We are surrounded by the process of adoption and be wonder what foster aid is close to?
We are in the beginning process of adopting from the state. Our classes start this month and you hear stories going on for how bad foster care is, so I'm wondering what kind of experiences kids own. How are they treated? Do they get sent to many different ones? Do they have plentifully of items (clothes, toys, etc.)? Do they get birthday parties, celebrate christmas? This may nouns silly but it just things that I wonder.
My husband and I just finished our foster care training and have not have a child yet, but have become very connected to other foster parents surrounded by our area. These families arfe loving and welcome their children into the own flesh and blood as if they were bio kids. All of them refer to the children as their sons and daughters. They all throw parties for their children, and buy them as much as any other kid. Out of the 10 or so family we are close with, I've heard of 2 kids who have be disrupted (sent from one home to another) and it has been for extreme behaviors that were unsafe for the child to remain surrounded by the home, Foster care is very traumatic to a child because there is a loss of connections to community, culture, and home that can not be avoided. But foster parents do everything they can to make life easier for their children. We plan to give these children everything we have growing up, because they deserve to just have fun and be kids.
I read the two other ladies posts already here---and I regard those ladies are great---they know absolutely what they are talking about!!
I too be a foster parent for 34 yrs and I have worked with foster parents for 14 yrs. They are the greatest people on floor I have found. Kids for the most part have great and wonderful stories to convey about their foster parents. Yes they have special birthday party's and gifts and most are quite spoiled--I did it too though.They are treated fine and if it comes to the attention of any worker that things are otherwise that child may be moved promptly. In my are ,which is a significant area, children are RARELY moved. And you should see their clothes and toys---I once was told by a worker we had too abundant toys and I could donate some of them to the goodwill. I didn't do that. Enjoy your classes. I attend all training classes in my area so I know the foster parents coming within.
Answers: Foster parents are like any other parents. You can find good ones, and you can find impossible ones. The children in their care are members of their domestic, albeit temporarily. In terms of holidays being celebrated, it would correspond with the customs, belief systems and preferences of that foster ethnic group. For example, if a Jehovah's Witness family decided to foster, Christmas would likely not be celebrated contained by their home.
Foster parents do have something of a commitment to honor any existing religious customs that a child may have, if they are old plenty to have any, but for very small children, they will likely follow the customs of the foster parents.
In our province (I'm surrounded by Canada), there is a standard of care that is supposed to be followed by adjectives foster parents. This includes a standard for clothing, furniture and other possessions. It is possible that any foster home could fall through the cracks; workers go on vacation, conceivably there is a lack of follow-up, etc. By and large though, most foster parents are well-intentioned, except well-equipped.
If you are doing pure adoption through your local DCFS, rather than a foster to adopt situation, or straight fostering, your children will likely be coming from a foster home. A friend of mine *just* (as in, they come home this past Wednesday) had her kids move in from their foster home. These kids have been with their foster parents their whole lives, and they be wonderful. The kids are extremely attached to the foster parents, but the fp's are elderly, and were unable to adopt them. So, her kids will be calling them Grandma and Grandpa, can call them anytime, and will be a factor of their extended family. My friend is thrilled that her kids were in such a thaw, wonderful and safe place with such loving people until they could be transitioned into her home.
Many of them are wonderful, and markedly have the best interest of the kids at heart. But, like anything else, there can other be a bad apple.
Good luck with your adoption! Source(s): soon to be adoptive mom - foster care
Oh my. While the people above appear lovely and are probably good foster parents, they are actually presenting the RARE situation.
Let me give the correct truth. Most everyone that posts here know I grew up in the foster system and work with foster kids today..If things were so great, the problems that foster kids facade as they get older (drugs, pregnancies, prison, lack of childhood, homelessness, etc) would be less.
Foster kids are NOT treated well.
1) Most long-term foster kids move around. "Half of all foster children spend as much as two years contained by foster care and are moved from placement to placement at least three times. This leads not singular to uncertainty and lack of stability in the child's existence, but some of these placements may be inappropriate for the child's specific circumstances. This often is due to the lack of qualified, licensed foster caregivers, but it can also go down as a result of inexperienced or overloaded caseworkers trying to get through their caseloads."
Do the research and you will see the statistics.depressing.
2) Most foster kids have very few items, surrounded by fact they can put them in and carry them surrounded by trash bags. Sometimes kids are moved and they are forced to leave the few things they own behind.
Some foster kids never enjoy a birthday party and in many cases at holidays, the kids are with the sole purpose given what comes from charity (like Angel Tree). Nothing from the foster family and if there is NO charity, they get nil.
Many kids are told that they can't have something, until "the check comes."
3) Foster families put foster kids in "Respite Care" when they step on vacation or need space or during holidays. How do you think that feel to a child? --- "We need a break from you now, so go to another household."
Read my posts and the others that responded. That will give you a better picture of what life is like for a child contained by the system.
Do some research, read and see.
