Is it "uncool" to WANT to be a stay-at-home mom?
I am 26 and pregnant with my first. I have a career very soon, but am planning on staying home once the little one comes.
But it seems all the pregnant girls or new mothers I bump into make it a point to tell me how motherhood doesn't mark out them, and how they want to go back to work sooo bad. That they want to "own a purpose" other than "just" being a mom. And the whole newborn thing seems to be a inconvenience to their real energy.
To each her own. But I'm curious to know if this is common for the women of my age group, or is it just the women I seem to be to be meeting?
FYI - None of my close friends are pregnant or new moms, so I'm trying to make some friends who are.
dont do it,, so when their 10 your gonna have to eventually work again...dnt stay out, yeah consequences and stuff happen but its gotta surface.
dont stop your life. the people i know who were stay at home moms, their husbands get pissed, moms were lazy [but goodd moms to say the least]...and the moms looked-for to work but it was more difficult becuase you need to start all over again. its 20 times harder next.
its how dependable your husband is, but when he loses his job,, whats the income till he gets another.. u have no fallbacks. remember reduction is bad.
Acually it might be a good point if you stay at home with you baby when it is born. Because after your baby is born you might own alot of stress! And having work stress and baby stress.. It will make you probably walk nuts!
Is it "uncool" to WANT to be a stay-at-home mom?
To that I voice that you are way to grown up to be thinking that. Also, that you are so wrapped into society that you go to babyfreefaq.com in instruct to feel that your not alone. Like a guy wearing pink to prom, unless someone else is doing it he won't do it. You following me.
To each her own. But I'm curious to know if this is common for the women of my age group, or is it lately the women I seem to be meeting?
You probably should be a stay at home mom. I mean if that's how your close to, but I think all moms should until their kids enter middle school or even big school. Kids need their parents to be there. WTF is taking place that moms don't want to stay with their kids. Its too stressful to do 2 jobs at once.
Sorry long answer
I couldn't really care any less if it's not cool.
I plan on staying home with my kid and loving her. the only reason i would really go to work is if we really needed the money.
They're adjectives feminists and think they need to prove to men that they can keep working and spend a devout chunk of what they make on child care. I think the together feminist thing is stupid. If your man is willing to take nurture of you and let you stay at home with your child, why let some babysitter elevate the kid while you go prove how independent you are? (btw, most men like to be able to lift care of their girl, not feel worthless because their girl wants to show how she doesn't really necessitate him)
If you want to stay at home with your child, go for it. I think it would be massively rewarding :)
Edit: Don't listen to this "you're gonna have to work again" crap. If your husband will let you stay home and if you plan on having more kids, who care if you leave the workforce?
ugh the feminazis :/ i think it's great to be a stay at home mom, i be raised with my mom being at home adjectives the time and when i have a little one, he/she will have me home at adjectives times as well, until they're in school adjectives day, i refuse to have another creature ((daycare, babysitter, etc)) raise my child, i have friends who never had their mom around and their first words be spoken to a babysitter who they thought was their mom :/ i think if you're smart about it, you'll do great :) stay at home moms rule :D
not at all..in fact man a stay at home mom can and is sometimes way more work physically and emmotionally than a real job. Also it's angelic for the kid or kids to have one parent around so they can feel more secure. My fiance is a stay at home mom and i envy her for what she does. I own watched our son many times and to tell you the truth it can be harder work than my physical labor mission. my fiance is 24..it just depends on your financial status...she is taking online classes at the same time but when she is done she is going to be a teacher. Having spent the time that she have with our son will pay off big for him.
I think that is wonderful if you want to! I am merely about to graduate college and I am very career orient, but I also am torn on whether or not I would want to stay at home and care for my baby full-time or even let the dad be a stay at home Dad (assuming I bring back pregnant any time soon) ;)
We women kind of have a "luxury" of being competent to choose if we want to be a mom full-time or have a career. If a man insisted that he wanted to be a stay-at home dad when he grew up and have kids, people would call him a bum and say "polite luck getting a wife who will do that." Nowadays most people have the reaction that wanting to be a stay a stay at home mom is "lazy" as okay, or "falling into our social stereotype." In fact, this issue is YOURS and your husband's. No one can tell you what is right or wrong, and if you husband wants to and is likely to provide for you to stay home, then do it. Also, if you have not yet you can try and finish your background (I am not saying you are undereducated, but a good way to intervene the years is to attend classes or online classes at your local college/community college just for fun/to finish your degree). That way when your kids get elder and move out, you fall on tough financial times.. or you just get plain bored. you can hold the option of working.
