My wife requirements to re live the childbirth?
My wife mentioned something to me this morning I am still stunned, and scared.
I am 38 and my wife is 36. We have a 7month old daughter. I be in the military during the childbirth and so I regret that I wasn't there for it so, my wife mentioned that maybe she could pretend she be having the baby again.
She said something like she could lay on our bed and own our daughter in or near her..I feel really abnormal saying this crap but...this just stunned me.
She just feel really bad that I missed the birth.
Ummm yeah that would be weird for me too. I comprehend that she wanted you to be with her.childbirth is a very special experience explicitly wonderful to share with your husband, but I think re-acting it is a little extreme. Maybe you could suggest to her to of late set aside an afternoon so she could tell you about the birth down to the very ultimate detail, while you give her a massage!!??!! That sounds nice to me.
Sorry but that's just weird. Adults playing pretend to re-live a childbirth. Look, it's not matching, so acting it out won't change the fact that you weren't there. You HAVE to be nearby for the REAL thing to experience it, period. Don't dwell on the fact that you weren't nearby. You were doing an important job and that be a sacrifice that was made. Life goes on, and you're there presently to be with your little baby so do NOT relive it.
haha lol
I'd be scared too, lol! Not to mention the tot! lmao.
Answers: It sounds like your wife has some TRUE issues about you missing the birth of your child. She probably felt very alone and wishes that her memory of the experience could be more similar to the picture in her mind of how she wished it had be.
However, pretending to give birth is not going to change that. You need to start by other and gently explaining to her that although you are very sad and option very badly that you had be able to be there for the birth that you don't feel comfortable near pretending she is giving birth. Tell her it's just not the same thing and that you decision you had been there to hold her foot and support her while she brought your child into the world. Talk to her about the experience and let her tell you adjectives the details and just try to listen and be very caring and hold her paw or hold her in your arms while she talks about it. Maybe that will backing her come to terms with her feelings.
If that doesn't minister to and she still wants to recreate the birth, I would suggest maybe a little counceling for her to come to language with things.
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I am 38 and my wife is 36. We have a 7month old daughter. I be in the military during the childbirth and so I regret that I wasn't there for it so, my wife mentioned that maybe she could pretend she be having the baby again.
She said something like she could lay on our bed and own our daughter in or near her..I feel really abnormal saying this crap but...this just stunned me.
She just feel really bad that I missed the birth.
Ummm yeah that would be weird for me too. I comprehend that she wanted you to be with her.childbirth is a very special experience explicitly wonderful to share with your husband, but I think re-acting it is a little extreme. Maybe you could suggest to her to of late set aside an afternoon so she could tell you about the birth down to the very ultimate detail, while you give her a massage!!??!! That sounds nice to me.
Sorry but that's just weird. Adults playing pretend to re-live a childbirth. Look, it's not matching, so acting it out won't change the fact that you weren't there. You HAVE to be nearby for the REAL thing to experience it, period. Don't dwell on the fact that you weren't nearby. You were doing an important job and that be a sacrifice that was made. Life goes on, and you're there presently to be with your little baby so do NOT relive it.
haha lol
I'd be scared too, lol! Not to mention the tot! lmao.
Answers: It sounds like your wife has some TRUE issues about you missing the birth of your child. She probably felt very alone and wishes that her memory of the experience could be more similar to the picture in her mind of how she wished it had be.
However, pretending to give birth is not going to change that. You need to start by other and gently explaining to her that although you are very sad and option very badly that you had be able to be there for the birth that you don't feel comfortable near pretending she is giving birth. Tell her it's just not the same thing and that you decision you had been there to hold her foot and support her while she brought your child into the world. Talk to her about the experience and let her tell you adjectives the details and just try to listen and be very caring and hold her paw or hold her in your arms while she talks about it. Maybe that will backing her come to terms with her feelings.
If that doesn't minister to and she still wants to recreate the birth, I would suggest maybe a little counceling for her to come to language with things.
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