How do I adopt this tot?
Okay, I am 17 years old. Still in High School. Actively involved in the pursuit of my profession as an aspiring Paramedic. In counseling. I'm a good person, intelligent, resourceful, efficient, outspoken, and encouraging. I'm one of those people that others run to for help and support and I am the type of person that like to help people out when they're sick or in requirement. My best friend is pregnant and she's 16. She's an amazing girl who made a mistake. I've been helping her out with this and the father isn't doing anything to help her out. She doesn't want his newborn and isn't going to just kill it by having an abortion. I would similar to to adopt this baby. I will turn 18 when the baby is 2 months old. I am vastly mature for my age and am willing to take on this responsibility. I own never gotten into learning about adoption before and I be wondering if someone could guide me through it. Thank you so very much.
You can't. Most states won't let you adopt until you're at smallest 21 and can prove that you are financially stable. They ask for tax records for at least the ending 3 years and you haven't even been working that long.
If you really want to help your friend, help her angle and support her child herself. Separating mother and child is NOT helping. What are your friend's parents saying about this pregnancy? Does your friend have support from the adults within her life? She CANNOT be forced to relinquish her child even though she is under 18 -- it's important that she know that! Her parents cannot MAKE her give up her baby. If she wants to elevate the baby, help her. If she doesn't want to raise the toddler, wait until the baby is born. I'm pretty sure she'll change her mind. Source(s): Being a parent and babysitting are two VERY different things. You can oblige your friend by helping her to be a good parent...not by taking her child away from her.
The best thing for your friend to do would be to appoint you as her child's legally recognized guardian. This doesn't take a lot of time or paperwork or expense. That way if she does progress her mind, she can easily take custody of her daughter. If you all settle on after a few years go by that the little one really is best off with you, you can bring steps to adopt the child then.
Answers: It is NOT your responsibility to rescue this girl or her baby. As someone who had that same savior mentality for most of my life span, I have to tell you, this is not a good concept. This young mother will most likely want her baby once "it" is born, and if she feel obligated to give her baby away, that would pose a huge problem for her.
The best thing you can do is be her shoulder to cry on, be within when she needs to bounce ideas off of someone, and rouse her to make informed choices.
If, after the baby is born, she still feels incompetent to parent, maybe the two of you could live together and co-parent until she's on her feet. There are arrangements other than adoption that are far better for the ardent health and well being of mothers and babies. Just because she's babyish, that doesn't mean she can't be a good parent...and less than two years' age difference (between you and her) is NOT going to clear you a better candidate than her to parent her child. But that doesn't mean you can't support her and be there for her every step of the process.
It's going to be a hard road for her, for sure. But what she needs right now is passionate support, not someone to rescue her and try to remove the "problem". That will only create much, much worse problems for both her and her baby down the road. Do some research on what it's actually approaching for mothers and babies who have been separated. It goes against temper - and can't be done without major consequences.
I am a 17 year old mother of 3 children. 1 of which is adopted. I have have her since day 2. She is now a month old. My best friend get pregnant with her at 15 and wanted the baby although died while giving birth && I be going to be the god mother anyways so they granted me custody and I am 17 years of age. I also have a 1, and 3 year old with for a moment boy on the way should be here in the next 2 or 3 weeks.
You are doing a really worthy thing by trying to take the responsibility although it is really hard and if you put your mind to it you can kind it work! Just have to financially stable, with a stable home...
Good Luck..
As sweet as that sounds, its not all fun and games. I tried raising a babe at sixteen, and its only been two years. I still regret having sex. Don't catch me wrong I love my daughter.
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You can't. Most states won't let you adopt until you're at smallest 21 and can prove that you are financially stable. They ask for tax records for at least the ending 3 years and you haven't even been working that long.
If you really want to help your friend, help her angle and support her child herself. Separating mother and child is NOT helping. What are your friend's parents saying about this pregnancy? Does your friend have support from the adults within her life? She CANNOT be forced to relinquish her child even though she is under 18 -- it's important that she know that! Her parents cannot MAKE her give up her baby. If she wants to elevate the baby, help her. If she doesn't want to raise the toddler, wait until the baby is born. I'm pretty sure she'll change her mind. Source(s): Being a parent and babysitting are two VERY different things. You can oblige your friend by helping her to be a good parent...not by taking her child away from her.
The best thing for your friend to do would be to appoint you as her child's legally recognized guardian. This doesn't take a lot of time or paperwork or expense. That way if she does progress her mind, she can easily take custody of her daughter. If you all settle on after a few years go by that the little one really is best off with you, you can bring steps to adopt the child then.
Answers: It is NOT your responsibility to rescue this girl or her baby. As someone who had that same savior mentality for most of my life span, I have to tell you, this is not a good concept. This young mother will most likely want her baby once "it" is born, and if she feel obligated to give her baby away, that would pose a huge problem for her.
The best thing you can do is be her shoulder to cry on, be within when she needs to bounce ideas off of someone, and rouse her to make informed choices.
If, after the baby is born, she still feels incompetent to parent, maybe the two of you could live together and co-parent until she's on her feet. There are arrangements other than adoption that are far better for the ardent health and well being of mothers and babies. Just because she's babyish, that doesn't mean she can't be a good parent...and less than two years' age difference (between you and her) is NOT going to clear you a better candidate than her to parent her child. But that doesn't mean you can't support her and be there for her every step of the process.
It's going to be a hard road for her, for sure. But what she needs right now is passionate support, not someone to rescue her and try to remove the "problem". That will only create much, much worse problems for both her and her baby down the road. Do some research on what it's actually approaching for mothers and babies who have been separated. It goes against temper - and can't be done without major consequences.
I am a 17 year old mother of 3 children. 1 of which is adopted. I have have her since day 2. She is now a month old. My best friend get pregnant with her at 15 and wanted the baby although died while giving birth && I be going to be the god mother anyways so they granted me custody and I am 17 years of age. I also have a 1, and 3 year old with for a moment boy on the way should be here in the next 2 or 3 weeks.
You are doing a really worthy thing by trying to take the responsibility although it is really hard and if you put your mind to it you can kind it work! Just have to financially stable, with a stable home...
Good Luck..
As sweet as that sounds, its not all fun and games. I tried raising a babe at sixteen, and its only been two years. I still regret having sex. Don't catch me wrong I love my daughter.
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