Do I choose my Child or Fiancee?
I was just told that my fiancee will be transferred to another state. My family is contained by NY but I am in SC and see my son every other weekend. He is 12. He lives with his remarried Father just 5 minutes away. I really love my son but I am afraid I lost that Motherly bond in the order of 8 years ago that said 'there is no way in hell I would go away my child for a man. I really don't have any support system here except my at work friends.
My fiancee and I have been together for three years. He pulled me out of the a run down house that I rented for cheap and presently I'm living in a $200,000 house. I had a 10 year old saloon that was on its last leg and now I hold a new one. He is my prince (sometimes grumpy) and love him unconditionally. He changed my life, he changed me as a person, and introduced me to worlds that I never know. I love my life now..
If I stay here he said that he would get me a used vehicle (where I be 3 yrs ago) and would help me find a place close to work which is an hour drive time from my son (where I was 3 years ago) but I won't have HIM. I would dance back to living paycheck to paycheck with no friends or family. (FYI- I am a true Libra- match and love)
If I go, I can get my son on his school breaks and a few weeks contained by the summer.
I can't sleep, can't eat and don't know which way to go.
your child
Talk to both your child and your fiancee about how you discern.
Where I'm at, If one of the parents moves, you change the schedule for visitation. Perhaps your child could come on his school breaks, or over the summers.
the child unless his smedrick is large
just kidding chose the child
Without a doubt your child.
Answers: ooo...tough christen...my instinct says stay with your child and that could be the best option but in opposition moving may just open up more opportunities for you and allow you to assist take better care of your son, such as a better job that will earn you more money to spend on his wishes and wants.at a glance it seems close to you will actually be able to spend MORE time with your son or at tiniest more days with him consecutively which is the better option in my personal view
so yes. move and get a good job to transport money to your child and stay in contact with him when he's not visiting, phone call, emails, IM's...whatever you have to do...
your child.
You shouldn't have to ask this Q. Your child should win a thousand times over and if a man puts you within this position then he really can't love and respect you that much..
If you were to leave your son for your Fiance, I wouldn't be surprised if you completely lose your son forever. I would not want to know a mother who moved out me for a man.
Please do whats right for your child and not what is right for you, you had to stop putting yourself first the moment you conceived your son.
That's the way it is.
I know the noticeable answer should be your child, and all these people that have already answered your press are right. But In the beginning of my twenties I chose the man, my son was very childish (2) and hasn't been a part of my life for the ending 8 years. He has lived with his father for the entire time. I did not see him more than once a year. I have slit my wrists, be to a psych ward, and am in therapy. All this because I chose the man.
Now that I am no longer with that man I tried to re-establish a relationship, but it have not worked. If you have been there for your son for this integral time, then you really need to discuss it with him. He will go and get to come see you and stay with you for the summer vacation and/or for holidays (other party willing), but also give attention to about what it might cost you. Your ex may get upset and fight you tooth and staple.
I can only try to better myself, now that I no longer have any type of bond next to my own son. Since your son is older he may understand and know that the life you be leading before this man was not fitting. So I say talk to your son be his mother, but also stay with your fiance'. If it is too scratchy to be away from your son than you can always move back.
I believe that you would be better bad choosing your son
There will always a prince charming no matter where you progress in life,but, there will lone be your one son
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My fiancee and I have been together for three years. He pulled me out of the a run down house that I rented for cheap and presently I'm living in a $200,000 house. I had a 10 year old saloon that was on its last leg and now I hold a new one. He is my prince (sometimes grumpy) and love him unconditionally. He changed my life, he changed me as a person, and introduced me to worlds that I never know. I love my life now..
If I stay here he said that he would get me a used vehicle (where I be 3 yrs ago) and would help me find a place close to work which is an hour drive time from my son (where I was 3 years ago) but I won't have HIM. I would dance back to living paycheck to paycheck with no friends or family. (FYI- I am a true Libra- match and love)
If I go, I can get my son on his school breaks and a few weeks contained by the summer.
I can't sleep, can't eat and don't know which way to go.
your child
Talk to both your child and your fiancee about how you discern.
Where I'm at, If one of the parents moves, you change the schedule for visitation. Perhaps your child could come on his school breaks, or over the summers.
the child unless his smedrick is large
just kidding chose the child
Without a doubt your child.
Answers: ooo...tough christen...my instinct says stay with your child and that could be the best option but in opposition moving may just open up more opportunities for you and allow you to assist take better care of your son, such as a better job that will earn you more money to spend on his wishes and wants.at a glance it seems close to you will actually be able to spend MORE time with your son or at tiniest more days with him consecutively which is the better option in my personal view
so yes. move and get a good job to transport money to your child and stay in contact with him when he's not visiting, phone call, emails, IM's...whatever you have to do...
your child.
You shouldn't have to ask this Q. Your child should win a thousand times over and if a man puts you within this position then he really can't love and respect you that much..
If you were to leave your son for your Fiance, I wouldn't be surprised if you completely lose your son forever. I would not want to know a mother who moved out me for a man.
Please do whats right for your child and not what is right for you, you had to stop putting yourself first the moment you conceived your son.
That's the way it is.
I know the noticeable answer should be your child, and all these people that have already answered your press are right. But In the beginning of my twenties I chose the man, my son was very childish (2) and hasn't been a part of my life for the ending 8 years. He has lived with his father for the entire time. I did not see him more than once a year. I have slit my wrists, be to a psych ward, and am in therapy. All this because I chose the man.
Now that I am no longer with that man I tried to re-establish a relationship, but it have not worked. If you have been there for your son for this integral time, then you really need to discuss it with him. He will go and get to come see you and stay with you for the summer vacation and/or for holidays (other party willing), but also give attention to about what it might cost you. Your ex may get upset and fight you tooth and staple.
I can only try to better myself, now that I no longer have any type of bond next to my own son. Since your son is older he may understand and know that the life you be leading before this man was not fitting. So I say talk to your son be his mother, but also stay with your fiance'. If it is too scratchy to be away from your son than you can always move back.
I believe that you would be better bad choosing your son
There will always a prince charming no matter where you progress in life,but, there will lone be your one son
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