Asked before - not plentiful answers.. NEED ADVICE PLEASE!!?
Me, my BF Jake, my best guy friend TJ and his GF Ashley (who is my BF’s best girl friend) all went to the beach over a weekend nearly 2 months ago. Anyway, the concluding night we all went out to a club a couple blocks from the hotel and this female was taking like 5 drinks back to her friends. She couldn’t hold them adjectives and she spilled them on me and TJ. We left our significant others there to come back to the room. I have had a headache all day anyway so I be just going to stay. TJ hadn’t wanted to go contained by the first place so he said he’d keep me company. Ashley and Jake said they’d be up there in a couple hours. On our mode up the elevator, a couple of vacationing families were going up too so me and TJ ended up scrunch face to face (or more like obverse to chest – he’s quite a bit taller).. We got off and go to the suite (it was a 2 bedroom). He went to his room to change and I go to mine. I put on my PJs (tank top and shorts). I came back out to the living room. He came out surrounded by shorts. I was lying on the couch. He tried to get me to move and let him sit down.. I wouldn’t seize up lol I told him to sit in the chair.. He told me he would just lay higher than me then. I told him to go ahead and he did! He laid down facing me. I laughed but he didn’t acquire up. We kissed. And kissed some more.. One thing led to another and soon he was carrying me to his room. We concluded up having sex. As bad as it was for us to do, it be the best I had ever had. So I go shower after and when I receive out Jake and Ashley are back. Neither of us said anything about it to them. We actually didn’t bring it up again. I quality horrible about doing it, but its done, and I didn’t want to ruin my relationship with Jake by bringing it up.. Except now I know things are going to own to come out because I found out Monday morning that I’m pregnant. It could only be TJ’s b/c Jake had a dirt bike accident when he be a teenager which caused him to be infertile. He can’t have kids. I wasn’t on birth control for this purpose. It never even crossed my mind when I was w/ TJ to use anything.. I told TJ about it yesterday and he’s happy to be a dad. Now we hold to tell Jake. I don’t know how to go about doing it though. TJ said he would oblige me break the news. He broke up w/ Ashley 3 weeks after we got back. She told Jake that TJ told her he have met someone else. I’m thinking that he was referring to me but I’m not sure. He hasn’t been on any dates since consequently. I care about Jake a lot but if TJ would want to be near me I would like to give it a shot. Not just for the babe-in-arms. I’m going to talk to him about it again. If he does want to try something, should I break up with Jake and afford him the same reason that TJ gave Ashley, that I met someone else? Or should I explain to him about the baby and everything? I don’t want to hurt him more than I have to and that would. Cause he wishes kids but can’t have them. If we split and go our separate ways, it isn’t likely I would see him b/c we live within the same city but on different sides.. So it’s a 30 minute drive to where he lives pretty much.. I don’t know what to do.. Should I try to work things out with Jake if TJ doesn’t want a relationship? If TJ does want to date, should I update Jake about the baby or just transmit him I’ve met someone else and spare him the details?? I need advice please..
And please don’t answer if you’re going to be mean. Don’t comment on me as a human being, because I know I cheated and I know it was wrong. Don’t call me a slut or a whore either. You don’t know me so you can’t mediate..
Yes, you should break up with Jake. Clearly, you're unwary for a monogamous relationship - at least not with him. If you were really surrounded by love, then you wouldn't have messed around with TJ. And the conclusion to break it off with Jake should have zilch to do with whatever relationship you have beside TJ, other than the one event. Have enough respect for yourself and for Jake to do the right thing and close one relationship before you begin another.
Besides that, chances are he'll break up near you, once he hears the truth.
Working things out with TJ is something you should try if you're interested in person with TJ. Don't do it just because he's the baby's father...you can both be good parents, lacking trying to be with each other.
The Trolls are getting more creative at least.
Answers: There are no good answers. Cause and effect! Fess up and go on with your duration, what else is there to do?
Well this all sounds a bit silly, really.
You be dabbling in monogamy and that didn't seem to work out for you. There's openly something not all there with your relationship to Jake. You're not unavailable or married, so you have no real obligation to him immediately that you've already betrayed him. It sounds like you really want to be with TJ. I think you know what to do. You've already betrayed Jake so why stay near him when the dishonesty is only breaking your heart? He's going to find out about everything one way or another, so you should share him the absolute truth. He'll be hurt, but what's done is done. Hiding from it is no longer an option.
You'd better not be trolling. If you are... two points.
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And please don’t answer if you’re going to be mean. Don’t comment on me as a human being, because I know I cheated and I know it was wrong. Don’t call me a slut or a whore either. You don’t know me so you can’t mediate..
Yes, you should break up with Jake. Clearly, you're unwary for a monogamous relationship - at least not with him. If you were really surrounded by love, then you wouldn't have messed around with TJ. And the conclusion to break it off with Jake should have zilch to do with whatever relationship you have beside TJ, other than the one event. Have enough respect for yourself and for Jake to do the right thing and close one relationship before you begin another.
Besides that, chances are he'll break up near you, once he hears the truth.
Working things out with TJ is something you should try if you're interested in person with TJ. Don't do it just because he's the baby's father...you can both be good parents, lacking trying to be with each other.
The Trolls are getting more creative at least.
Answers: There are no good answers. Cause and effect! Fess up and go on with your duration, what else is there to do?
Well this all sounds a bit silly, really.
You be dabbling in monogamy and that didn't seem to work out for you. There's openly something not all there with your relationship to Jake. You're not unavailable or married, so you have no real obligation to him immediately that you've already betrayed him. It sounds like you really want to be with TJ. I think you know what to do. You've already betrayed Jake so why stay near him when the dishonesty is only breaking your heart? He's going to find out about everything one way or another, so you should share him the absolute truth. He'll be hurt, but what's done is done. Hiding from it is no longer an option.
You'd better not be trolling. If you are... two points.
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