Do you feel it would be complicated person adopt?
what are some common things adopted people do business with from the family and the families kids they've be adopted by?
profusely of kids who find out they were adopted have self esteem issues because it boils down to them wondering why mom didnt want them. a virtuous answer to those doubts is look how much your adopted family wanted you though... they CHOSE you.
adoption can be very tough for a kid and when people start pushing it around it mkaes a kids feel horrible. families perceive weird with another 'unkown' child in their house. sometimes the other kids within the family that aren't adopted hard to adopt them. worst of all some families treat their adopter children very sternly. if i was adopted (which im not) i would be depressed. sometimes the adopted child have lost loved ones like a mother or father in an accident. one of my friend be adopted and her mom was always nutty at her and became at angry t things even in school. this happen when i was in my waay old arts school. my cousin is also adopted but my aunt treats him like his very own son and immediately he is going to college
I was adopted by my stepfather when I was 8 years ancient. Its was strange going from not having two parents to suddenly having two parents and two individuals to tell me no, and two people to ground me. that was unexpected.
At times its hard it was very rock-hard growing up especially after my sis came along I was kind of pushed to the side and thats what pushed me to find my bio father, immediately my bio father is back in my life and to be precise confusing my my little sis. And my husband at times. But I'm kind of glad, my hubbys parents passed away tragically 4 years ago. So atleast my baby still has 2 sets of grandparents.
This is in recent times a personal example of how it affected two young girls.
My parents recently fostered a teen girl. I don't live at home anymore but my 13 year older sister does. It took a major emotional toll on her. Especially when her things started to go missing. My sister is such a upright little money saver. She likes to buy nice things so she saves up until she can win what she wants. Several of her nice things went missing, and 235 dollars went missing from her money box (which be under lock and key) When she told my parents this, they didn't believe her. They said "Are you sure you didn't just spend it"
Whenever the other girl did something wrong my sis got blamed for it. They feel bad for this girl and wanted to make her quality loved and appreciated that they didn't think how badly it was affecting their own daugther. My sis started calling me to come and carry her and she told me all this. So I just spent the day over in attendance with her and sure enough when something got broken, she would give the name my mom and say my sis did it. So I just kind of watch her and checked in every few days. Things kept getting worse. After about 3 months, the girl decided she didn't appreciate their neighbourliness, she didn't appreciate living in a nice house and going to a nice school, she started to act out, stop following the rules, she would sass them. and she done up stealing one of my moms credit cards
The only rules in that house were, be thoughtful and respectful to those around you, Keep your room clean, make sure you list of chores are done past leaving the house, Always tell us where you are going and when to expect you posterior, and to always be home by curfew. (10 pm weekdays, 11 pm weekends which is a decent curfew for girls that age)
Needless to say they have enough. (She was actually a sister of a relative and they go to court and agreed on temporary custody) Well she ended up back beside her sister, and now I think he mom did finally get her put a bet on. I just hope that she learned something from being beside my parents. But I'm not sure she did.
Needless to say My sis is still emotionally and physically exhausted from the experience. They promised her they wouldn't bring another child into the house until she is grown.
That is just an example of a bad experience. At first they be willing to adopt the child if it came to that, but she couldn't let step of her past lifestyle and it was severely hurting my sister.
I've known frequent foster/adoption situations that have turned out wonderfully but sometimes it doesn't turn out as good as you hope. I was big-hearted of looking forward to her being around for awhile. Just another sister to have, well that be until she pulled all that and caused problems for my sister.
I'll be honest it was chance for me too. But with my baby on the way I'm glad things turned out the agency they did. Because now my mom gets to concentrate on her first grandchild.
Adoptees and natural mothers both lose something - adoptees lose their mother and home, mothers lose their child so both are hard. Adoptive families gain all the time.
My son and I enjoy been reunited for 5 years and we can never have the relationship that we both deserved as we have too frequent lost years.
Answers: I don't have to guess. I know. I am adopted and I enjoy a "sister" (although she never acted like one) who is the natural child of my adoptive parents.
My a-parents were insolent to the 3 children they adopted -- me included. In addition to that, being adopt IS, or CAN BE, hard because when I was a kid people be always teasing me that my "real" parents didn't want me and asking me why they didn't. They also made fun of the fact that I look completely different than my a-parents and their daughter.
I enjoy a really hard time with some of the answers you received -- the one where someone say that their younger adopted siblings are glad they were adopted... THEY don't know that. Anyone can guess what adoption feel like but only an adopted character really KNOWS. The other one that bothers me is the one that says that adoption is good because it gives a child "a better life". I'm really sick of audible range that for two reasons: I) MY adoption did NOT give me a better life -- I be abused in my ADOPTIVE home by my ADOPTIVE parents. What kind of a "better life" is that? And, before someone say that I don't know what my life would have been close to with my natural mother or father... I DO. I have reunited next to them and learned that they have had 5 more children (him 2, her 3) and NONE of my younger siblings be ever abused. If I had stayed with my natural parents -- and THEY BOTH WANTED to raise me -- I would never have been abused. 2) Adoption does not guarantee a better life, individual a different one. Being adopted does NOT mean that your first mother, father or both didn't want you. Nobody can know the real circumstances unless they hear it DIRECTLY from the first parents themselves.
