Is what i am doing morally right?
I've been with my girlfriend for 8 years. I tell her I love her, hold her close, hold her hand, kiss her daily, tell her sweet things, and treat her like a princess. I am not really in love with her though. Me and her have kids and I wouldn't mind supporting our children. She believes that I love her. I don't really love her. This way, I can have unlimited night stands with her. I never fell in love with her during our whole relationship. Is what I am doing morally right?
I know t6he feeling. Im in a relationship like that right now. was a one night stand that never left. She does the world for me but, im just really not in love with her though i tell her i am and shes absolutely commited to me. I dont have kids with her cause i dont think i could but, its a hard life living this way. my chick lives with me, she covers my *** and shes the most down girl ive ever known, but, i just dont love her. I wish i could. might be a looks thing. if she were at least a 7 instead of a 4 id marry her but shes not. So, is it morally wrong. No. But you have kids with her and its a choice you have to make one day. take care of your kids, pay child support or continue to suffer through till they turn 18. People do it everyday. BUT i will say, dont cheat on her. Take the sex and the "one night stands" as they come, but stay true to yourself. Life doesnt always hand you what you want but, it hands you what you need. Do you need her? If so, play the course, if not, let it go and do your own thing. Let her do HER own thing, like living her life. I wouldnt say keepoing her in limbo is cool.
Totally wrong. It's wrong because you don't treat her well because you love her, you treat her well because you want to have sleep with her. You're kind of like a rapist playing the long game.
You have stolen eight years from her and made her life into a lie, and she doesn't even realise it. You are using her for sex and she deserves to know so that she can be with someone who truly loves and appreciate her.
To be honest, I don't often say this, but you're the kind of person I would like to see mangled in a car crash. I hope she leaves you and you never find love.
this is being selfish actually.. but u have rights to treat ppl like this. anyway, what if one day u might find someone u really fall in love? what now? be fair
Whats wrong or right really depends upon ther person. In my personal opinion, you are playing with her feeling, and thus wrong. I would take her out somewhere really peaceful, explain her the situation and tell her that you´ll take care of your children, she´ll be hurt, but you 2 wont be living a lie
It's not morally wrong, it's just wrong to yourself. In life, you should seek what makes you happiest! But morally- it's brilliant. You've supported your children and have stood by her. It's a just a matter of self-joy. Good luck.
Depends on your morals. But to me,they don't come close to being right. You're leading her on,and that isn't fair to her. Kids or no kids,she has the right as a human being to be told the truth and to have someone truly love her.
Aren't you the one who asked this a few weeks ago?
Give it a rest.If you have to even ask you already know that it is wrong.Get over yourself.
It sounds like what you are doing here is unfair to you and her both.
Are you and her happy?
You should search your heart for your answer. Listen to your heart.
That is where God speaks to you. So, be quiet, and listen close. That is where you will get your best guidance.
God's blessings!
Personally, I don't think so. By telling you you love her even though you don't, you're lying to her. But worse, you're making her fall even more in love with you, and if you finally decide to leave her (which you probably will, I mean, no one could expect you to stay with a person you're not in love with for long) you're going to make her hurt a lot more than you think.
So no, it's not right.
No way, no how. Have a gf of 8 yrs & don't love her and screw other people and you have children.
What a jerk you are!
You have 2 choices: either stay with gf & kids or QUIT SCREWING OTHER PEOPLE!
yes this is pretty horrible, youre lying to someone close to you.
your girlfriend probably feels amazing to have someone to love her, but it actully isnt even real
This is an opinion question, and imho, no, what you're doing isn't right. You're stringing her along..no matter how well you treat her that's still a terrible thing to do. And lying is a complete other story..
I don't think it's immoral exactly, if you have been committed to her and stood by her no it's not immoral. However, are you sure you have a heart? I mean, psychopaths aren't always murders, sometimes they're just normal, only missing emotions.
This should be a no brainer.
You're lying to her and manipulating her just to get laid. And you're lying to your children.
What do you think?
nope
Well what do you think? That's a pretty horrible thing to lead someone on like that.
Answers: If you are leading her on but plan on leaving her one day while all along you know you are lying, yes its wrong.
If you want to spend more years together, raising your kids and being with her, enjoying your time. I don't think its wrong. Although in a way you are just using the relationship for sex.. giving her the love and support she craves isn't you 'using' after all.
In these situations you have to guide by your own lights. Think of your future with your girlfriend, but first your kids. If you feel you can go on this way and have a loving stable environment for your kids, that's great. But don't try to force it if you two cant.
No, it is not morally right.
So you are lying and using her.
that's mean... :/ hmm. try to fall in love with her :O just try and do abunch of stuff.. :/ TRY TRY TRY ! :Otry all you got !
maybe you guys are just best friends who have made it a relationship.. maybe talk to her about it and tell her you love your children but the relationship is not what you thought it was going to be.. communication between you guys could ultimatly result in a better outcome
no its not ur just hurting her when you do eventually leave her because she believes u love her
I would say no. It seems a bit unfair to your girlfriend and most importantly, children.
