My son's crude mom is not returning packages, why?
I am just looking for a little insight. Our son is 2-and-a-half. We have an unfurl adoption with his natural mom. His natural mom be great for the first 2 years at sending letters and pictures back to us, but I have presently written 3 letters in the past 6 months and no response. What do you suggest could be the cause of this? Do you think she would like me to write smaller quantity? Have less correspondence? I have been asking her for more pictures and information and stories in the order of her and her family. I want our son to know as much as he can about his natural kith and kin. I even asked in the last letter how commonly she would like me to send pictures and write letters. I still hold not gotten a response. What do you think? Should I keep writing or just be tolerant and see what she does? Thanks!
i would be patient and see wat she does, she could be busy or she could just not want anything to do near the child. its hard to tell. just loaf a week or two and try to write or call her and see whats up. i hope things go well!
Get a middle group (adoption agency) involved that can speed up communication and help you understand what she wants.
I'm no expert, but it seem like she's going through a hard time, or just requests less communication. It's probably tough on her, so just wait for her, or draw from someone involved, but don't keep sending letters. Also, try getting Delivery Confirmation for the letters to ensure that she's in truth gotten them before you assume she's ignoring you.
Good luck to your family and child.
Answers: I am 18 years old, and about a year and half ago, I give my baby up for adoption. I made a huge mistake and wasn't ready to be a parent, so I thought adoption was best for my child.
It has been a while since I said goodbye to my baby, but even today my heart still ache for her sometimes. I had an open adoption, as well, and sometimes it is of late too painful. The mother of your child is probably have a rough patch. I would say to linger a while to send her more information. Hopefully she can get through this and then start communicating again.
I basically know that for me, there are good times and bad. Times when I want to know adjectives about my daughter and her life, and times when its just too bumpy to think about. Give it some time for now.
Best of luck to you.
my first concern would be is she ok? If was really apposite at responding in the past then adjectives the sudden boom theres no communication I would be worried about her since this would be considered out of character behavior but if this is normal for her i would not be concern. Do you own a phone number of a relative she is in contact with, maybe her mother or a sibling you could hail as to make sure she is ok?
Sometimes birthparents (natural parents as you call them) need space away from the total adoption thing. It's a tough situation emotionally. Sometimes birthparents just want to know that they made the right choice with going through beside the adoption and once they are content with their decision they don't want updates anymore. Other birthparents sometimes don't want updates because it's just too knotty hearing about a baby that they give up.
If you adopted through an agency, maybe ask a counselor at the agency what their thoughts are about this. Our birthparents would distribute a card once in awhile but lately they have disappeared also. Our son is 2.
another thought is that maybe they are impression like they don't want to give up too much information about themselves? It's sturdy to say, all birthparents are different. If you want to chat about this, there's a great site near some wonderful girls that have been through the adoption process (adopted, fostered, currently trying to adopt). You're welcome to associate us, follow the link at the bottom of this message. :-) Source(s): http://morethanmoms.createforum.net/index.php?sid=0ee115c68face7cc56ba34d9321f5121
You preserve doing what your doing sending letter and pictures etc. I think the pain is so great she really doesn't know what to read aloud or write. She will come around, You will hear from her.
I would dare to suggest it's probably enormously painful for her, and although it's a great thing there's communication between the two of you, maybe she merely needs a break from it for the time being. It would pay to engineer sure she's all right (eg nothing serious has happen to her). If everyting's okay, then leave it up to her to resume contact.
It could be anything really, but painful comes first to mind. I thought it was all great for a while after surrendering my daughter, but it set within. I had a closed adoption, and have often wondered how I would own handled an opened one if given the opportunity because some days, weeks, months, were simply excruciating. Keep writing, express how much you would like to keep the lines of communication opened, and be tolerant. She may be having low self esteem issues and feeling like she doesn't enjoy anything positive to write. I'm sure she appriciates the updates or she would have said so, even if she doesn't read them, they are there when she is ready.
Keep writing, but don't be surprised if you don't hear from her for awhile. It may just be too painful for her to respond.
It is very intricate to see the child growing up, and changing, all the while,,knowing that she cannot be "mommy."
The ideal of "widen adoption"..(that the contact would end the pain)..is much different from the reality that the child will not be with the inbred mother.
I do wonder if she received any counseling that prepared her for this reality. Few pregnant women are told the truth about "open adoption"..that it still manner they are losing their child.
Keep doing it away agency. I'm in the same boat as you these days. 6 months and nought. They won't even organise a visit with us. It does worry me, but I still distribute in the updates and will keep up our end of the adoption plan as best I can and besides I'd do it anyway, I'm authentic about things, and she has a right to know what they're up to over the years. Hopefully she reads it and soon want contact again with them. Its all you can do, after all this of for long permanent status not the short term that we agree to an adoption plan. Source(s): adoptive mum
Adoptive mom here,
I deliberate you should continue sending the letters until she asks you to stop. And even if she does ask for the letters to abstain from, I would still continue to write them and hold on to them just in armour she ever changes her mind.
Having never placed a child for adoption, I cannot imagine all of the discomfort and conflicting emotions involved, however, I could certainly appreciate how painful it can be to see pictures of your child and even so not be able to raise him. There really could be a million reasons that you only just won't know unless she tells you.
We can only really control our own actions so I applaud your pains to keep you son connected to his roots and just continue doing what you are doing. Hopefully you'll hear from his first mom soon. Source(s): Mom of 2
Be patient. It could hurt her to see so much of her child being raise by you. Give her some space enough to miss the child and look forward to the updates.
Have you ruled out this woman being sick or maybe hurt? People draw from ill enough to be hospitalized with adjectives kinds of things. Don't mean to worry you, newly a thought. Or maybe she doesn't want to involve her own family as much as you want her to.
