Am I ridiculous for wanting a kid?
I know this is ridiculous but I am 18 and I have been with my bf since I be 12 and I really really want to have a baby. he wants to dally but he also wants one now. I raised my five year infirm brother so I know what a baby can do. I have always considered necessary to be a young mom. My mom was 17 when she had me. I graduate high school I am going to college at Paul Mitchell. I don't think that me have a baby would deter that. I am not one of those teenage girls who think that will hold my bf around honestly I would love for him to be there but if not then its his loss. I hold a stable job. My mom was there when I thought I be pregnant she supported me. When I found out I wasn't I cried. tell me if I am wrong but I really want to have a baby I am in position.
yea skulk
IMO you should linger until you have finished college, then you have the guarantee of that degree under your belt. Also I think that it would be extremely tough to bring to the fore a baby alone, and if you have any complications then you don't know how long you could be inept to work, if you're in a relationship then you'd have support on both these things, both within rasining your child and financially to be able to spend time with him/her.
Yes, you are nuts for wanting a baby.
'Wanting' one , and actually being in position for one are two completely different things, and from what I'm reading, I do not see a single reason as to how you are ready.
For starters you don't even know if your partner is going to stay with you.
If you intentionally bring a child into this world FULLY anyone aware of that, that makes you a terribly selfish entity.
You raised your brother?? Did you go out and buy a house and have him move surrounded by? Did you do the grocery shopping? Did you pay the bills? Can you even drive?
Sounds like you just did a bit of infant sitting. Not child raising.
If you don't have a well-paying job, don't own a baby. And I'm not talking waitressing, or 12 dollars an hour. Kids are expensive. You have to provide for their every requirement. when you raised your brother, your parents paid for everything.
and that is why nearby is a cycle of poverty in this country.
Answers: The problem is, you are going to have a very busy 4 years ahead of you.
College consumes a lot more of your existence then high school, you are gonna own to study for hours every day. And sense you can't have a baby on campus, you will enjoy to get an apartment. On top of school and taking care of the infant, you are gonna have to go to work. On top of that, you will have to settle up day cares to look after your baby while you are at academy.
Almost all of your free time will be consumed by your baby, so that means that you are going to miss out on deeply of college experiences.
Its just a really bad time to have a toddler right now. It is going to make your life incredibly stressful.
You're not going to walk to college full time and take care of a baby, extent...Or, at least, you'll fail miserably in college if you try that.
Wait until after college.
Yep...you're wrong. Go out and enjoy your young-looking life. Get your education and put some money aside so that you can raise your child lacking anyone else's support. It's not fair to expect your mother to change her life because you want a toddler when you are not financially, physically or emotionally ready.
You have your whole life to do anything you want, but planning is the key to success! Try to wait until you finish college, it is an insatiable hunch that a woman has to be a mother! I had to fight it for so long as capably I remember just dying to be a mother at sixteen but I knew it was not a obedient plan for my future! I am now 21 and pregnant, I am very excited but exceedingly scared at the same time because you have to match everything on one plate, I am glad I finished college b/c without a baby it was knotty enough to pass while working full time and attending classes full time! Just enjoy the freedom you own now and have fun then when you graduate own the stork visit!
good luck and I hope my answer helps you desire! Source(s): Life
You're not ridiculous at all. Some girls enjoy their "biological clock" hit a little earlier than usual. The best thing to do, however, is to finish up your coaching, find yourself a stable HOME (not just a dinky apartment on the crappy end of town, but a home you can say "Hey, I can incline a family here!"), and talk it out with your boyfriend to determine an appropriate time.
And as for citizens telling you you're not going to be able to go to academy, or you'll fail, BS to that. I'm pregnant and a full time honors student. My friends that already have kids, or are pregnant, are also full time honors students pursuing difficult degrees. It's not impossible, it only just takes some finesse.
