Do you infer this being sounds close to a perfect adoptive parent?
A man posted recently who asked if single males could adopt a baby. I said I believed it was not a polite idea (for ANY single person) to adopt because kid who lost their families need a parent at home, and not be placed within daycare 40-50 hours a week.
This PAP sent me an e-mail which seems to indicate some issues that might not show up in a home study. Do you think this party would make a good AP? The only piece I have altered are some asterisks (*) where letters once be, but I'm sure you can figure it out.
"Subject: Blow it out your a** you moron
Message: Sunny, you should just keep your fu* stupid curvy mouth shut and keep your negative feelings to yourself. No one asked for your smart aleck stupid a** comments. You affix nothing of value. I am independently wealthy and do NOT work - so that answers your as* quiz about "being gone 50 hours a week and putting kid in daycare". Also, a single man can be a great parent JUST as okay as a single woman (better in many cases) and Families? Do you know how SCREWED up most families are? Fighting, swearing, physical, mental, kids scared to death of drunken parents or drugged out family member. Don't even go there jacka**. Keep your low IQ fat mouth shut ok? "
Sounds like he get anger issues, unless you pissed him off with your comment.
Yowza.
Snark=Oh, that's some prime daddy material right there. The ability to preserve one's temper is the last thing a parent requests.
Verbal abuse=What a hateful, ugly, screwed-up moronic d*nozzle.
Which I wouldn't say except as an example, because I within fact know nothing about his appearance or IQ anymore than he know anything about Sunny's.
Sunny, the only 'moron'...is the moron that wrote this to you. Not to mention quite the Coward as well. Always amazes me the size of testicles and ovaries some general public display while sitting behind the safety of their computers, spewing insults and verbal foul language. These same people, I am sure IRL, wouldn't dare to speak to another person, the way these types of Cowards do on the internet! Source(s): The Moron/Coward that wrote this email!
I never believe people like that who claim to be independantly booming, and then proceed to use nasty words towards someone whose answer they don't like.
ETA: he sounds similar to a canidate for anger management at the least
Answers: That character should even be allowed around a child, let alone adopt one. Even if he was married, he still shouldn't be allowed to. That language be horrible. Can you imagine what that child would learn living with him? What I would do is block him from every emailing you again. Not at upright plan for him to be considering adoption
LOL im sorry laugh but he have so many anger issue's.It's just funny and he wants to adopt he's crazy...super crazy..
I am pretty sure that I was getting emails from his sister last week. I stopped accepting private messages to stop her. I am not surprised that he doesn't allow email, as citizens who spread this kind of hatred really can't handle truth or experience except their own narrow view of it. Something contrary to their narrow beliefs throws them into a spin from which they cannot recuperate, so they attack to make you agree with them.
Not only should this man NOT be allowed to adopt, but he should possibly be checked by a psychiatrist; clearly he have issues beyond anything that can be handled on a forum.
Isn't it interesting that when we say anything that is different than what their scenery is, it suddenly is a "negative feeling" but when they are spewing in our direction, we who have lived this experience for decades are supposed to shut up and adopt it as the ultimate word!? I will never understand that thinking. Oh, wait, yes I do! They hold something to gain.
Well, he'd fit in great with my a-mom from the sounds of him.
That person said, this man has no place being around children. He is a piece of work. He could have explained his situation within the question so that people would understand where on earth he is coming from. Or he could have explained that to you without all the heated words. I also find it strong to believe that what he is saying is true, because he "doth protest TOO much..."
Sunny, you add tons of value to this board. This individual adds nothing of any consequence. I always wonder why populace ask certain things on Answers here. If he is so wealthy and educated, you'd expect he'd be lawyered up and have someone to ask these these kinds of questions. Honestly, I muse Y!A is good for opinions at best, and asking questions where on earth you need an "real" answer isn't going to happen here. Makes you wonder about his state of mind to switch on with.
ETA: Sunny... read his other questions... they blow his "truth" right out the window. He is just now unemployed seeking unemployment. That doesn't sound similar to independant wealth to me. Source(s): Adoptee, mother of 5
If a guy wanting a biological child sent that to you, would you have made a post about it? There are single parents everywhere. Not adjectives work that much, or at all. I mean really, he was a butt, he get pissed at you, he doesn't need a child (adopted or not) until he gets his anger issues sorted out, if he ever can, but was it really basic to post that? What are you trying to acheive other than people taking you side? Just let it stir
Obviously he is a few cards short of a full deck. I get a nice email like that last week and also got a couple of harsh comments on my blog from someone here. What did I do? I answered a question about international adoption. Not that I would know anything about that.
I can not for the natural life of me understand why anyone would bash someone they did not know like that. This is an internet forum. Not that serious at all.
What he wrote to you be disrespectful and verbally abusive. Hopefully Yahoo will take measures to prevent him from person able to verbally abuse you or others surrounded by the future.
