My 9 year ripened daughter told me she like girls...?
My second daughter, 9 year old "Claire", has confided in me that she like other girls. She has explained that her older sister (11) told her that when SHE was 9 she get a "funny feeling" in her stomach when boys were near her and touched her and things, a idea she likes. Claire also explained that her friends had the same atmosphere. Then she confessed that boys don't interest her at all and that recently (from what she explained i gather going on for the last 3 months or so) she has had those mental state about her female friends. Claire says she wishes to kiss them like she sees boys and girls do on tv and that she doesn't want to kiss boys...
Despite being a christian, and man married to a christian, the idea of her being homosexual doesn't bother me. I'd hope that she wouldn't be, but it's not that big a deal to me.
Please recognize that me and my wife do not molest her, and to my knowlege she nas never BEEN molested.
My question is..what's likely the cause of this attraction, psychologically? is it stout? why or why not?
Sounds to me similar to your daughter might turn out to be a lesbian. some of my friends who are gay/lesbian told me they knew how they were from a very childish age. If you don't have a problem with it, then that's upright, you shouldn't try to change her. maybe she might be going through a phase.
It may simply be a phase. I believe that it might have something to do beside her idolising her older sister to the extent that she wants to kiss girls.
I also have an elder sister, and went through the phase when I was around the same age. I'm seventeen immediately and realise that it simply was a phase, and I grew out of it after a period of a few months.
Sometimes young children are lately curious. She may feel uncomfortable around boys, or they may tease her.
This is why she may grain that she doesn't like them.
She's only 9, so it's likely that this is just a phase. But be thoroughly supportive, and let her know that how she feels is okay. And being gay is only just as healthy as being straight.
I don't think anything she says can be related to homosexuality and even if it did, there's nil you can do about it.
sorry, but psychology now believes that being gay is humour - not nurture.
They don't treat it. So even if you thought something was wrong, they don't treat sexuality.
I would let it go.
i find it Natural because she is at a young age she does not know however.and she is at the age where puberty comes in
My brother-in-law is homosexual and claims he has be since forever.I have no reason to doubt that, he has no explanation to lie, so maybe some people are born that method.not trying to be controversial, just telling my experience. I don't think it's wan, I would just be happy she has mood and the ability to love, whoever it is!
It's probably the result of being overexposed to the media and the crap kids see on TV today. We are adjectives victims.
Give it time, don't make a big deal of it.. and in reality, if she talks about it just say-so "oh" and maybe change the subject.
Healthy? Well, if it's the result of outside influence, it's not healthy. People are born gay, they of late don't wake up one day and say "gee, i have a sneaking suspicion that i will be gay today".
Maybe she is homosexual and maybe she's not. Some people will say that 9 is too youthful for her to know. But I'm not so sure. Many homosexual adults have reported knowing they were "different" from a very young at heart age. Just don't label her. Give her your love and support and let her decide on her own.
People make associations their entire lives, and some feel stronger impact when connecting the dots. Perhaps your daughter made romantic associations with girls because she feels more secure, comfortable and standard around women, thus creating a stronger sense for romanticism. It doesn't mean that she hasn't had good masculine role models around her, not at all, I just think that she have just perceived her contact with girls more appealing.
Sexuality nowadays is also exceedingly present in music videos, advertisements and TV and homosexuality is now (mostly) considered a normal thing. Today, any 9 year old( mostly) know that it's okay to be a homosexual, unlike 50 years ago ago.
She's also nine, this could also be just a phase, maybe she admires someone who's homosexual? Maybe one of her friends influenced her?
Then again, A lot of gay populace I know tell me they knew they were gay adjectives of their lives, and we hear these kinds of things all the time.
With time, things will be much clearer for her, since again, she's still very immature.
As health goes, loving a person and compassionate about another person's well being is never unhygienic, often the problem is the prejudice around homosexuals, people telling them their diseased, relations associating them with stereotypes, etc etc and all that pressure in the long run IS ill.
Continue being proud of your little girl, in the end, heterosexual or not, she'll be glowing and happy to know that it doesn't change a thing roughly speaking how her love ones view her.
I would say that she be born to be attracted to girls. This isn't something caused by anything. There is nothing wrong with it. You will be wasting your time trying to find answers as to why? Just soak up your kids.