Babies are a blessing, and being a good mother is a polite thing. Women who want to have babies and then transport them to daycare or have a nanny raise them is their choice, but honestly there is nought like having your mom (or dad) around all the time :)
I do cogitate that society is telling women that to WANT to be a stay at home mom is weak and lazy, so they try rugged to not be that. It is a stereotype, and kind of a sad one. If they are passionate roughly their career and don't want to be a stay at home mom that is wonderful, but if you want to just be a mom that should NOT be anyone's business to mediator you for.
Answers: The opinion of feminism is rooted around a woman's right to live her life the way she wants to.to be capable of have whatever career she desires. However, many women over the years have turned that into almost a competition with men. "I can do one and the same things you do, and better, plus be a mom". And I guess that's ok for them. But the way I see it, now we as women are having to stand up for ourselves against other women, which is ridiculous. The principle of our rights is to be capable of be and do what we want to do. If that's being a full time mom, then I don't know why people enjoy a problem with that...but women get catty. Anyway, I stayed home exclusively with my son until he be 2, and then I went back to work module time. I was also 26 when he was born. I would not take ANYTHING for that time I have with him. Women say they don't want a baby to "define" them, but they agree to their jobs define them. And they want to "have a purpose"...what greater purpose could you own but being a mother? Some women have no choice but to work, and I understand that. I'm no problem not snotty about staying home with my son. Even about the one's that merely want to work. Like you said, to each their own, but it is definately not uncool.
to be a SAHM.
FYI-most libraries have a story time for young children -ages 1+ usually. (You'll enjoy to wait a while, of course) but I have found that it's a wonderful place to meet other SAHMs that regularly have the same feelings on this subject and commonly other similar ideals. Even before your child is old enough for that, libraries are a great place to find other moms beside similar aged kids. Laying infants on a blanket beside each other is socialization, and it's nothing short of a miracle to have an grown to talk to during the day, so it would be good for both of you! Good luck beside your baby. It's the best in the world! (Better-and harder) than anything you've done outside the home, guaranteed!
I instinctively tried the whole stay at home mom thing and it wasn't for me. I would go crazy sitting at home next to the kids all day cleaning the house and playing with them. Why because even though I be sitting at home taking care of my children and making them happy I didn't feel resembling I was contributing enough to my family. I also be then unable to get any time away from the house and kids at adjectives (which EVERYBODY needs time away). Working was my way of reaction useful in the house, the kids were competent to go to daycare or to sitters and play with other kids and feel a moment or two grown up to get away from mommy and daddy as well, and I got my time away from the kids that I needed.
Its really what you want. Some inhabitants love being stay at home moms but some just cant do it. I have found that the moms who cant product it as stay at home moms are the ones who pretty much never get time away from the house or kids and the ones that make it do get to clutch a few hours a week to go shopping or do something for them to kind of get away.
Hey, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE for my mother to hold been a stay at home mom. I think think its awesome. I'm 24 and not married, so i don't own any children.
But from what other stay at home mothers have told me, you'll soon be bored to death.
I say hold a month vacation, and if you are comfortable with just individual at home and washing, feeding, and playing with your child, quit your job. Because you'll find it hard to get a brand new one. Also, at one point, through all the cuteness and happiness a aby can bring, I've seen my married friends. Sometimes, they want to escape that go of 'moming' :D. And that's where a job comes in. Something simple, close to a secratary or something, which would give you enough time with and lacking the baby.
I hope this helps! Think wisely up to that time you choose to be a stay at home mom..
Oh, and it is definitely NOT uncool to be a stay at home mmom.
:D
I'm a stay at home mom and I'm 28. I don't see anything wrong with wanting to be with your kids. I want to lift up them myself instead of day care doing it for me. I'm not saying anything discouraging about parents that do send their kids. I had to do it next to my son for the first 2 yrs. If you can't afford to not work your stuck. And some people love their kids, but need that break that work provides. You may be working but you don't have kids calling out momma every 10 minutes. Some citizens just need that release. So just resembling you said, to each their own.
