her to class near you or take it at a different time. That is just part of self a parent you don't always get to do what you want. It sucks at times but that is only the way it is.
And in reality times hold changed. People get broke into in broad daylight even in a dense residential neighborhood. Things can begin that are not her fault that she may not know how to handle. If you push it and something happens she will never consent to it go.
Yes some 10 yr olds can stay home alone but her mom has stated she does not feel comfortable near it, so you just need to wait. My daughter is severely responsible and well behaved, but we have some chance neighbors (even in a nice neighborhood) and the law is 12 in our state so if something happen the parents can be charged with neglect.
If your wife does not trust the 10 year old then NO. A mother knows her own child. I donate both my 10 year olds home for a couple of hours with no concerns. They are well behaved , know the rules (don't answer door phone etc) but if your wife does not trust the child afterwards accept that.
I think you requirement to sit down with your 10 year old and explain the rules. Then leave your Martial arts class hasty and go to the house to make sure she is doing exactly what you ask.
In 90 minutes a 10 year old can meaningless the dishwasher, do their homework and eat a light snack.
Any 10 year old that would even reckon of a wild party either have gone through puberty at a very young age or has a mental disturbance.
My kids be doing chores when they got home and had no time to get into any trouble from 9 years on up to 18 years!
I agree with your wife. And the ruling states that "children below the age of 12 may not be left unattended". So, if anyone found out that you left your ten year old alone, you would be taken to secure unit. And really, you trust a 10 year old? I remember that when I was 10 I wished that my parents would start out me home alone so I could get away with what I didn't when they were home. They be SMART and got me a b-a-b-y-s-i-t-t-e-r. also, if you care SO much about your precious warring arts, then you are unfit for having children. You need to put their desires before your wants, and the worst case scenario for you would be that you couldn't help yourself to your martial arts class and would have to take charge of your kid. Boo hoo. Source(s): common sense, law, personal exp.
Times enjoy changed but each child is different. How about you try it out and see how it goes, a moment ago for one week?
I suggest you plan what your daughter will do with her spare time. When my 13 and 15 year olds are home alone for any extended length of time, I plan with them what they will do while I am gone.
It's all going on for expectations. Mostly kids who are home alone will muck up because they are bored. So, don't let her become bored. Write a list of things she can do and discuss what is going to happen surrounded by advance. Then, good luck. See how you go. Source(s): http://www.yourchildcanbehave.com
Answers: I think it depends on the child. If she has be brought up to know what's right and understands that there are consequences then it shouldn't be a problem.
Ask her how she feel about this. I know I didn't like being home alone as I be scared. Lay down the rules, maybe reward good responsible manner with a bit of pocket money.
It might be best to start with a shorter amount of time (little things, like disappearing her at home when you go do the groceries etc)
Remember though, granting her this responsibility will make it difficult to say no to other things:
If she wishes to go to the movies with a friend or to the shops.
yeah u can leave her alone
What if you leaveherhome for approaching a half an hour...first :P
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I would like to bear martial arts class that start right after my work. However, the schedule is operating in such a bearing that it means that if I go to those class and my wife goes to work, her 10 year antiquated daughter will be left unattended for an hour and a half.
I told my wife that I seriously doubt a 10 year old can produce any catastrophic mayhem in a matter of 90 minutes. My wife insists that she does not trust her, and would not put it departed her to go invite all of her friends into the house, burn the house down trying to cook something, go wandering outside and go and get kidnapped (at 7 in the evening in a dense residential neighborhood?!?). All surrounded by all, she says that at 10, she is too young to be alone at home.
I borrow to differ. I remember being 10 years old very clearly (I'm singular 27) and my parents didn't get home until 6:30 every day--leaving me by myself for 3 and a half hours daily after conservatory. I knew damn that pulling a stunt like throwing a wild gala would earn me a well deserve kick in my trailing so hard that I'd smell shoe polish for the next week. We had rules--I be to come in, complete my homework, stay inside the house, and entertain myself the same behaviour I would do if my parents were right in the next room.
But my wife say "times have changed."
Is she right?
Why wouldnt you take your daughter to warring arts with you to learn or some other activity instead of departing her alone and being bored and nothing to do? Try keeping her busy so she wont feel unloved and lame.
If she is vanished alone at home, Tell her the emergency numbers and your and her moms number. give her the neighbors number and any other numbers she is suppose to call if anything happens.