She may be tomfoolery. Besides she may be too young to have those feelings to boys or girls.I wouldn't completely believe it all the same. If she really turns out to be that way, its nobody's fault.Some people are freshly born this way,actually more then 10% of population. And like mad of people hide it through whole their lives. It's really critical that you are open minded and will support her no matter what.
There's nothing wrong beside her. She is probably just a lesbian. Molestation has nothing to do near it, she was born this way.
At the age of 9, she is probably beginning puberty, which is natural. For reasons unkown to the rest of the world, some relatives really are attracted to the same sex. I am not one of those, but I have many masses friends that are, and I have questioned them several times. I have some friends who voice that they have been attracted to girls since they were 5. Others hold said they just choose to date girls because of the way they were treated until that time by men. Many say they try hard to be attracted to men, it just doesn't come to pass. I don't want to discourage you, because I think I would be devastated if my child was a homosexual, but I do understand that it is not your guiltiness. It is not because of any trauma, it is just a difference.
Side note, quite a few of my "chooser" friends, are married or busy to men. One of my friends who has been homosexual since she was contained by jr. high, is now pregnant and living with her boyfriend, and is completely cheery.
I guess the point of this babble is there is no cause of homosexuality, it is not scientifically proven that near is an actual brain difference, but there is also no scientific prof that there is no difference. We are adjectives wired differently, and as a Christian myself, God would not allow wrong things to feel love. I've seen the love some homosexuals have for one another - its not against God's will... it only can't be. Source(s): played on a stereo typical college softball team -- a good friend and investigator of the homosexual race.
You do know that there is a gay gene, right?
If she is gay, she be more than likely born that way.
Or she could just be attracted to girls, at lowest possible at this stage in her life. I know a lot of young-looking kids are sexually curious and go through different stages. It's healthy, as long as she's not doing something that put her in jeopardy.
And as some who is christian, I'm happy to see that you accept your daughter as who she is.Just let her grow and provide her lots of love and support.
Answers: In my educational psychology and child growth/development classes that I took in college we talked seriously about Freud and his different theories and other theorists as well... One of the things that I remember discussing in some classes be that of gender identity. (Not in the case of identify yourself as female or male, but it expands much greater than that.) Anyway, there is a stage children shift through, generally younger than 9-- but all children differ, where children do like/prefer their own sex contained by a deeper than friendship way. They get the butterflies and the wanting to be close to them during this stage. Sometimes children grow out of this, and sometimes this is where they first discover their true sexuality. If she doesn't grow out of the stage, consequently she may be a lesbian or bisexual. However, she is the only one who would know that answer. Source(s): Some college classes-- I am an elementary teacher.
She is 9 years-old. Young, and promising not the most confident kid in the world--most girls aren't at that age anyways. She probably feels comfortable around her girl friends and awkward around boys--it is only automatic that it would feel more right for her to want to "kiss" or hold hands with ethnic group she is comfortable with. Sometimes girls--and boys too--want to have stronger feelings for folks than they actually have to the point that they trick themselves into thinking they have them. And profoundly of things are mimic and copy. So kissing and such things fall into the realm of role-playing sometimes--just like pretending to be a favorite pop star or princess or a bride. And who do heaps girls like to play with? Other girls.
On the other hand, she could tremendously well be homosexual--or bisexual, which is more common for women. She hasn't quite hit puberty nonetheless, and will slowly be developing into being a young woman which is a long and difficult process in the essential future. She may wish to explore her sexual being and that may be more desirable next to another woman which is more comfortable and known territory for her. And the familiar can be fairly attractive.
Overall, I wouldn't be too worried. Sometimes it is just a stage in a girl's life and sometimes it isn't. Dating, romance, funny state of mind in her stomach--they are difficult things to deal with and a confusing time. Your brief is to help her through that. Homesexuality is a difficult thing for anyone to come to terms next to as a youth primarily because of societal norms. If anything, because you see this as a possibility, you could look perhaps into picking up some reading on how to be supportive of you daughter in such a situation.
You come across like a supportive father and so long as you don't put the idea that homosexuality is bad or anything into her director, I say just let her grow up a bit more and do business with things as they come.
All of the above. She may or may not grow out of it.
You have a brave girl on your hands. Encourage her and be here for her. She has a tough road ahead and will need your support.
One angle you can take is that you reflect boys are gross too. Well, we are.
Don't judge her yet. She is simply 9. Perhaps she really likes her friends and is just a loving kid. I don't think she have any sexual feelings, she's too young.
