How do i stop my daughters from getting pregnant at a babyish age close to i did?
I had my first child at 16yrs old needless to say-so by the time i was 23yrs old i had 3 kids.Lately i enjoy found my self really fussing at my 12 yr old about how i will not allow teen pregnancy and how she better not even be thinking about sex because she is twelve and have already started her u no wat so i know with that comes along alot of feelings that she dnt know about but i do.I'm so afraid that they are going to do what i did that i cringe when my 2 youngest daughters play house beside there baby dolls i Just dnt want them to get the concept that it is ok or cute to be a young mother.I grounded my oldest daughter because of a note i found wrote to a boy nothing desperate was in it but just the reality that she wrote it.Am i being to hard or wat?wat should i do?
Unfortunately, going over board will often lead to the thing you want LEAST. Your children can harbor resentment for person punished so quickly and may shift closer to irrational behavior as a result. The greatest thing you can do is EDUCATE your children: show them videos of birth (this turned me past its sell-by date from the idea of sex for years); give them books on puberty, sex & STDs; make them aware of the lifestyle they'll hold should they follow in those steps. If they learn that having kids is no effortless feat and grow to put their futures in top priority then they'll be fine. If you maintain them in the dark they will resent you and go out to swot on their own. They will end up making the same decisions and they won't be protected; they want information. Source(s): 3 years in adoptive and child psychology.
everyone is diffrent just beacuse u were pregnant at 16 doesnt mean she will be..a moment ago make sure she feels love and let her date and everything but variety sure she knows no sex.u shouldnt punish her for that letter she wrote it was nil bad,maybe watching the show The Secret Life of The American Teenager would help her appreciate the consequences of having sex?just a suggestion,you should still talk to her personaly but this might support 2...EDUCATE HER AND MAKE HER AWARE !
get her on the pill and give her condoms. this comes beside a talk. make sure she has adjectives the information she needs to take care of herself. and consent to ler know you will answer her question's.
I feel amber gave an excellent answer. Educate her starting now by giving her age appropriate information just about her body, families etc.
Answers: Unfortunately, 1 in 5 sexually moving girls over the age of 12 are TRYING to get pregnant, so she has a lot of peer pressure to promise with.
I assume you didn't have any early age problems near breast cancer. The rates in females who had children at a young age are pretty high. Remind them that females don't reach full physical, hormonal, and emotional later life until age 24. Males don't reach that point until age 30.
They don't even BEGIN developing the ability for conceptual thought process until puberty.
Aside from feeding my daughter adjectives the inform they openly tried to ignore, we had one requirement if they have boyfriends. The boyfriends had to have Friday evening dinner at our house. A little saltpeter in the boy's food and in that was no hanky panky that weekends. I didn't get my first grandchild until the youngest was within her 20s.
You are punishing her for these things because you have not taken time out to create REAL boundaries.
Tell her that right now she is not allowed to enjoy a boyfriend.
Don't give her an age where she can because if she reaches that age and you get the impression she is still not ready, you're screwed.
Let her know, that right now, it's not an option.
As she get older make it more of an option.
Make sure that she is educated exactly on what is going to go on with her body and mind and boys.
As she gets elder, let her see these boys.
Meet their families and let him come over for dinner next to you and her before letting her go out alone with him.
There are ways to brand name sure she is safe and not having sex and understands, minus be overprotective and inducing teenage rebellion.
you shouldn't ground her. just tell her that being a mother is unfounded. i am personally pregnant and i am only 14. i was an simply child and i never had a pet because my mom was allergic to dogs and cats. i just feel loved when i was having sex. that is why i am probably pregnant. so juts make clear to her that its not ok and love her.
Don't tell her she CAN"T have a boyfriend. She will get one anyway and capture "back" at you and that might lead to something you don't want. Just explain to her that if she has sex, there is a possibility that she can draw from pregnant and risk her life and the baby's life. But don't be so hard on her. Let her know what you go through and how difficult it was. Tell her that the best thing to do is to wait until she have an education and job and the right guy to have a child.
Good luck =]
Be very present contained by your daughters' (and sons') lives. My mother felt very uncomfortable address any dating and sexual issues with me. Just to say, that didn't work out well for me. Be here for her and make sure she feels that she can come to you with anything, and next follow up on that promise. Have all the information before you react, listen to your children, love your children and be paid sure they feel loved and valued. Teach her self respect and she will respect herself. Let her know how tough things were being such a immature mother. Don't let her limit herself and her dreams. Let her know that motherhood is wonderful if it's at the right time below the right circumstances.
