When would be the right time to make clear to her.?
My daughter, Bella, is not really my husband's. I started to see him when I was four months pregnant.
He has always be her "daddy'. His name is on the birth certificate.
But I know we will have to make clear to her someday.
When is the "right" time? How should we tell her? He's all for not telling her. I construe we should...Opinions?
you definieley should because one day she'll find out and be mad at one or both of you.I would tell her little things at an rash age "a daddy is someone who takes care of a kid" "jim (example) takes attention to detail of you like a daddy" or something so it's not a total shock but not too much if she's too little. It's the same as the adoption questions...when and how do you relate them...I know I would want to know, "you get the kid you get in time, but your daddy picked you special"!!
Hi, my mum met my step father when i was 6months old and i other thought he was my dad then mum and my step dad who i still call dad, sit me down at 11 years old and told me, dads not my real father, i was so upset i run away but now looking back i understand and i'm bright and breezy that my parents were honest to me, I have contacted my real father and we no long speak but it made me realise how much i took for granted near my step father, he was alway there for me and when i was born i be very sick and didnt come out of hospital til i was 8mths old. He still loves me similar to hes own and im grateful for that!
I would tell your child but at a time when you think she or he is ready!
There will be lots of question but be honest and dont be scare if she wants to find her real father cos contained by the end she will always have her mother to chitchat to?? With my parents telling me the truth has made me a strong person towards my parents.
Good Luck and things will find easier for you!
I have this same issue. I met my husband when my daughter be 5 months, but he has always been "daddy".
She is 6 in a minute, and this is what I told her. "Daddy didn't help mommy make you. Another man did. His name is Mike, but he didn't want to be a daddy. He wasn't a awfully nice man, and I wanted the BEST daddy for you. Your daddy now loves you more then anything. He choose to be your daddy, and that's totally, very special.'
I also pulled out some old pictures of her biological father. She laughed because his boxers be showing in the pictures. She now understands that she be made by someone else, but that her daddy now loves her just the same.
Someone notice she had a different last name and ask her once if her sister and her have the same dad, and she said "yes!" lol, because to her, he will always be her daddy.
Just say something on the lines that I did when she is going on for 4-5. Make it simple and say "he didn't help mommy make you, but he needed to be your daddy anyways." And keep it simple.
One more thing, this may bring up the question "how do babies go and get in your tummy?" Because this is what my daughter asked. I said "When a mommy and daddy love eachother, they ask God for a baby. Sometimes though, when the baby comes, the mommy or daddy can't hold care of the baby anymore, and have to bestow the baby away, or not be around anymore."
Good luck, It's a big issue, but it's importnant to be honest.
well first of all, your twins are so beautiful!!
but idk i am kinda stumped on this, i'm kinda thinking that yall shouldnt speak about her b/c he has always been her daddy and that would only just upset her and make her wanna find her real father one day...
but i know that isnt the right entity to do, the right thing to do would be to tell her.
if you do choose to tell her, i would dally a while. b/c she definitely won't understand right now at age 4.
and trademark sure to tell her that regardless who her father is, your husband is still her "daddy" and he loves her like she is his own and he has raise her all her life.
Answers: My father had a framed embroidered quote on the wall above his dresser. My youngest sister was adopted. But what be on that wall was reflection of the truth: "Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy".
So, within saying that...don't worry about when it's time to report her. Maybe the only time to actually tell her is if she have a medical condition where her health history is in examine. But if her biological father has absolutely NOTHING to do with her, later her you know the answer to that one...she has her daddy.
TELL HER! Im 12...and I have a brother, and all my existence I thought my brother and i were both full brother and sister...but i was wrong we have equal mom but different dad...and when I found out i had to do it on my own...like no one told me at adjectives thats why i just found out like a yr. ago. My bro's dad came and i didnt really know him, long story.in good health thats when i started getting suspicious. Trust me i felt sad knowing i was living a not tell the truth between my bro and I for all my life. I was upset..they should be lucky I wasnt cracked because another girl probably would.just make the right choice and tell her. Its best for adjectives..There isnt a reason to keep her real father a underground. Source(s): Ive been through it..sorta..