Remember this: Every adoption starts near a loss. NOBODY is ever adopted until they have lost their first family. Some hold more pain and problems from that fact than others... but it is still a FACT in ALL adoption. Children don't fall from the sky or grow in the cabbage patch... someone -- the child's MOTHER -- carried that child in her body and chose for the child to live. Whatever else happen, she gave them life. My mother gave me time. My mother (and father) wanted me... they wanted to keep me, bump up me, and always be with me. They were not permitted to. My mother be coerced and threatened. My father was told that if he tried to see me or take me, he would be arrested. He wouldn't have -- that be a LIE! But, he was young and he didn't know his rights at the time. I don't blame him for that -- I blame the industry of adoption. And, yes... it is an INDUSTRY. People make TONS and TONS of money by finding babies and "giving" them to adopters. By the track, adoption can cost $40,000 or more and there are 90 or more couples waiting to adopt EVERY healthy newborn that is available. If you don't believe adoption is about making money... at least for SOMEONE... then consider again. Do some more reading and some more research.
It IS hard being adopted. NOBODY but an adoptee can really communicate you what it's like. Some people are adopted by great family and have good lives... but they still struggle with leaving, attachment, and other issues. They still have a desire to know their own, personal history. They wish to know, meet, gossip to and possibly have relationships with the people who created them. Does that be a sign of they are "bitter" or "ungrateful"? No. It means WE want what they rest of you (those who are not adopted) can have without even asking -- to know where on earth we came from and WHO we came from.
Yes. It's hard. Harder for some than for others... but other it involves a loss.
Take care! Source(s): Reunited adult adoptee and social worker.
i think its harder for the mother to put the newborn up for adoption to begin with, and if they are doing it out of selflessness to dispense the baby a better life. than they get my respect for anyone so brave.
sometimes the child will feel upset and abandoned because they felt similar to they were a mistake to their real parents. but they need to look at the bigger picture and see how much better their lives are presently, than they would have been growing up with a mother who wasnt equipped to be one.
I don't need to think about whether it'd be frozen to be adopted or not, because I AM adopted, and I know that it IS hard.
I've be lucky with the family I was adopt into. Unlike a lot of the stories I read, my afamily gets on wonderfully. Ok, so I'm not saying there's never a cross word, nor anything similar to that, but we all love each other, and that's the part that counts.
I can't answer just about the siblings thing however, as I'm an only child.
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profusely of kids who find out they were adopted have self esteem issues because it boils down to them wondering why mom didnt want them. a virtuous answer to those doubts is look how much your adopted family wanted you though... they CHOSE you.
adoption can be very tough for a kid and when people start pushing it around it mkaes a kids feel horrible. families perceive weird with another 'unkown' child in their house. sometimes the other kids within the family that aren't adopted hard to adopt them. worst of all some families treat their adopter children very sternly. if i was adopted (which im not) i would be depressed. sometimes the adopted child have lost loved ones like a mother or father in an accident. one of my friend be adopted and her mom was always nutty at her and became at angry t things even in school. this happen when i was in my waay old arts school. my cousin is also adopted but my aunt treats him like his very own son and immediately he is going to college
I was adopted by my stepfather when I was 8 years ancient. Its was strange going from not having two parents to suddenly having two parents and two individuals to tell me no, and two people to ground me. that was unexpected.
At times its hard it was very rock-hard growing up especially after my sis came along I was kind of pushed to the side and thats what pushed me to find my bio father, immediately my bio father is back in my life and to be precise confusing my my little sis. And my husband at times. But I'm kind of glad, my hubbys parents passed away tragically 4 years ago. So atleast my baby still has 2 sets of grandparents.
This is in recent times a personal example of how it affected two young girls.
My parents recently fostered a teen girl. I don't live at home anymore but my 13 year older sister does. It took a major emotional toll on her. Especially when her things started to go missing. My sister is such a upright little money saver. She likes to buy nice things so she saves up until she can win what she wants. Several of her nice things went missing, and 235 dollars went missing from her money box (which be under lock and key) When she told my parents this, they didn't believe her. They said "Are you sure you didn't just spend it"
Whenever the other girl did something wrong my sis got blamed for it. They feel bad for this girl and wanted to make her quality loved and appreciated that they didn't think how badly it was affecting their own daugther. My sis started calling me to come and carry her and she told me all this. So I just spent the day over in attendance with her and sure enough when something got broken, she would give the name my mom and say my sis did it. So I just kind of watch her and checked in every few days. Things kept getting worse. After about 3 months, the girl decided she didn't appreciate their neighbourliness, she didn't appreciate living in a nice house and going to a nice school, she started to act out, stop following the rules, she would sass them. and she done up stealing one of my moms credit cards
The only rules in that house were, be thoughtful and respectful to those around you, Keep your room clean, make sure you list of chores are done past leaving the house, Always tell us where you are going and when to expect you posterior, and to always be home by curfew. (10 pm weekdays, 11 pm weekends which is a decent curfew for girls that age)
Needless to say they have enough. (She was actually a sister of a relative and they go to court and agreed on temporary custody) Well she ended up back beside her sister, and now I think he mom did finally get her put a bet on. I just hope that she learned something from being beside my parents. But I'm not sure she did.