Why have this conversation beside her at such a young age? Keep her involved in activities and acquire the focus off of who she is attracted to.
You could also tell her that boys are nice. And she'll meet someone special. Perhaps she have heard that boys are bad - or something like that. But don't sticky label her yet. For goodness sake.
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Despite being a christian, and man married to a christian, the idea of her being homosexual doesn't bother me. I'd hope that she wouldn't be, but it's not that big a deal to me.
Please recognize that me and my wife do not molest her, and to my knowlege she nas never BEEN molested.
My question is..what's likely the cause of this attraction, psychologically? is it stout? why or why not?
Sounds to me similar to your daughter might turn out to be a lesbian. some of my friends who are gay/lesbian told me they knew how they were from a very childish age. If you don't have a problem with it, then that's upright, you shouldn't try to change her. maybe she might be going through a phase.
It may simply be a phase. I believe that it might have something to do beside her idolising her older sister to the extent that she wants to kiss girls.
I also have an elder sister, and went through the phase when I was around the same age. I'm seventeen immediately and realise that it simply was a phase, and I grew out of it after a period of a few months.
Sometimes young children are lately curious. She may feel uncomfortable around boys, or they may tease her.
This is why she may grain that she doesn't like them.
She's only 9, so it's likely that this is just a phase. But be thoroughly supportive, and let her know that how she feels is okay. And being gay is only just as healthy as being straight.
I don't think anything she says can be related to homosexuality and even if it did, there's nil you can do about it.
sorry, but psychology now believes that being gay is humour - not nurture.
They don't treat it. So even if you thought something was wrong, they don't treat sexuality.
I would let it go.
i find it Natural because she is at a young age she does not know however.and she is at the age where puberty comes in
My brother-in-law is homosexual and claims he has be since forever.I have no reason to doubt that, he has no explanation to lie, so maybe some people are born that method.not trying to be controversial, just telling my experience. I don't think it's wan, I would just be happy she has mood and the ability to love, whoever it is!
It's probably the result of being overexposed to the media and the crap kids see on TV today. We are adjectives victims.
Give it time, don't make a big deal of it.. and in reality, if she talks about it just say-so "oh" and maybe change the subject.
Healthy? Well, if it's the result of outside influence, it's not healthy. People are born gay, they of late don't wake up one day and say "gee, i have a sneaking suspicion that i will be gay today".
Maybe she is homosexual and maybe she's not. Some people will say that 9 is too youthful for her to know. But I'm not so sure. Many homosexual adults have reported knowing they were "different" from a very young at heart age. Just don't label her. Give her your love and support and let her decide on her own.
People make associations their entire lives, and some feel stronger impact when connecting the dots. Perhaps your daughter made romantic associations with girls because she feels more secure, comfortable and standard around women, thus creating a stronger sense for romanticism. It doesn't mean that she hasn't had good masculine role models around her, not at all, I just think that she have just perceived her contact with girls more appealing.
Sexuality nowadays is also exceedingly present in music videos, advertisements and TV and homosexuality is now (mostly) considered a normal thing. Today, any 9 year old( mostly) know that it's okay to be a homosexual, unlike 50 years ago ago.
She's also nine, this could also be just a phase, maybe she admires someone who's homosexual? Maybe one of her friends influenced her?
Then again, A lot of gay populace I know tell me they knew they were gay adjectives of their lives, and we hear these kinds of things all the time.
With time, things will be much clearer for her, since again, she's still very immature.
As health goes, loving a person and compassionate about another person's well being is never unhygienic, often the problem is the prejudice around homosexuals, people telling them their diseased, relations associating them with stereotypes, etc etc and all that pressure in the long run IS ill.
Continue being proud of your little girl, in the end, heterosexual or not, she'll be glowing and happy to know that it doesn't change a thing roughly speaking how her love ones view her.
I would say that she be born to be attracted to girls. This isn't something caused by anything. There is nothing wrong with it. You will be wasting your time trying to find answers as to why? Just soak up your kids.
She may be tomfoolery. Besides she may be too young to have those feelings to boys or girls.I wouldn't completely believe it all the same. If she really turns out to be that way, its nobody's fault.Some people are freshly born this way,actually more then 10% of population. And like mad of people hide it through whole their lives. It's really critical that you are open minded and will support her no matter what.
There's nothing wrong beside her. She is probably just a lesbian. Molestation has nothing to do near it, she was born this way.