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He has always be her "daddy'. His name is on the birth certificate.
But I know we will have to make clear to her someday.
When is the "right" time? How should we tell her? He's all for not telling her. I construe we should...Opinions?
you definieley should because one day she'll find out and be mad at one or both of you.I would tell her little things at an rash age "a daddy is someone who takes care of a kid" "jim (example) takes attention to detail of you like a daddy" or something so it's not a total shock but not too much if she's too little. It's the same as the adoption questions...when and how do you relate them...I know I would want to know, "you get the kid you get in time, but your daddy picked you special"!!
Hi, my mum met my step father when i was 6months old and i other thought he was my dad then mum and my step dad who i still call dad, sit me down at 11 years old and told me, dads not my real father, i was so upset i run away but now looking back i understand and i'm bright and breezy that my parents were honest to me, I have contacted my real father and we no long speak but it made me realise how much i took for granted near my step father, he was alway there for me and when i was born i be very sick and didnt come out of hospital til i was 8mths old. He still loves me similar to hes own and im grateful for that!
I would tell your child but at a time when you think she or he is ready!
There will be lots of question but be honest and dont be scare if she wants to find her real father cos contained by the end she will always have her mother to chitchat to?? With my parents telling me the truth has made me a strong person towards my parents.
Good Luck and things will find easier for you!
I have this same issue. I met my husband when my daughter be 5 months, but he has always been "daddy".
She is 6 in a minute, and this is what I told her. "Daddy didn't help mommy make you. Another man did. His name is Mike, but he didn't want to be a daddy. He wasn't a awfully nice man, and I wanted the BEST daddy for you. Your daddy now loves you more then anything. He choose to be your daddy, and that's totally, very special.'
I also pulled out some old pictures of her biological father. She laughed because his boxers be showing in the pictures. She now understands that she be made by someone else, but that her daddy now loves her just the same.
Someone notice she had a different last name and ask her once if her sister and her have the same dad, and she said "yes!" lol, because to her, he will always be her daddy.
Just say something on the lines that I did when she is going on for 4-5. Make it simple and say "he didn't help mommy make you, but he needed to be your daddy anyways." And keep it simple.
One more thing, this may bring up the question "how do babies go and get in your tummy?" Because this is what my daughter asked. I said "When a mommy and daddy love eachother, they ask God for a baby. Sometimes though, when the baby comes, the mommy or daddy can't hold care of the baby anymore, and have to bestow the baby away, or not be around anymore."
Good luck, It's a big issue, but it's importnant to be honest.
well first of all, your twins are so beautiful!!
but idk i am kinda stumped on this, i'm kinda thinking that yall shouldnt speak about her b/c he has always been her daddy and that would only just upset her and make her wanna find her real father one day...
but i know that isnt the right entity to do, the right thing to do would be to tell her.
if you do choose to tell her, i would dally a while. b/c she definitely won't understand right now at age 4.
and trademark sure to tell her that regardless who her father is, your husband is still her "daddy" and he loves her like she is his own and he has raise her all her life.
Answers: My father had a framed embroidered quote on the wall above his dresser. My youngest sister was adopted. But what be on that wall was reflection of the truth: "Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy".
So, within saying that...don't worry about when it's time to report her. Maybe the only time to actually tell her is if she have a medical condition where her health history is in examine. But if her biological father has absolutely NOTHING to do with her, later her you know the answer to that one...she has her daddy.
TELL HER! Im 12...and I have a brother, and all my existence I thought my brother and i were both full brother and sister...but i was wrong we have equal mom but different dad...and when I found out i had to do it on my own...like no one told me at adjectives thats why i just found out like a yr. ago. My bro's dad came and i didnt really know him, long story.in good health thats when i started getting suspicious. Trust me i felt sad knowing i was living a not tell the truth between my bro and I for all my life. I was upset..they should be lucky I wasnt cracked because another girl probably would.just make the right choice and tell her. Its best for adjectives..There isnt a reason to keep her real father a underground. Source(s): Ive been through it..sorta..
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