I don't know what make me more disappointed/sickened with the human see...douches such as that guy telling people that had to move about through the adoption ordeal without a voice to shut up and keep reality to themselves or moronic infertile women next to an agenda like Cam agreeing with him/it. Its a close call.
Instead of berating nation that are trying to prevent more atrocities from occurring.. that bitter Pap should take a look at his psychological problems and agenda. He should stay away all children never mind just babies. No child she be forced to live beside a verbally abusive Stranger. Source(s): That guy sounds like a bottom to be exact envious of Fertile women in general. He's pissed that he doesn't have a uterus and blames fertile women for it.
THAT is going to give me nightmares. I bet Yahoo! could help you find out who he is and report him to the proper authorities. A guy like that should not be allowed to babysit permit alone adopt a kid.
ETA: So if we follow the logic of the poster below me, any adoptee who challenges an adoptive parent deserves to be verbally abused. Lovely.
I'm glad SHE didn't adopt me but I feel sorry for her kids. Yikes!
No. If I had a nickel for every profanity laced email Ive received from a pap on Y!A, Id be rich. I other report them, then I save the emails/and or link to their q/a...ESPECIALLY if they are trolling for babies. It frightens me.
And BTW- I dont give attention to women who work full time should be allowed to adopt. Their adoptive child needs extra attention, and a daycare provider isn't going to cut it.
I hold heard that potential adoptive parents who post at Y!A trolling for babies frequently send vile email messages to those who thwart their need to acquire a rapid and easy infant. Rest assured. They hang out on Y!A hoping to hook a sucker because there is no approach in he!! that they could pass a home study.
This man is just another of matching ilk who thinks that women should be honored to pop out a womb fresh infant to fulfill their desire.
I am sorry, Sunny, that you had to read his filthy spew. I keep my email sour. I do not tolerate fools well.
ETA - Dang - I did not answer the question. No, I do think that this human being would be a good adoptive parent. I think that he is not a typical adoptive parent. He is not all that unusual, but he is not typical.
Yeah great. Doesn't nouns like the abusive type at all.
I'd abhor to see what happens when his mini me brings home an A-
yeah, he wrote me too: "Just because you apparently have a bad experience with your adoptive parent(s) don't take your cases out on me JB - I would say that a child in the screwed up state foster care systems of the USA would be ALOT better bad with a great parent like me, its probably best if you keep your sexist stupid view to yourself and take your bitter pill because you obviously have foremost issues or mental problems."
what made me laugh was that he assumed that it was because he be a 46 year old male...when in reality if a 46 year old female had asked more or less adopting I would have said the exact same thing.
I would approaching to reiterate that I don't think he'd be a good AP. He asked for my opinion as an fully developed adoptee, and then when I gave it, he verbally abused me. Source(s): developed adoptee
Very interesting indeed. I can't serve but wonder what kind of parent someone with such intense anger issues would be. If he is so willing to be in words abusive to a stranger online what would he be saying to a child or teen when they start asking hard question? I think this person would make a horrid parent of any charitable but an especially awful AP. He sounds very hostile and jumpy. Not a good combination IMO. Hopefully nobody will ever be giving this piece of trash a child.
WOW. Just WOW. He couldn't have just said, "I don't work, so problem solved"?
Let's see if I can find a nice way of putting this...it other worries me when PAP's can't handle a discussion about the REAL best interests of a child. If thinking about what a child will shift through is too much to ask of someone, it's best that they steer clear of adoption.
And it would be in THIS guy's best interests to take some anger management classes and probably some "chill pills" prescribed by the local come first doc. At best, his response was a severe overreaction.
Definitely not good adoptive parent matter. Actually, I wouldn't even recommend a puppy in his case.
Some first families and some adoptive family are exactly alike. It would be hard to separate them. And that is very glum. We all could do a lot better evidently.
I have to say his response to you triggers me a great deal. I be raised by an amother who had severe anger issues. Whatever bile she felt close to spouting at that moment got spouted. If her instinct was to reach out and slap, she did that too. If she really feel like lacing it to us, she grabbed the nearest doubt. Seeing a flyswatter can still set me off and render me a shaking 7 yo again. There was no room for disagreement with my amom. The singular truth out there was hers.
People with anger problems should NOT know how to adopt. If someone is able to treat a stranger with such disregard, what will happen when his achild rebel, or asks questions, or has an opinion different to him? Source(s): It make me queasy when I see people trying to justify an outright verbal attack on someone as something that they "deserved". There be a time where my amom thought I was very deserving of anything she could come up beside.
Sunny, I never thought I'd agree with you on anything but I expect children are better off in a 2-parent home where one (usually the mom) stays home too. And this guy be obviously a jerk, or maybe he's a troll. But the certainty that you made his email public & copied it so everyone could see it & offer their opinion about it shows profusely more about you than it does about him. When I first started coming here it didnt take me long to see that you close to to ask loaded questions & give answers that are controversial, & you can be quite snarky too. So it shouldnt surprise you that someone might not agree next to you or treat you with respect.