I think it's cool that anyone would want to spend most of there time with in that children
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But it seems all the pregnant girls or new mothers I bump into make it a point to tell me how motherhood doesn't mark out them, and how they want to go back to work sooo bad. That they want to "own a purpose" other than "just" being a mom. And the whole newborn thing seems to be a inconvenience to their real energy.
To each her own. But I'm curious to know if this is common for the women of my age group, or is it just the women I seem to be to be meeting?
FYI - None of my close friends are pregnant or new moms, so I'm trying to make some friends who are.
dont do it,, so when their 10 your gonna have to eventually work again...dnt stay out, yeah consequences and stuff happen but its gotta surface.
dont stop your life. the people i know who were stay at home moms, their husbands get pissed, moms were lazy [but goodd moms to say the least]...and the moms looked-for to work but it was more difficult becuase you need to start all over again. its 20 times harder next.
its how dependable your husband is, but when he loses his job,, whats the income till he gets another.. u have no fallbacks. remember reduction is bad.
Acually it might be a good point if you stay at home with you baby when it is born. Because after your baby is born you might own alot of stress! And having work stress and baby stress.. It will make you probably walk nuts!
Is it "uncool" to WANT to be a stay-at-home mom?
To that I voice that you are way to grown up to be thinking that. Also, that you are so wrapped into society that you go to babyfreefaq.com in instruct to feel that your not alone. Like a guy wearing pink to prom, unless someone else is doing it he won't do it. You following me.
To each her own. But I'm curious to know if this is common for the women of my age group, or is it lately the women I seem to be meeting?
You probably should be a stay at home mom. I mean if that's how your close to, but I think all moms should until their kids enter middle school or even big school. Kids need their parents to be there. WTF is taking place that moms don't want to stay with their kids. Its too stressful to do 2 jobs at once.
Sorry long answer
I couldn't really care any less if it's not cool.
I plan on staying home with my kid and loving her. the only reason i would really go to work is if we really needed the money.
They're adjectives feminists and think they need to prove to men that they can keep working and spend a devout chunk of what they make on child care. I think the together feminist thing is stupid. If your man is willing to take nurture of you and let you stay at home with your child, why let some babysitter elevate the kid while you go prove how independent you are? (btw, most men like to be able to lift care of their girl, not feel worthless because their girl wants to show how she doesn't really necessitate him)
If you want to stay at home with your child, go for it. I think it would be massively rewarding :)
Edit: Don't listen to this "you're gonna have to work again" crap. If your husband will let you stay home and if you plan on having more kids, who care if you leave the workforce?
ugh the feminazis :/ i think it's great to be a stay at home mom, i be raised with my mom being at home adjectives the time and when i have a little one, he/she will have me home at adjectives times as well, until they're in school adjectives day, i refuse to have another creature ((daycare, babysitter, etc)) raise my child, i have friends who never had their mom around and their first words be spoken to a babysitter who they thought was their mom :/ i think if you're smart about it, you'll do great :) stay at home moms rule :D
not at all..in fact man a stay at home mom can and is sometimes way more work physically and emmotionally than a real job. Also it's angelic for the kid or kids to have one parent around so they can feel more secure. My fiance is a stay at home mom and i envy her for what she does. I own watched our son many times and to tell you the truth it can be harder work than my physical labor mission. my fiance is 24..it just depends on your financial status...she is taking online classes at the same time but when she is done she is going to be a teacher. Having spent the time that she have with our son will pay off big for him.
I think that is wonderful if you want to! I am merely about to graduate college and I am very career orient, but I also am torn on whether or not I would want to stay at home and care for my baby full-time or even let the dad be a stay at home Dad (assuming I bring back pregnant any time soon) ;)
We women kind of have a "luxury" of being competent to choose if we want to be a mom full-time or have a career. If a man insisted that he wanted to be a stay-at home dad when he grew up and have kids, people would call him a bum and say "polite luck getting a wife who will do that." Nowadays most people have the reaction that wanting to be a stay a stay at home mom is "lazy" as okay, or "falling into our social stereotype." In fact, this issue is YOURS and your husband's. No one can tell you what is right or wrong, and if you husband wants to and is likely to provide for you to stay home, then do it. Also, if you have not yet you can try and finish your background (I am not saying you are undereducated, but a good way to intervene the years is to attend classes or online classes at your local college/community college just for fun/to finish your degree). That way when your kids get elder and move out, you fall on tough financial times.. or you just get plain bored. you can hold the option of working.
