Do you believe surrounded by grounding?
Yes. I think taking away events kids like to do makes them think twice previously they do it again. Who wants to be stuck at home when everyone else is at a game or movies.
I was the nice of kid though that if I knew I would be grounded for something I made sure it was worth it.
Yes, but the amount of time or type of grounding, like what you steal away, should be proportional to the thing they did wrong. Don't ground them for a week for staying out too late and then ground them for one and the same amount of time for doing something much worse, like you caught them smoking. They'll soon find that your punishment is the same for everything, no matter how unpromising.
no, if i was to ground my kids when i return with older (and have some, lol) i would expect them to have no respect for me as the grow elder in their teenage years, say if they needed to go somewhere, i wouldnt say "no your staying in" id utter "sure, if you can find a ride" i mean, its going to teach them that everything isnt as easy as it seem, and if my mum had done that, i would have soo much more respect for her than i do, dont get me wrong, i lover her as my mum, but god she have no idea how to treat my like a responsible person and i dream up that if she had done that to me, i would be that much more appreciative of her for giving me 'moral fibre' as it were.
Its not something I've have to do yet, my boys are 9, 6 and 5 and aren't running about independently enough for a grounding to enjoy effect.
I will turn off a DVD, CD send inside (if paying outside) or to their room (if inside) if a recitation off hasn't worked but most of the time it does work.
Grounding is a very American thing, when I be growing up (UK) I can only remember being "grounded" and not being competent to go out once, when I was 11, and that was because I have gone knocking on doors to see if I could raise money by dog walking and I scared my mum partly to death lol.
I don't like this idea (which turns up seriously on here) of kids being grounded for weeks at a time. If a week max doesn't do the trick then 4 or 5 weeks will only breed resentment surely?
When my boys are elder and are visiting friends and going into town alone I may make them stay home on a night when they hold been disobedient, but I guess the punishment needs to fit the crime so I can;t say for sure when or what that will be.
Hmmm..a long winded answer huh ? lol
I believe in grounding if and only if the child is outgoing and goes to abundantly of places besides school (ie friend's houses, the mall, the movies, etc). If you ground a child that doesn't go anywhere it's merely pointless. What are you gonna do? Stick a child in his room for punishment when that's where he's at 24-7 anyway? That's just not gonna work.
Grounding for a weekend or a few days may be an adequate punishment for teenagers, especially when they also lose TV, cell phone and computer during the time they are grounded. This give them some time for reflection (or for thinking of methods to kill their parents). But for younger children I much prefer a spanking when they have seriously misbehaved. It is quicker and more to the point. And the parent does not hold to be around 24 hours a day to make sure they don't escape!
My parents never ground me...we didn't even ahve it in our family, so I never used next to my kids. I just tell them that they get a time out for however antiquated they are. (my 11 year old would have an 11 min. time out) but if it was worse resembling they hit/kicked/bit anyone then they would either loose the computer or tv for that day
yes i believe in grounding. its a punishment, if my child/children are doing something impossible, or wrong. i wouldn't punish him for one little thing, but if he/she keeps doing that one thing after i let somebody know them not to, then he/she will be grounded.
maybe from playing with friends, or a tv, and video games. and depending on how long i ground them. sometimes one and only for a day, other for a week.
Yes.
Really grounding should accomplish one point --> giving a long time out (those minutes add up once the kid's ages hit double digits lol). They just need satisfactory time to realize you're the parent and time to think things over. A few days or missing out on a fun night out should be just fine.
But, I meditate a lot of parents use it ineffectively. The kids are grounded to their rooms where they can get online/ examine tv/ anything besides thinking about what they did. OR, the kid is allowed to do nothing but think on things, for weeks or months at a time. Worst of, repeatedly these groundings are started off with a yelling urge directed at the child and then the child is isolated --- never any time to really discuss things with the parent.
No.
Im a teen myself and i hate anyone grounded even though it has happen to me only once.
i agree next to it a little bit because if crime, its time to do ur time
but, then again, its soo easy to find out of it wats the point?
and u might think ur child is 'good' again while they did something behind ur back and they would never come verbs about it.
it really doesnt work for teens but it works on little kids.
no
Yes, kids requirement to see that there are consequences for bad behavior. Weeks of boredom and reflection will lend a hand them understand this.
Every child no matter what the age is has something that they treasure. That could be an object approaching a phone or a bicycle, or that could be their freedom. All those things are rewards for good behavior, and when their behavior is bad, the best way to punish them is to remove one or more of those rewards. Taking away a childs freedom and "grounding" them is a remarkably successful way to teach them that their behavior is unacceptable. No parent wishes to hurt their child, but sometimes it is necessary to punish for their own good; either to coach them a lesson or keep them safe.
yes something gots to show'em
yes, i do.
Because if a child does the crime, they have to do the time.
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