Behavior/rule chart for kids 8 & 9 years feeble?
My two older daughters are starting to develop little attitudes due to their fathers lack of discipline. I want to form a chart for them for the week for good behaviors to get stars on. I have a few concept such as cleaning room, listening well, putting dishes away after eating, etc.
I also want to enjoy a chart or list that would have them lose stars next to their name if they do anything on this list such as talking back, not listen, not cleaning room etc.
So my question is does anyone have any suggestions for things to put on my lists/charts? Also any suggestions for websites to help next to this? I am wondering what rewards could be. Maybe 1 hour of play time with mommy or daddy (child's choice) 15 min of game time for electronics. So any suggestions would help, appreciation in advance!!
I'm curious as to why you blame their father for their behaviour? Why can't you discipline?
As for charts, there are some out in attendance on the market with magnets you can attach to the fridge. But they cost a lot. I would simply engineer up a chart of all the chores/rules and then a list of adjectives the punishments/rewards accompanying each of those.
E.g. not making bed - no TV
Treat fun stuff as something that's done after everything else. This is about priorities and self-discipline. If you don't discipline them now later how are they going to self-discipline themselves when they are grown?
I would suggest some items for the dollar tree or ten cents, when they earn a dollor or two, take them to the dollar tree or another dollar store.
Answers: Try www.handipoints.com for help beside the chores and rewards.
Um... first behavior charts are designed as positive reinforcement. Meaning, they won't loose stars nor would there be constant list of negative behavior.
Second, "putting away dishes" is great because they know exactly what you expect. Make sure that you explain (and hold on to explaining) exactly what you mean by listening well (eyes on the speaker, not rolling eyes, nor interrupting) and cleaning room (bed made, dirty laundry where on earth it is supposed to go, toys put away)
I'd add Homework. On nights they don't own homework (IE summer) it means they spend a few minutes doing some math problems (thousands of free printable worksheets) , writing in their journal, or reading a book.
I'd also make a payment Do Three Tasks. In homes where domestic chores aren't individually assigned having kids simply look around and help out within three ways (bringing groceries inside, help set the table, weed the garden, recycle the newspaper, etc) is a good track to remind them to help out.
My idea is to include them in creating the chore/behaviour charts, sit them down after dinner one evening and sermon about the fact that you've noticed some bleak attitudes and things are going to change. Have them create their own chart, have three to five things that are musts (saying please and thank you, asking permission, listen, cleaning room, putting dishes away) then have them pick a chore out of a hat that's extra bonus points (cleaning the bathroom, wash windows, feeding a pet, etc). I highly disagree next to making time with their parents a reward- that should be a requirement in the house, not something they have to earn. For respectively star or stamp they get they can earn 5 minutes of electronics to use at the end of the week all together or 15 minutes respectively evening for stars earned. Or, if they both get a star everyday for a week or a month they earn something bigger like a trip to the swimming pool or movie.
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I also want to enjoy a chart or list that would have them lose stars next to their name if they do anything on this list such as talking back, not listen, not cleaning room etc.
So my question is does anyone have any suggestions for things to put on my lists/charts? Also any suggestions for websites to help next to this? I am wondering what rewards could be. Maybe 1 hour of play time with mommy or daddy (child's choice) 15 min of game time for electronics. So any suggestions would help, appreciation in advance!!
I'm curious as to why you blame their father for their behaviour? Why can't you discipline?
As for charts, there are some out in attendance on the market with magnets you can attach to the fridge. But they cost a lot. I would simply engineer up a chart of all the chores/rules and then a list of adjectives the punishments/rewards accompanying each of those.
E.g. not making bed - no TV
Treat fun stuff as something that's done after everything else. This is about priorities and self-discipline. If you don't discipline them now later how are they going to self-discipline themselves when they are grown?
I would suggest some items for the dollar tree or ten cents, when they earn a dollor or two, take them to the dollar tree or another dollar store.
Answers: Try www.handipoints.com for help beside the chores and rewards.
Um... first behavior charts are designed as positive reinforcement. Meaning, they won't loose stars nor would there be constant list of negative behavior.
Second, "putting away dishes" is great because they know exactly what you expect. Make sure that you explain (and hold on to explaining) exactly what you mean by listening well (eyes on the speaker, not rolling eyes, nor interrupting) and cleaning room (bed made, dirty laundry where on earth it is supposed to go, toys put away)
I'd add Homework. On nights they don't own homework (IE summer) it means they spend a few minutes doing some math problems (thousands of free printable worksheets) , writing in their journal, or reading a book.
I'd also make a payment Do Three Tasks. In homes where domestic chores aren't individually assigned having kids simply look around and help out within three ways (bringing groceries inside, help set the table, weed the garden, recycle the newspaper, etc) is a good track to remind them to help out.
My idea is to include them in creating the chore/behaviour charts, sit them down after dinner one evening and sermon about the fact that you've noticed some bleak attitudes and things are going to change. Have them create their own chart, have three to five things that are musts (saying please and thank you, asking permission, listen, cleaning room, putting dishes away) then have them pick a chore out of a hat that's extra bonus points (cleaning the bathroom, wash windows, feeding a pet, etc). I highly disagree next to making time with their parents a reward- that should be a requirement in the house, not something they have to earn. For respectively star or stamp they get they can earn 5 minutes of electronics to use at the end of the week all together or 15 minutes respectively evening for stars earned. Or, if they both get a star everyday for a week or a month they earn something bigger like a trip to the swimming pool or movie.
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