Educate them in all aspects of sex and sanctuary. Don't hold anything back and make sure they know all they could possibly call for to know. It is by keeping them in the dark that they will want to try and satisfy their curiosity give or take a few sex and boys.
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Unfortunately, going over board will often lead to the thing you want LEAST. Your children can harbor resentment for person punished so quickly and may shift closer to irrational behavior as a result. The greatest thing you can do is EDUCATE your children: show them videos of birth (this turned me past its sell-by date from the idea of sex for years); give them books on puberty, sex & STDs; make them aware of the lifestyle they'll hold should they follow in those steps. If they learn that having kids is no effortless feat and grow to put their futures in top priority then they'll be fine. If you maintain them in the dark they will resent you and go out to swot on their own. They will end up making the same decisions and they won't be protected; they want information. Source(s): 3 years in adoptive and child psychology.
everyone is diffrent just beacuse u were pregnant at 16 doesnt mean she will be..a moment ago make sure she feels love and let her date and everything but variety sure she knows no sex.u shouldnt punish her for that letter she wrote it was nil bad,maybe watching the show The Secret Life of The American Teenager would help her appreciate the consequences of having sex?just a suggestion,you should still talk to her personaly but this might support 2...EDUCATE HER AND MAKE HER AWARE !
get her on the pill and give her condoms. this comes beside a talk. make sure she has adjectives the information she needs to take care of herself. and consent to ler know you will answer her question's.
I feel amber gave an excellent answer. Educate her starting now by giving her age appropriate information just about her body, families etc.
Answers: Unfortunately, 1 in 5 sexually moving girls over the age of 12 are TRYING to get pregnant, so she has a lot of peer pressure to promise with.
I assume you didn't have any early age problems near breast cancer. The rates in females who had children at a young age are pretty high. Remind them that females don't reach full physical, hormonal, and emotional later life until age 24. Males don't reach that point until age 30.
They don't even BEGIN developing the ability for conceptual thought process until puberty.
Aside from feeding my daughter adjectives the inform they openly tried to ignore, we had one requirement if they have boyfriends. The boyfriends had to have Friday evening dinner at our house. A little saltpeter in the boy's food and in that was no hanky panky that weekends. I didn't get my first grandchild until the youngest was within her 20s.
You are punishing her for these things because you have not taken time out to create REAL boundaries.
Tell her that right now she is not allowed to enjoy a boyfriend.
Don't give her an age where she can because if she reaches that age and you get the impression she is still not ready, you're screwed.
Let her know, that right now, it's not an option.
As she get older make it more of an option.
Make sure that she is educated exactly on what is going to go on with her body and mind and boys.
As she gets elder, let her see these boys.
Meet their families and let him come over for dinner next to you and her before letting her go out alone with him.
There are ways to brand name sure she is safe and not having sex and understands, minus be overprotective and inducing teenage rebellion.
you shouldn't ground her. just tell her that being a mother is unfounded. i am personally pregnant and i am only 14. i was an simply child and i never had a pet because my mom was allergic to dogs and cats. i just feel loved when i was having sex. that is why i am probably pregnant. so juts make clear to her that its not ok and love her.
Don't tell her she CAN"T have a boyfriend. She will get one anyway and capture "back" at you and that might lead to something you don't want. Just explain to her that if she has sex, there is a possibility that she can draw from pregnant and risk her life and the baby's life. But don't be so hard on her. Let her know what you go through and how difficult it was. Tell her that the best thing to do is to wait until she have an education and job and the right guy to have a child.
Good luck =]
Be very present contained by your daughters' (and sons') lives. My mother felt very uncomfortable address any dating and sexual issues with me. Just to say, that didn't work out well for me. Be here for her and make sure she feels that she can come to you with anything, and next follow up on that promise. Have all the information before you react, listen to your children, love your children and be paid sure they feel loved and valued. Teach her self respect and she will respect herself. Let her know how tough things were being such a immature mother. Don't let her limit herself and her dreams. Let her know that motherhood is wonderful if it's at the right time below the right circumstances.
Educate them in all aspects of sex and sanctuary. Don't hold anything back and make sure they know all they could possibly call for to know. It is by keeping them in the dark that they will want to try and satisfy their curiosity give or take a few sex and boys.
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