What is a respectable code of dress for a 7 yr dated girl?
My husband and I do not see eye to eye about how our daughter should be dressed when casually out and about. she is soaring for her age with big eyes and long hair and does turn some heads ( exotic people who meet her always comment just about her eyes) and she knows it. Before we set foot out the door she would sneak up and tap a lipstick. She knows we do not agree near this. However I don't mind her wearing legings and long but tight tops on. My husband thinks it is too revealing as it shows her bum / legs and is worried that she will attarct attention from the wong type of people and lead her to be too proud of her looks. Should I verbs and set the rules for her dress sence before its too late or are we just beeing too causious? Thanks for your aid.
Well its really not a big deal..im sure shes a really pretty kid BUT shes only seven so no ones going to be all over her you know? Even if shes towering people WILL be able to tell (or find out) that shes one and only seven!! You shouldn't be worried about that now!! Shes seven and leggings and tight long tops are in style!! So its emphatically appropriate for her to wear them. My little sister is eight and she wears stuff like that all the time! As for the lipstick...it probably make her feel grown up!! This is what u should do: Buy her CLEAR LIP GLOSSES or TINTED CHAP STICKS to wear! tintechap sticksks go on just resembling regular but she'll think that it has color! And the clealip glossss has shine beside zero color! She'll love it!! So until you r able to get the lipgloschap stickick put the lipstick on FOR her. weakly tap it on so its barely any color and LOOKS NATURAL! hope i helped. =)
i own 3 granddaughters 8 and 9 years old. Two are tom boys. One is a girly girl. She carefully selects her clothes, sock, shoes. Hair is any nicley brushed or in a pony tail. And, yes, sometimes a touch of lip gloss and perfume; and sometimes a little too short shorts for some peoples values. Do i assume every guy out here is a pervert checking out my granddaughter. No, that's paranoia.
The trick is to educate her in being past the worst. A pervert isn't necessarily turned on by the lip stick or shorts. Some my prefer the tom boy look. Maybe long hair or short hair. Maybe they prefer over weight kids or skinny kids. There is not a soul code of dress that will make a kid "safe". It's all in the coaching of the kid.
Answers: You have to walk a fine line when setting ground rules on clothing: you want your child to look respectable and appropriate for their age, but you also obligation to respect them as individuals and not unintentionally get them to be ashamed of their bodies. A good rule of thumb is the institution dress code...because if it isn't appropriate to wear to school, why should it be appropriate any where else?
I wouldn't worry almost lipstick, it's not that big a deal. Just don't buy her any that are inappropriate colors, such as bright red. She's obviously the mode of girl who likes these things...she needs to know she has authorization to be the person she is.
I would also not worry about her person "too proud of her looks". It's much better than being ashamed of your looks...look at how many girls these days own eating disorders because they are worried about the way they look. I'd be content to have a child with a good sense of self worth.
I ran into this problem with my husband and he explained it similar to this... when men are out in public and they see a flash of skin/tight clothes/red lips they(whether they plan to or not) take an extra look and next when they see it is a child -which a 7th grader is-they cringe, the problem is some don't cringe, some take a long look and some do worse... your daughter will be grown up soon enough.Right now you own to set the guidelines and teach her what is appropriate, which news flash is not going to be what "everyone else" is wearing. It is very knotty to find decent age appropriate clothes for young girls, but it is worth looking for. She can wear stylish clothes without person form fitting or too short or tight. If she wants to wear makeup let her have some clear make notes on.
Also, don't argue with your husband on this issue, you may see things differently but he knows what men infer about, that are looking at or seeing your daughter. Plus she will try to manipulate you to take her side bc she know you don't agree. You need to show a united front. It is not being against her, it is protecting her and hopefully education her that she doesn't have to use her body to get noticed or undesired attention. If she starts giving you a easier said than done time about making her dress presentable, tell her when she gets a duty or moves out she can buy her own clothes.
Good luck...
Bless you, kind soul!
I have a beautiful 7 year out-of-date daughter, and I'm also stuck between a rock and a hard place. My only problem is GRANDPARENTS!! (One says long skirts and dresses, one buys shorty shorts.) My husband and I agree on how our daughter should dress.
If she is already sneaking lipstick, next you already have problems. Not to sound like a downer, but she have already learned that she is beautiful, and is already trying to use it to her advantage. When it comes to children, you almost can't be too judicious. Your husband just wants to protect his baby girl.