Don't be fooled into thinking that the foster care system is ok. Because it is a MESS. The statistics for kids that age out are horrible, only 3% graduate college, more than 50% wind up homeless. Statistics don't deceit. Source(s): i was a foster kid for along time
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My husband and I just finished our foster care training and have not have a child yet, but have become very connected to other foster parents surrounded by our area. These families arfe loving and welcome their children into the own flesh and blood as if they were bio kids. All of them refer to the children as their sons and daughters. They all throw parties for their children, and buy them as much as any other kid. Out of the 10 or so family we are close with, I've heard of 2 kids who have be disrupted (sent from one home to another) and it has been for extreme behaviors that were unsafe for the child to remain surrounded by the home, Foster care is very traumatic to a child because there is a loss of connections to community, culture, and home that can not be avoided. But foster parents do everything they can to make life easier for their children. We plan to give these children everything we have growing up, because they deserve to just have fun and be kids.
I read the two other ladies posts already here---and I regard those ladies are great---they know absolutely what they are talking about!!
I too be a foster parent for 34 yrs and I have worked with foster parents for 14 yrs. They are the greatest people on floor I have found. Kids for the most part have great and wonderful stories to convey about their foster parents. Yes they have special birthday party's and gifts and most are quite spoiled--I did it too though.They are treated fine and if it comes to the attention of any worker that things are otherwise that child may be moved promptly. In my are ,which is a significant area, children are RARELY moved. And you should see their clothes and toys---I once was told by a worker we had too abundant toys and I could donate some of them to the goodwill. I didn't do that. Enjoy your classes. I attend all training classes in my area so I know the foster parents coming within.
Answers: Foster parents are like any other parents. You can find good ones, and you can find impossible ones. The children in their care are members of their domestic, albeit temporarily. In terms of holidays being celebrated, it would correspond with the customs, belief systems and preferences of that foster ethnic group. For example, if a Jehovah's Witness family decided to foster, Christmas would likely not be celebrated contained by their home.
Foster parents do have something of a commitment to honor any existing religious customs that a child may have, if they are old plenty to have any, but for very small children, they will likely follow the customs of the foster parents.
In our province (I'm surrounded by Canada), there is a standard of care that is supposed to be followed by adjectives foster parents. This includes a standard for clothing, furniture and other possessions. It is possible that any foster home could fall through the cracks; workers go on vacation, conceivably there is a lack of follow-up, etc. By and large though, most foster parents are well-intentioned, except well-equipped.
If you are doing pure adoption through your local DCFS, rather than a foster to adopt situation, or straight fostering, your children will likely be coming from a foster home. A friend of mine *just* (as in, they come home this past Wednesday) had her kids move in from their foster home. These kids have been with their foster parents their whole lives, and they be wonderful. The kids are extremely attached to the foster parents, but the fp's are elderly, and were unable to adopt them. So, her kids will be calling them Grandma and Grandpa, can call them anytime, and will be a factor of their extended family. My friend is thrilled that her kids were in such a thaw, wonderful and safe place with such loving people until they could be transitioned into her home.
Many of them are wonderful, and markedly have the best interest of the kids at heart. But, like anything else, there can other be a bad apple.
Good luck with your adoption! Source(s): soon to be adoptive mom - foster care
Oh my. While the people above appear lovely and are probably good foster parents, they are actually presenting the RARE situation.
Let me give the correct truth. Most everyone that posts here know I grew up in the foster system and work with foster kids today..If things were so great, the problems that foster kids facade as they get older (drugs, pregnancies, prison, lack of childhood, homelessness, etc) would be less.
Foster kids are NOT treated well.
1) Most long-term foster kids move around. "Half of all foster children spend as much as two years contained by foster care and are moved from placement to placement at least three times. This leads not singular to uncertainty and lack of stability in the child's existence, but some of these placements may be inappropriate for the child's specific circumstances. This often is due to the lack of qualified, licensed foster caregivers, but it can also go down as a result of inexperienced or overloaded caseworkers trying to get through their caseloads."
Do the research and you will see the statistics.depressing.
2) Most foster kids have very few items, surrounded by fact they can put them in and carry them surrounded by trash bags. Sometimes kids are moved and they are forced to leave the few things they own behind.
Some foster kids never enjoy a birthday party and in many cases at holidays, the kids are with the sole purpose given what comes from charity (like Angel Tree). Nothing from the foster family and if there is NO charity, they get nil.
Many kids are told that they can't have something, until "the check comes."
3) Foster families put foster kids in "Respite Care" when they step on vacation or need space or during holidays. How do you think that feel to a child? --- "We need a break from you now, so go to another household."
Read my posts and the others that responded. That will give you a better picture of what life is like for a child contained by the system.
Do some research, read and see.
Don't be fooled into thinking that the foster care system is ok. Because it is a MESS. The statistics for kids that age out are horrible, only 3% graduate college, more than 50% wind up homeless. Statistics don't deceit. Source(s): i was a foster kid for along time
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