Babies are a blessing, and being a good mother is a polite thing. Women who want to have babies and then transport them to daycare or have a nanny raise them is their choice, but honestly there is nought like having your mom (or dad) around all the time :)
I do cogitate that society is telling women that to WANT to be a stay at home mom is weak and lazy, so they try rugged to not be that. It is a stereotype, and kind of a sad one. If they are passionate roughly their career and don't want to be a stay at home mom that is wonderful, but if you want to just be a mom that should NOT be anyone's business to mediator you for.
Answers: The opinion of feminism is rooted around a woman's right to live her life the way she wants to.to be capable of have whatever career she desires. However, many women over the years have turned that into almost a competition with men. "I can do one and the same things you do, and better, plus be a mom". And I guess that's ok for them. But the way I see it, now we as women are having to stand up for ourselves against other women, which is ridiculous. The principle of our rights is to be capable of be and do what we want to do. If that's being a full time mom, then I don't know why people enjoy a problem with that...but women get catty. Anyway, I stayed home exclusively with my son until he be 2, and then I went back to work module time. I was also 26 when he was born. I would not take ANYTHING for that time I have with him. Women say they don't want a baby to "define" them, but they agree to their jobs define them. And they want to "have a purpose"...what greater purpose could you own but being a mother? Some women have no choice but to work, and I understand that. I'm no problem not snotty about staying home with my son. Even about the one's that merely want to work. Like you said, to each their own, but it is definately not uncool.
to be a SAHM.
FYI-most libraries have a story time for young children -ages 1+ usually. (You'll enjoy to wait a while, of course) but I have found that it's a wonderful place to meet other SAHMs that regularly have the same feelings on this subject and commonly other similar ideals. Even before your child is old enough for that, libraries are a great place to find other moms beside similar aged kids. Laying infants on a blanket beside each other is socialization, and it's nothing short of a miracle to have an grown to talk to during the day, so it would be good for both of you! Good luck beside your baby. It's the best in the world! (Better-and harder) than anything you've done outside the home, guaranteed!
I instinctively tried the whole stay at home mom thing and it wasn't for me. I would go crazy sitting at home next to the kids all day cleaning the house and playing with them. Why because even though I be sitting at home taking care of my children and making them happy I didn't feel resembling I was contributing enough to my family. I also be then unable to get any time away from the house and kids at adjectives (which EVERYBODY needs time away). Working was my way of reaction useful in the house, the kids were competent to go to daycare or to sitters and play with other kids and feel a moment or two grown up to get away from mommy and daddy as well, and I got my time away from the kids that I needed.
Its really what you want. Some inhabitants love being stay at home moms but some just cant do it. I have found that the moms who cant product it as stay at home moms are the ones who pretty much never get time away from the house or kids and the ones that make it do get to clutch a few hours a week to go shopping or do something for them to kind of get away.
Hey, I would LOVE LOVE LOVE for my mother to hold been a stay at home mom. I think think its awesome. I'm 24 and not married, so i don't own any children.
But from what other stay at home mothers have told me, you'll soon be bored to death.
I say hold a month vacation, and if you are comfortable with just individual at home and washing, feeding, and playing with your child, quit your job. Because you'll find it hard to get a brand new one. Also, at one point, through all the cuteness and happiness a aby can bring, I've seen my married friends. Sometimes, they want to escape that go of 'moming' :D. And that's where a job comes in. Something simple, close to a secratary or something, which would give you enough time with and lacking the baby.
I hope this helps! Think wisely up to that time you choose to be a stay at home mom..
Oh, and it is definitely NOT uncool to be a stay at home mmom.
:D
I'm a stay at home mom and I'm 28. I don't see anything wrong with wanting to be with your kids. I want to lift up them myself instead of day care doing it for me. I'm not saying anything discouraging about parents that do send their kids. I had to do it next to my son for the first 2 yrs. If you can't afford to not work your stuck. And some people love their kids, but need that break that work provides. You may be working but you don't have kids calling out momma every 10 minutes. Some citizens just need that release. So just resembling you said, to each their own.
I think it's cool that anyone would want to spend most of there time with in that children
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