YES, you involve to set ground rules now, but you also need to look at your own style of dress. I wear jeans and t-shirts all the time (due to where on earth I work) and rarely ever wear shorts. My daughter wears Capri's and shorts, some jeans, but we tell her up to that time we buy her anything where it is to be worn and when. (Example: She loves t-shirt material shorts, but those are only for surrounded by the house, not to town.)
If you wanna e-mail me, go ahead.
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Well its really not a big deal..im sure shes a really pretty kid BUT shes only seven so no ones going to be all over her you know? Even if shes towering people WILL be able to tell (or find out) that shes one and only seven!! You shouldn't be worried about that now!! Shes seven and leggings and tight long tops are in style!! So its emphatically appropriate for her to wear them. My little sister is eight and she wears stuff like that all the time! As for the lipstick...it probably make her feel grown up!! This is what u should do: Buy her CLEAR LIP GLOSSES or TINTED CHAP STICKS to wear! tintechap sticksks go on just resembling regular but she'll think that it has color! And the clealip glossss has shine beside zero color! She'll love it!! So until you r able to get the lipgloschap stickick put the lipstick on FOR her. weakly tap it on so its barely any color and LOOKS NATURAL! hope i helped. =)
i own 3 granddaughters 8 and 9 years old. Two are tom boys. One is a girly girl. She carefully selects her clothes, sock, shoes. Hair is any nicley brushed or in a pony tail. And, yes, sometimes a touch of lip gloss and perfume; and sometimes a little too short shorts for some peoples values. Do i assume every guy out here is a pervert checking out my granddaughter. No, that's paranoia.
The trick is to educate her in being past the worst. A pervert isn't necessarily turned on by the lip stick or shorts. Some my prefer the tom boy look. Maybe long hair or short hair. Maybe they prefer over weight kids or skinny kids. There is not a soul code of dress that will make a kid "safe". It's all in the coaching of the kid.
Answers: You have to walk a fine line when setting ground rules on clothing: you want your child to look respectable and appropriate for their age, but you also obligation to respect them as individuals and not unintentionally get them to be ashamed of their bodies. A good rule of thumb is the institution dress code...because if it isn't appropriate to wear to school, why should it be appropriate any where else?
I wouldn't worry almost lipstick, it's not that big a deal. Just don't buy her any that are inappropriate colors, such as bright red. She's obviously the mode of girl who likes these things...she needs to know she has authorization to be the person she is.
I would also not worry about her person "too proud of her looks". It's much better than being ashamed of your looks...look at how many girls these days own eating disorders because they are worried about the way they look. I'd be content to have a child with a good sense of self worth.
I ran into this problem with my husband and he explained it similar to this... when men are out in public and they see a flash of skin/tight clothes/red lips they(whether they plan to or not) take an extra look and next when they see it is a child -which a 7th grader is-they cringe, the problem is some don't cringe, some take a long look and some do worse... your daughter will be grown up soon enough.Right now you own to set the guidelines and teach her what is appropriate, which news flash is not going to be what "everyone else" is wearing. It is very knotty to find decent age appropriate clothes for young girls, but it is worth looking for. She can wear stylish clothes without person form fitting or too short or tight. If she wants to wear makeup let her have some clear make notes on.
Also, don't argue with your husband on this issue, you may see things differently but he knows what men infer about, that are looking at or seeing your daughter. Plus she will try to manipulate you to take her side bc she know you don't agree. You need to show a united front. It is not being against her, it is protecting her and hopefully education her that she doesn't have to use her body to get noticed or undesired attention. If she starts giving you a easier said than done time about making her dress presentable, tell her when she gets a duty or moves out she can buy her own clothes.
Good luck...
Bless you, kind soul!
I have a beautiful 7 year out-of-date daughter, and I'm also stuck between a rock and a hard place. My only problem is GRANDPARENTS!! (One says long skirts and dresses, one buys shorty shorts.) My husband and I agree on how our daughter should dress.
If she is already sneaking lipstick, next you already have problems. Not to sound like a downer, but she have already learned that she is beautiful, and is already trying to use it to her advantage. When it comes to children, you almost can't be too judicious. Your husband just wants to protect his baby girl.
YES, you involve to set ground rules now, but you also need to look at your own style of dress. I wear jeans and t-shirts all the time (due to where on earth I work) and rarely ever wear shorts. My daughter wears Capri's and shorts, some jeans, but we tell her up to that time we buy her anything where it is to be worn and when. (Example: She loves t-shirt material shorts, but those are only for surrounded by the house, not to town.)
If you wanna e-mail me, go ahead.
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