Can anyone adopt who own found their birth parents please describe the emotion and state of mind involved?
Im in the process (in ireland) of tracing my birth mother trough my agency and would like to hear peoples stories on meeting their birth mother/father/family. Are you alike surrounded by ways? looks? was it what you hoped for etc etc
Thanks
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While I haven't got to the stage of meeting them even so, I'm contemplating it.
Seriously, don't go in with any preconceived thinking though, else you may be in for a very bitter disappointment.
Didnt be in motion into it expecting anything.
I was raised by my mom and stepdad
My stepdad adopted me when I be 8 or 9
When I was 19, I decided i wanted answers. (My dad walk out when I was 4 months old, well my mom threw him out, told him to never come rear, and to not see me)
So with the help of my stepdad I tracked him down.
He came out to see me. Him and my stepmom. at first it be good and then I flew out to meet my brother and 2 sisters a short time ago after Christmas.
Its really cool because my sisters and I all look alike. But when the newness wore off. My Dad begin to dissapoint me. As he does with his other 3 kids.
He's on the road a lot. He comes through this course a lot I know that for sure, says he will stop. Calls that day and say he won't be stopping.
Its like i have to do all the work. If I want to see him. I own to drive 9 hours to see him and spend my money.
Anymore I don't really visit to see him but to see my sisters.
So at first it was cool. I know a little bit more of why I am the agency I am. i see where i get my eyes and a lot of my features. I see that my love for animals is genetic. My father is a huge animal lover. I be raised in a home without animals, I loved animals. My mom and stepdad thought they be dirty and too much work.
um but some good came out of it. I mean I enjoy 2 younger sisters that I have a good relationship with. I a short time ago wish I could have known my sisters adjectives along.
My youngest sister was 5 when I met her.
Answers: I am so much like my first Mom, and the rest of my family for that event. Looks, the way I walk, talk, take action to things, musical ability, intelligence, etc.
I now feel approaching I have an anchor- like I am a real being. While I never lacked love from my adoptive family, I lacked any similarities...we are not relateecstatic. I highly recommend every adoptee search. It helped me to know myself better.
My reunion is not watertight, I dont think any reunion is. We were separated for almost a lifetime. There is a lot of guilt on my f Mom's constituent, and I cannot help her with that- she has to do that.
Good luck near your reunion! Source(s): being adopted and in reunion
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Thanks
x
While I haven't got to the stage of meeting them even so, I'm contemplating it.
Seriously, don't go in with any preconceived thinking though, else you may be in for a very bitter disappointment.
Didnt be in motion into it expecting anything.
I was raised by my mom and stepdad
My stepdad adopted me when I be 8 or 9
When I was 19, I decided i wanted answers. (My dad walk out when I was 4 months old, well my mom threw him out, told him to never come rear, and to not see me)
So with the help of my stepdad I tracked him down.
He came out to see me. Him and my stepmom. at first it be good and then I flew out to meet my brother and 2 sisters a short time ago after Christmas.
Its really cool because my sisters and I all look alike. But when the newness wore off. My Dad begin to dissapoint me. As he does with his other 3 kids.
He's on the road a lot. He comes through this course a lot I know that for sure, says he will stop. Calls that day and say he won't be stopping.
Its like i have to do all the work. If I want to see him. I own to drive 9 hours to see him and spend my money.
Anymore I don't really visit to see him but to see my sisters.
So at first it was cool. I know a little bit more of why I am the agency I am. i see where i get my eyes and a lot of my features. I see that my love for animals is genetic. My father is a huge animal lover. I be raised in a home without animals, I loved animals. My mom and stepdad thought they be dirty and too much work.
um but some good came out of it. I mean I enjoy 2 younger sisters that I have a good relationship with. I a short time ago wish I could have known my sisters adjectives along.
My youngest sister was 5 when I met her.
Answers: I am so much like my first Mom, and the rest of my family for that event. Looks, the way I walk, talk, take action to things, musical ability, intelligence, etc.
I now feel approaching I have an anchor- like I am a real being. While I never lacked love from my adoptive family, I lacked any similarities...we are not relateecstatic. I highly recommend every adoptee search. It helped me to know myself better.
My reunion is not watertight, I dont think any reunion is. We were separated for almost a lifetime. There is a lot of guilt on my f Mom's constituent, and I cannot help her with that- she has to do that.
Good luck near your reunion! Source(s): being adopted and in reunion
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