Can't say your are ridiculous because i don't know you and I am only answering your grill online. Considering your circumstances, personally, I would recommend that you do not have a baby. I am sure your love for your boyfriend is legitimate, however I just think that you are too young to hold a kid. You only have so much time to be young, free, and find yourself as a human being. This usually takes people some time to do this (late 20's). Just ask yourself...is there something to be exact a goal or dream of mine that I could do in 5 or 10 years that I would not be able to do because of my desire to enjoy a child? It's your decision and not my position to tell you what to do, just thought I'd furnish my two cents. Good luck on whatever you decide to do!
omg.ur 18 year old u have penty of time to enjoy a baby.please at least while till ur out of college.college is a serious thing and u hav to put that tot first...so u could hav a test one day but if that baby get sick that baby cums first..dont complicate ur life rite now..please trust me
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yea skulk
IMO you should linger until you have finished college, then you have the guarantee of that degree under your belt. Also I think that it would be extremely tough to bring to the fore a baby alone, and if you have any complications then you don't know how long you could be inept to work, if you're in a relationship then you'd have support on both these things, both within rasining your child and financially to be able to spend time with him/her.
Yes, you are nuts for wanting a baby.
'Wanting' one , and actually being in position for one are two completely different things, and from what I'm reading, I do not see a single reason as to how you are ready.
For starters you don't even know if your partner is going to stay with you.
If you intentionally bring a child into this world FULLY anyone aware of that, that makes you a terribly selfish entity.
You raised your brother?? Did you go out and buy a house and have him move surrounded by? Did you do the grocery shopping? Did you pay the bills? Can you even drive?
Sounds like you just did a bit of infant sitting. Not child raising.
If you don't have a well-paying job, don't own a baby. And I'm not talking waitressing, or 12 dollars an hour. Kids are expensive. You have to provide for their every requirement. when you raised your brother, your parents paid for everything.
and that is why nearby is a cycle of poverty in this country.
Answers: The problem is, you are going to have a very busy 4 years ahead of you.
College consumes a lot more of your existence then high school, you are gonna own to study for hours every day. And sense you can't have a baby on campus, you will enjoy to get an apartment. On top of school and taking care of the infant, you are gonna have to go to work. On top of that, you will have to settle up day cares to look after your baby while you are at academy.
Almost all of your free time will be consumed by your baby, so that means that you are going to miss out on deeply of college experiences.
Its just a really bad time to have a toddler right now. It is going to make your life incredibly stressful.
You're not going to walk to college full time and take care of a baby, extent...Or, at least, you'll fail miserably in college if you try that.
Wait until after college.
Yep...you're wrong. Go out and enjoy your young-looking life. Get your education and put some money aside so that you can raise your child lacking anyone else's support. It's not fair to expect your mother to change her life because you want a toddler when you are not financially, physically or emotionally ready.
You have your whole life to do anything you want, but planning is the key to success! Try to wait until you finish college, it is an insatiable hunch that a woman has to be a mother! I had to fight it for so long as capably I remember just dying to be a mother at sixteen but I knew it was not a obedient plan for my future! I am now 21 and pregnant, I am very excited but exceedingly scared at the same time because you have to match everything on one plate, I am glad I finished college b/c without a baby it was knotty enough to pass while working full time and attending classes full time! Just enjoy the freedom you own now and have fun then when you graduate own the stork visit!
good luck and I hope my answer helps you desire! Source(s): Life
You're not ridiculous at all. Some girls enjoy their "biological clock" hit a little earlier than usual. The best thing to do, however, is to finish up your coaching, find yourself a stable HOME (not just a dinky apartment on the crappy end of town, but a home you can say "Hey, I can incline a family here!"), and talk it out with your boyfriend to determine an appropriate time.
And as for citizens telling you you're not going to be able to go to academy, or you'll fail, BS to that. I'm pregnant and a full time honors student. My friends that already have kids, or are pregnant, are also full time honors students pursuing difficult degrees. It's not impossible, it only just takes some finesse.
Can't say your are ridiculous because i don't know you and I am only answering your grill online. Considering your circumstances, personally, I would recommend that you do not have a baby. I am sure your love for your boyfriend is legitimate, however I just think that you are too young to hold a kid. You only have so much time to be young, free, and find yourself as a human being. This usually takes people some time to do this (late 20's). Just ask yourself...is there something to be exact a goal or dream of mine that I could do in 5 or 10 years that I would not be able to do because of my desire to enjoy a child? It's your decision and not my position to tell you what to do, just thought I'd furnish my two cents. Good luck on whatever you decide to do!
omg.ur 18 year old u have penty of time to enjoy a baby.please at least while till ur out of college.college is a serious thing and u hav to put that tot first...so u could hav a test one day but if that baby get sick that baby cums first..dont complicate ur life rite now..please trust me
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