37 year aged daughter is still lying to me what would you do?
My daughter is 37, she exaggerates, lies...manipulates me (mom) I guess she thinks I am stupid, I know the lies she tells me at lowest most of them. She does this crap to get people to feel sorry for her, she does not verbs it on her husbands side of the family. She told me yesterday that the school transportation is cutting buses bad and that she is going to have to drive the kids to school, this is bullshit, I did some homework of my own and no this is not being done. They enjoy an illegal living with them, they make perfect money but yet have their 3 kids on assisted medical. She pulls so much crap on me, well she use to until I wised up and stopped it, but she still tries the ''oh whoa is me to return with sympathy from anyone she can" usually to get someone to watch her 3 kids, she does not work, and hates human being a mom, uses fowl language around the kids, husband drinks. I want to disown the whole bunch, I don't want to be around any of them...I know some of you will mention counseling, I am not going to do this, tried it before she does not switch. She takes all kinds of mediation's for this and that, smokes pot..what would you do?
i'd turn her in, that'll school her Source(s): <<has not tolerance for people who think they're above the tenet and milk the system
Go on the Jeremy Kyle show.
I'd acquire some assistance, from a professional. Your daughter isn't acting like a daughter at all.
Answers: No offense, but from your other question (and answers), you seem very angry, bitter and cynical. I'd love to hear your daughter's side of this story.
In any case, consent to the grandkids be your first priority and let your daughter live her life. And for heaven's sake, stop harping about illegals. If the "illegal" living contained by your daughter's house were a caring, loving, nanny you'd probably still have a fit, wouldn't you?
She's an adult. So are you. Let her live her life the way she see fit. Stop judging her. If she has someone living with her that you don't approve of, that's her business not yours. That should be the most minuscule of your worries. The fact that she hates being a mom, and that her husband drinks -- specifically much more worrisome.
If you want to see her kids, then see them. Sounds like they could use a positive influence. But when you see them, try not to diss their mom. Faults and all, it's their mom you're chitchat about, so leave your issues with her for a conversation between the two of you. It's not conversation for you and the grandkids.
Since you already reflect on she's going to manipulate you, then you don't have to consent to yourself be taken advantage of.
You can afford to step back from your relationship with your daughter. But if you can, try not to disown the kids.
There's nothing you can do to change her behavior, but you do have control over your own behavior. Call her out on lies, don't hand over her any money, and don't let her take advantage of you. And have said all that, love her anyway.
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i'd turn her in, that'll school her Source(s): <<has not tolerance for people who think they're above the tenet and milk the system
Go on the Jeremy Kyle show.
I'd acquire some assistance, from a professional. Your daughter isn't acting like a daughter at all.
Answers: No offense, but from your other question (and answers), you seem very angry, bitter and cynical. I'd love to hear your daughter's side of this story.
In any case, consent to the grandkids be your first priority and let your daughter live her life. And for heaven's sake, stop harping about illegals. If the "illegal" living contained by your daughter's house were a caring, loving, nanny you'd probably still have a fit, wouldn't you?
She's an adult. So are you. Let her live her life the way she see fit. Stop judging her. If she has someone living with her that you don't approve of, that's her business not yours. That should be the most minuscule of your worries. The fact that she hates being a mom, and that her husband drinks -- specifically much more worrisome.
If you want to see her kids, then see them. Sounds like they could use a positive influence. But when you see them, try not to diss their mom. Faults and all, it's their mom you're chitchat about, so leave your issues with her for a conversation between the two of you. It's not conversation for you and the grandkids.
Since you already reflect on she's going to manipulate you, then you don't have to consent to yourself be taken advantage of.
You can afford to step back from your relationship with your daughter. But if you can, try not to disown the kids.
There's nothing you can do to change her behavior, but you do have control over your own behavior. Call her out on lies, don't hand over her any money, and don't let her take advantage of you. And have said all that, love her anyway.
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