We adopted my daughters child. She is 5 years elderly & we've had her since she was 1.
My daughter longs for the child and sometimes she has cried so I limitation the amount of interaction to spare her hurt. She made bad choices which caused the authorities to get involved so we intervened . Out adoption is also enlarge. We live in 2 different states but visit as much as we can.
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i would be patient and see wat she does, she could be busy or she could just not want anything to do near the child. its hard to tell. just loaf a week or two and try to write or call her and see whats up. i hope things go well!
Get a middle group (adoption agency) involved that can speed up communication and help you understand what she wants.
I'm no expert, but it seem like she's going through a hard time, or just requests less communication. It's probably tough on her, so just wait for her, or draw from someone involved, but don't keep sending letters. Also, try getting Delivery Confirmation for the letters to ensure that she's in truth gotten them before you assume she's ignoring you.
Good luck to your family and child.
Answers: I am 18 years old, and about a year and half ago, I give my baby up for adoption. I made a huge mistake and wasn't ready to be a parent, so I thought adoption was best for my child.
It has been a while since I said goodbye to my baby, but even today my heart still ache for her sometimes. I had an open adoption, as well, and sometimes it is of late too painful. The mother of your child is probably have a rough patch. I would say to linger a while to send her more information. Hopefully she can get through this and then start communicating again.
I basically know that for me, there are good times and bad. Times when I want to know adjectives about my daughter and her life, and times when its just too bumpy to think about. Give it some time for now.
Best of luck to you.
my first concern would be is she ok? If was really apposite at responding in the past then adjectives the sudden boom theres no communication I would be worried about her since this would be considered out of character behavior but if this is normal for her i would not be concern. Do you own a phone number of a relative she is in contact with, maybe her mother or a sibling you could hail as to make sure she is ok?
Sometimes birthparents (natural parents as you call them) need space away from the total adoption thing. It's a tough situation emotionally. Sometimes birthparents just want to know that they made the right choice with going through beside the adoption and once they are content with their decision they don't want updates anymore. Other birthparents sometimes don't want updates because it's just too knotty hearing about a baby that they give up.
If you adopted through an agency, maybe ask a counselor at the agency what their thoughts are about this. Our birthparents would distribute a card once in awhile but lately they have disappeared also. Our son is 2.
another thought is that maybe they are impression like they don't want to give up too much information about themselves? It's sturdy to say, all birthparents are different. If you want to chat about this, there's a great site near some wonderful girls that have been through the adoption process (adopted, fostered, currently trying to adopt). You're welcome to associate us, follow the link at the bottom of this message. :-) Source(s): http://morethanmoms.createforum.net/index.php?sid=0ee115c68face7cc56ba34d9321f5121
You preserve doing what your doing sending letter and pictures etc. I think the pain is so great she really doesn't know what to read aloud or write. She will come around, You will hear from her.
I would dare to suggest it's probably enormously painful for her, and although it's a great thing there's communication between the two of you, maybe she merely needs a break from it for the time being. It would pay to engineer sure she's all right (eg nothing serious has happen to her). If everyting's okay, then leave it up to her to resume contact.
It could be anything really, but painful comes first to mind. I thought it was all great for a while after surrendering my daughter, but it set within. I had a closed adoption, and have often wondered how I would own handled an opened one if given the opportunity because some days, weeks, months, were simply excruciating. Keep writing, express how much you would like to keep the lines of communication opened, and be tolerant. She may be having low self esteem issues and feeling like she doesn't enjoy anything positive to write. I'm sure she appriciates the updates or she would have said so, even if she doesn't read them, they are there when she is ready.
Keep writing, but don't be surprised if you don't hear from her for awhile. It may just be too painful for her to respond.
It is very intricate to see the child growing up, and changing, all the while,,knowing that she cannot be "mommy."
The ideal of "widen adoption"..(that the contact would end the pain)..is much different from the reality that the child will not be with the inbred mother.
I do wonder if she received any counseling that prepared her for this reality. Few pregnant women are told the truth about "open adoption"..that it still manner they are losing their child.
Keep doing it away agency. I'm in the same boat as you these days. 6 months and nought. They won't even organise a visit with us. It does worry me, but I still distribute in the updates and will keep up our end of the adoption plan as best I can and besides I'd do it anyway, I'm authentic about things, and she has a right to know what they're up to over the years. Hopefully she reads it and soon want contact again with them. Its all you can do, after all this of for long permanent status not the short term that we agree to an adoption plan. Source(s): adoptive mum
Adoptive mom here,
I deliberate you should continue sending the letters until she asks you to stop. And even if she does ask for the letters to abstain from, I would still continue to write them and hold on to them just in armour she ever changes her mind.
Having never placed a child for adoption, I cannot imagine all of the discomfort and conflicting emotions involved, however, I could certainly appreciate how painful it can be to see pictures of your child and even so not be able to raise him. There really could be a million reasons that you only just won't know unless she tells you.
We can only really control our own actions so I applaud your pains to keep you son connected to his roots and just continue doing what you are doing. Hopefully you'll hear from his first mom soon. Source(s): Mom of 2
Be patient. It could hurt her to see so much of her child being raise by you. Give her some space enough to miss the child and look forward to the updates.
Have you ruled out this woman being sick or maybe hurt? People draw from ill enough to be hospitalized with adjectives kinds of things. Don't mean to worry you, newly a thought. Or maybe she doesn't want to involve her own family as much as you want her to.
We adopted my daughters child. She is 5 years elderly & we've had her since she was 1.
My daughter longs for the child and sometimes she has cried so I limitation the amount of interaction to spare her hurt. She made bad choices which caused the authorities to get involved so we intervened . Out adoption is also enlarge. We live in 2 different states but visit as much as we can.
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