:]
I would say it adjectives depends on how your daughter was raised. I wouldn't make a blanket statement and say aloud, "yes, all 10 year olds are responsible enough to be left home alone," but if you touch you have raised her to know right from wrong and how to take exactness of herself, then an hour and a half doesn't seem so unpromising.
no i think it is ok to quit 10 year olds alone. if u dont later on they will be scared to stay alone. becasue the older they grow the more stuff they hear in the order of, but if they akready had been alone it wont be bad. so i guess it would be constructive. and if someone calls the police on them tell them that u had to step to a hospital to see a family member and that they dont allow kids to go . and communicate them that a family member is on their way to appropriate care of the child. and she could just go to a room and phone call a relative to come quick and they'll believe the story.
your wife is right with everything. but you know, sometimes we need to swot up to trust our children and let them know that we really trust them. treat them like adults and i don't think they will eccentric back.
I would not bestow my 10 year old alone for an hour and a half.
Would she be alone just one afternoon respectively week, or would it be every day?
Why can't she go to a friend's house for that time - she could hang out near her friend, and another time (when you or your wife are home), her friend could come to your place for a couple of hours.
Your wife is right, times have changed. Perhaps leaving a girl in the house for a few minutes would be okay while you go to the store or something, but there is so much that could happen to a young girl within 90 minutes.
I can also tell from your question that you are not this girl's father, a loving father would be much more concerned for her safety. You aren't.
I do exit my 10 year old at home for a hour or so. But I know I can trust him. I don't think I would leave him any longer. He does catch bored easily and does crazy things.
Your wife does know her own kid. I know 16 year olds that can't be trusted alone. Maybe hire a sitter for time or find another class. Maybe enroll her in the class too.
Almost all 10-year-olds are responsible enough to stay home on their own.
I enjoy a 10 year old and I do not leave her home alone. If I were you I would not push the situation. If your wife does not have a feeling comfortable leaving her alone then take her to class near you or take it at a different time. That is just part of self a parent you don't always get to do what you want. It sucks at times but that is only the way it is.
And in reality times hold changed. People get broke into in broad daylight even in a dense residential neighborhood. Things can begin that are not her fault that she may not know how to handle. If you push it and something happens she will never consent to it go.
Yes some 10 yr olds can stay home alone but her mom has stated she does not feel comfortable near it, so you just need to wait. My daughter is severely responsible and well behaved, but we have some chance neighbors (even in a nice neighborhood) and the law is 12 in our state so if something happen the parents can be charged with neglect.
If your wife does not trust the 10 year old then NO. A mother knows her own child. I donate both my 10 year olds home for a couple of hours with no concerns. They are well behaved , know the rules (don't answer door phone etc) but if your wife does not trust the child afterwards accept that.
I think you requirement to sit down with your 10 year old and explain the rules. Then leave your Martial arts class hasty and go to the house to make sure she is doing exactly what you ask.
In 90 minutes a 10 year old can meaningless the dishwasher, do their homework and eat a light snack.
Any 10 year old that would even reckon of a wild party either have gone through puberty at a very young age or has a mental disturbance.
My kids be doing chores when they got home and had no time to get into any trouble from 9 years on up to 18 years!
I agree with your wife. And the ruling states that "children below the age of 12 may not be left unattended". So, if anyone found out that you left your ten year old alone, you would be taken to secure unit. And really, you trust a 10 year old? I remember that when I was 10 I wished that my parents would start out me home alone so I could get away with what I didn't when they were home. They be SMART and got me a b-a-b-y-s-i-t-t-e-r. also, if you care SO much about your precious warring arts, then you are unfit for having children. You need to put their desires before your wants, and the worst case scenario for you would be that you couldn't help yourself to your martial arts class and would have to take charge of your kid. Boo hoo. Source(s): common sense, law, personal exp.
Times enjoy changed but each child is different. How about you try it out and see how it goes, a moment ago for one week?
I suggest you plan what your daughter will do with her spare time. When my 13 and 15 year olds are home alone for any extended length of time, I plan with them what they will do while I am gone.
It's all going on for expectations. Mostly kids who are home alone will muck up because they are bored. So, don't let her become bored. Write a list of things she can do and discuss what is going to happen surrounded by advance. Then, good luck. See how you go. Source(s): http://www.yourchildcanbehave.com
Answers: I think it depends on the child. If she has be brought up to know what's right and understands that there are consequences then it shouldn't be a problem.
Ask her how she feel about this. I know I didn't like being home alone as I be scared. Lay down the rules, maybe reward good responsible manner with a bit of pocket money.
It might be best to start with a shorter amount of time (little things, like disappearing her at home when you go do the groceries etc)
Remember though, granting her this responsibility will make it difficult to say no to other things:
If she wishes to go to the movies with a friend or to the shops.
yeah u can leave her alone
What if you leaveherhome for approaching a half an hour...first :P
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