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I know t6he feeling. Im in a relationship like that right now. was a one night stand that never left. She does the world for me but, im just really not in love with her though i tell her i am and shes absolutely commited to me. I dont have kids with her cause i dont think i could but, its a hard life living this way. my chick lives with me, she covers my *** and shes the most down girl ive ever known, but, i just dont love her. I wish i could. might be a looks thing. if she were at least a 7 instead of a 4 id marry her but shes not. So, is it morally wrong. No. But you have kids with her and its a choice you have to make one day. take care of your kids, pay child support or continue to suffer through till they turn 18. People do it everyday. BUT i will say, dont cheat on her. Take the sex and the "one night stands" as they come, but stay true to yourself. Life doesnt always hand you what you want but, it hands you what you need. Do you need her? If so, play the course, if not, let it go and do your own thing. Let her do HER own thing, like living her life. I wouldnt say keepoing her in limbo is cool.
Totally wrong. It's wrong because you don't treat her well because you love her, you treat her well because you want to have sleep with her. You're kind of like a rapist playing the long game.
You have stolen eight years from her and made her life into a lie, and she doesn't even realise it. You are using her for sex and she deserves to know so that she can be with someone who truly loves and appreciate her.
To be honest, I don't often say this, but you're the kind of person I would like to see mangled in a car crash. I hope she leaves you and you never find love.
this is being selfish actually.. but u have rights to treat ppl like this. anyway, what if one day u might find someone u really fall in love? what now? be fair
Whats wrong or right really depends upon ther person. In my personal opinion, you are playing with her feeling, and thus wrong. I would take her out somewhere really peaceful, explain her the situation and tell her that you´ll take care of your children, she´ll be hurt, but you 2 wont be living a lie
It's not morally wrong, it's just wrong to yourself. In life, you should seek what makes you happiest! But morally- it's brilliant. You've supported your children and have stood by her. It's a just a matter of self-joy. Good luck.
Depends on your morals. But to me,they don't come close to being right. You're leading her on,and that isn't fair to her. Kids or no kids,she has the right as a human being to be told the truth and to have someone truly love her.
Aren't you the one who asked this a few weeks ago?
Give it a rest.If you have to even ask you already know that it is wrong.Get over yourself.
It sounds like what you are doing here is unfair to you and her both.
Are you and her happy?
You should search your heart for your answer. Listen to your heart.
That is where God speaks to you. So, be quiet, and listen close. That is where you will get your best guidance.
God's blessings!
Personally, I don't think so. By telling you you love her even though you don't, you're lying to her. But worse, you're making her fall even more in love with you, and if you finally decide to leave her (which you probably will, I mean, no one could expect you to stay with a person you're not in love with for long) you're going to make her hurt a lot more than you think.
So no, it's not right.
No way, no how. Have a gf of 8 yrs & don't love her and screw other people and you have children.
What a jerk you are!
You have 2 choices: either stay with gf & kids or QUIT SCREWING OTHER PEOPLE!
yes this is pretty horrible, youre lying to someone close to you.
your girlfriend probably feels amazing to have someone to love her, but it actully isnt even real
This is an opinion question, and imho, no, what you're doing isn't right. You're stringing her along..no matter how well you treat her that's still a terrible thing to do. And lying is a complete other story..
I don't think it's immoral exactly, if you have been committed to her and stood by her no it's not immoral. However, are you sure you have a heart? I mean, psychopaths aren't always murders, sometimes they're just normal, only missing emotions.
This should be a no brainer.
You're lying to her and manipulating her just to get laid. And you're lying to your children.
What do you think?
nope
Well what do you think? That's a pretty horrible thing to lead someone on like that.
Answers: If you are leading her on but plan on leaving her one day while all along you know you are lying, yes its wrong.
If you want to spend more years together, raising your kids and being with her, enjoying your time. I don't think its wrong. Although in a way you are just using the relationship for sex.. giving her the love and support she craves isn't you 'using' after all.
In these situations you have to guide by your own lights. Think of your future with your girlfriend, but first your kids. If you feel you can go on this way and have a loving stable environment for your kids, that's great. But don't try to force it if you two cant.
No, it is not morally right.
So you are lying and using her.
that's mean... :/ hmm. try to fall in love with her :O just try and do abunch of stuff.. :/ TRY TRY TRY ! :Otry all you got !
maybe you guys are just best friends who have made it a relationship.. maybe talk to her about it and tell her you love your children but the relationship is not what you thought it was going to be.. communication between you guys could ultimatly result in a better outcome
no its not ur just hurting her when you do eventually leave her because she believes u love her
I would say no. It seems a bit unfair to your girlfriend and most importantly, children.
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