At the age of 9, she is probably beginning puberty, which is natural. For reasons unkown to the rest of the world, some relatives really are attracted to the same sex. I am not one of those, but I have many masses friends that are, and I have questioned them several times. I have some friends who voice that they have been attracted to girls since they were 5. Others hold said they just choose to date girls because of the way they were treated until that time by men. Many say they try hard to be attracted to men, it just doesn't come to pass. I don't want to discourage you, because I think I would be devastated if my child was a homosexual, but I do understand that it is not your guiltiness. It is not because of any trauma, it is just a difference.
Side note, quite a few of my "chooser" friends, are married or busy to men. One of my friends who has been homosexual since she was contained by jr. high, is now pregnant and living with her boyfriend, and is completely cheery.
I guess the point of this babble is there is no cause of homosexuality, it is not scientifically proven that near is an actual brain difference, but there is also no scientific prof that there is no difference. We are adjectives wired differently, and as a Christian myself, God would not allow wrong things to feel love. I've seen the love some homosexuals have for one another - its not against God's will... it only can't be. Source(s): played on a stereo typical college softball team -- a good friend and investigator of the homosexual race.
You do know that there is a gay gene, right?
If she is gay, she be more than likely born that way.
Or she could just be attracted to girls, at lowest possible at this stage in her life. I know a lot of young-looking kids are sexually curious and go through different stages. It's healthy, as long as she's not doing something that put her in jeopardy.
And as some who is christian, I'm happy to see that you accept your daughter as who she is.Just let her grow and provide her lots of love and support.
Answers: In my educational psychology and child growth/development classes that I took in college we talked seriously about Freud and his different theories and other theorists as well... One of the things that I remember discussing in some classes be that of gender identity. (Not in the case of identify yourself as female or male, but it expands much greater than that.) Anyway, there is a stage children shift through, generally younger than 9-- but all children differ, where children do like/prefer their own sex contained by a deeper than friendship way. They get the butterflies and the wanting to be close to them during this stage. Sometimes children grow out of this, and sometimes this is where they first discover their true sexuality. If she doesn't grow out of the stage, consequently she may be a lesbian or bisexual. However, she is the only one who would know that answer. Source(s): Some college classes-- I am an elementary teacher.
She is 9 years-old. Young, and promising not the most confident kid in the world--most girls aren't at that age anyways. She probably feels comfortable around her girl friends and awkward around boys--it is only automatic that it would feel more right for her to want to "kiss" or hold hands with ethnic group she is comfortable with. Sometimes girls--and boys too--want to have stronger feelings for folks than they actually have to the point that they trick themselves into thinking they have them. And profoundly of things are mimic and copy. So kissing and such things fall into the realm of role-playing sometimes--just like pretending to be a favorite pop star or princess or a bride. And who do heaps girls like to play with? Other girls.
On the other hand, she could tremendously well be homosexual--or bisexual, which is more common for women. She hasn't quite hit puberty nonetheless, and will slowly be developing into being a young woman which is a long and difficult process in the essential future. She may wish to explore her sexual being and that may be more desirable next to another woman which is more comfortable and known territory for her. And the familiar can be fairly attractive.
Overall, I wouldn't be too worried. Sometimes it is just a stage in a girl's life and sometimes it isn't. Dating, romance, funny state of mind in her stomach--they are difficult things to deal with and a confusing time. Your brief is to help her through that. Homesexuality is a difficult thing for anyone to come to terms next to as a youth primarily because of societal norms. If anything, because you see this as a possibility, you could look perhaps into picking up some reading on how to be supportive of you daughter in such a situation.
You come across like a supportive father and so long as you don't put the idea that homosexuality is bad or anything into her director, I say just let her grow up a bit more and do business with things as they come.
All of the above. She may or may not grow out of it.
You have a brave girl on your hands. Encourage her and be here for her. She has a tough road ahead and will need your support.
One angle you can take is that you reflect boys are gross too. Well, we are.
Don't judge her yet. She is simply 9. Perhaps she really likes her friends and is just a loving kid. I don't think she have any sexual feelings, she's too young.
Why have this conversation beside her at such a young age? Keep her involved in activities and acquire the focus off of who she is attracted to.
You could also tell her that boys are nice. And she'll meet someone special. Perhaps she have heard that boys are bad - or something like that. But don't sticky label her yet. For goodness sake.
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