Needless to say My sis is still emotionally and physically exhausted from the experience. They promised her they wouldn't bring another child into the house until she is grown.
That is just an example of a bad experience. At first they be willing to adopt the child if it came to that, but she couldn't let step of her past lifestyle and it was severely hurting my sister.
I've known frequent foster/adoption situations that have turned out wonderfully but sometimes it doesn't turn out as good as you hope. I was big-hearted of looking forward to her being around for awhile. Just another sister to have, well that be until she pulled all that and caused problems for my sister.
I'll be honest it was chance for me too. But with my baby on the way I'm glad things turned out the agency they did. Because now my mom gets to concentrate on her first grandchild.
Adoptees and natural mothers both lose something - adoptees lose their mother and home, mothers lose their child so both are hard. Adoptive families gain all the time.
My son and I enjoy been reunited for 5 years and we can never have the relationship that we both deserved as we have too frequent lost years.
Answers: I don't have to guess. I know. I am adopted and I enjoy a "sister" (although she never acted like one) who is the natural child of my adoptive parents.
My a-parents were insolent to the 3 children they adopted -- me included. In addition to that, being adopt IS, or CAN BE, hard because when I was a kid people be always teasing me that my "real" parents didn't want me and asking me why they didn't. They also made fun of the fact that I look completely different than my a-parents and their daughter.
I enjoy a really hard time with some of the answers you received -- the one where someone say that their younger adopted siblings are glad they were adopted... THEY don't know that. Anyone can guess what adoption feel like but only an adopted character really KNOWS. The other one that bothers me is the one that says that adoption is good because it gives a child "a better life". I'm really sick of audible range that for two reasons: I) MY adoption did NOT give me a better life -- I be abused in my ADOPTIVE home by my ADOPTIVE parents. What kind of a "better life" is that? And, before someone say that I don't know what my life would have been close to with my natural mother or father... I DO. I have reunited next to them and learned that they have had 5 more children (him 2, her 3) and NONE of my younger siblings be ever abused. If I had stayed with my natural parents -- and THEY BOTH WANTED to raise me -- I would never have been abused. 2) Adoption does not guarantee a better life, individual a different one. Being adopted does NOT mean that your first mother, father or both didn't want you. Nobody can know the real circumstances unless they hear it DIRECTLY from the first parents themselves.
Remember this: Every adoption starts near a loss. NOBODY is ever adopted until they have lost their first family. Some hold more pain and problems from that fact than others... but it is still a FACT in ALL adoption. Children don't fall from the sky or grow in the cabbage patch... someone -- the child's MOTHER -- carried that child in her body and chose for the child to live. Whatever else happen, she gave them life. My mother gave me time. My mother (and father) wanted me... they wanted to keep me, bump up me, and always be with me. They were not permitted to. My mother be coerced and threatened. My father was told that if he tried to see me or take me, he would be arrested. He wouldn't have -- that be a LIE! But, he was young and he didn't know his rights at the time. I don't blame him for that -- I blame the industry of adoption. And, yes... it is an INDUSTRY. People make TONS and TONS of money by finding babies and "giving" them to adopters. By the track, adoption can cost $40,000 or more and there are 90 or more couples waiting to adopt EVERY healthy newborn that is available. If you don't believe adoption is about making money... at least for SOMEONE... then consider again. Do some more reading and some more research.
It IS hard being adopted. NOBODY but an adoptee can really communicate you what it's like. Some people are adopted by great family and have good lives... but they still struggle with leaving, attachment, and other issues. They still have a desire to know their own, personal history. They wish to know, meet, gossip to and possibly have relationships with the people who created them. Does that be a sign of they are "bitter" or "ungrateful"? No. It means WE want what they rest of you (those who are not adopted) can have without even asking -- to know where on earth we came from and WHO we came from.
Yes. It's hard. Harder for some than for others... but other it involves a loss.
Take care! Source(s): Reunited adult adoptee and social worker.
i think its harder for the mother to put the newborn up for adoption to begin with, and if they are doing it out of selflessness to dispense the baby a better life. than they get my respect for anyone so brave.
sometimes the child will feel upset and abandoned because they felt similar to they were a mistake to their real parents. but they need to look at the bigger picture and see how much better their lives are presently, than they would have been growing up with a mother who wasnt equipped to be one.
I don't need to think about whether it'd be frozen to be adopted or not, because I AM adopted, and I know that it IS hard.
I've be lucky with the family I was adopt into. Unlike a lot of the stories I read, my afamily gets on wonderfully. Ok, so I'm not saying there's never a cross word, nor anything similar to that, but we all love each other, and that's the part that counts.
I can't answer just about the siblings thing however, as I'm an only child.
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