All I see is an email that you most likely deserved. You're pretty good at dishing out the snark.appreciably you can't take it though.
This person is probably is fine parent. Just pi$$ed at you.
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This PAP sent me an e-mail which seems to indicate some issues that might not show up in a home study. Do you think this party would make a good AP? The only piece I have altered are some asterisks (*) where letters once be, but I'm sure you can figure it out.
"Subject: Blow it out your a** you moron
Message: Sunny, you should just keep your fu* stupid curvy mouth shut and keep your negative feelings to yourself. No one asked for your smart aleck stupid a** comments. You affix nothing of value. I am independently wealthy and do NOT work - so that answers your as* quiz about "being gone 50 hours a week and putting kid in daycare". Also, a single man can be a great parent JUST as okay as a single woman (better in many cases) and Families? Do you know how SCREWED up most families are? Fighting, swearing, physical, mental, kids scared to death of drunken parents or drugged out family member. Don't even go there jacka**. Keep your low IQ fat mouth shut ok? "
Sounds like he get anger issues, unless you pissed him off with your comment.
Yowza.
Snark=Oh, that's some prime daddy material right there. The ability to preserve one's temper is the last thing a parent requests.
Verbal abuse=What a hateful, ugly, screwed-up moronic d*nozzle.
Which I wouldn't say except as an example, because I within fact know nothing about his appearance or IQ anymore than he know anything about Sunny's.
Sunny, the only 'moron'...is the moron that wrote this to you. Not to mention quite the Coward as well. Always amazes me the size of testicles and ovaries some general public display while sitting behind the safety of their computers, spewing insults and verbal foul language. These same people, I am sure IRL, wouldn't dare to speak to another person, the way these types of Cowards do on the internet! Source(s): The Moron/Coward that wrote this email!
I never believe people like that who claim to be independantly booming, and then proceed to use nasty words towards someone whose answer they don't like.
ETA: he sounds similar to a canidate for anger management at the least
Answers: That character should even be allowed around a child, let alone adopt one. Even if he was married, he still shouldn't be allowed to. That language be horrible. Can you imagine what that child would learn living with him? What I would do is block him from every emailing you again. Not at upright plan for him to be considering adoption
LOL im sorry laugh but he have so many anger issue's.It's just funny and he wants to adopt he's crazy...super crazy..
I am pretty sure that I was getting emails from his sister last week. I stopped accepting private messages to stop her. I am not surprised that he doesn't allow email, as citizens who spread this kind of hatred really can't handle truth or experience except their own narrow view of it. Something contrary to their narrow beliefs throws them into a spin from which they cannot recuperate, so they attack to make you agree with them.
Not only should this man NOT be allowed to adopt, but he should possibly be checked by a psychiatrist; clearly he have issues beyond anything that can be handled on a forum.
Isn't it interesting that when we say anything that is different than what their scenery is, it suddenly is a "negative feeling" but when they are spewing in our direction, we who have lived this experience for decades are supposed to shut up and adopt it as the ultimate word!? I will never understand that thinking. Oh, wait, yes I do! They hold something to gain.
Well, he'd fit in great with my a-mom from the sounds of him.
That person said, this man has no place being around children. He is a piece of work. He could have explained his situation within the question so that people would understand where on earth he is coming from. Or he could have explained that to you without all the heated words. I also find it strong to believe that what he is saying is true, because he "doth protest TOO much..."
Sunny, you add tons of value to this board. This individual adds nothing of any consequence. I always wonder why populace ask certain things on Answers here. If he is so wealthy and educated, you'd expect he'd be lawyered up and have someone to ask these these kinds of questions. Honestly, I muse Y!A is good for opinions at best, and asking questions where on earth you need an "real" answer isn't going to happen here. Makes you wonder about his state of mind to switch on with.
ETA: Sunny... read his other questions... they blow his "truth" right out the window. He is just now unemployed seeking unemployment. That doesn't sound similar to independant wealth to me. Source(s): Adoptee, mother of 5
If a guy wanting a biological child sent that to you, would you have made a post about it? There are single parents everywhere. Not adjectives work that much, or at all. I mean really, he was a butt, he get pissed at you, he doesn't need a child (adopted or not) until he gets his anger issues sorted out, if he ever can, but was it really basic to post that? What are you trying to acheive other than people taking you side? Just let it stir
Obviously he is a few cards short of a full deck. I get a nice email like that last week and also got a couple of harsh comments on my blog from someone here. What did I do? I answered a question about international adoption. Not that I would know anything about that.
I can not for the natural life of me understand why anyone would bash someone they did not know like that. This is an internet forum. Not that serious at all.
What he wrote to you be disrespectful and verbally abusive. Hopefully Yahoo will take measures to prevent him from person able to verbally abuse you or others surrounded by the future.
I don't know what make me more disappointed/sickened with the human see...douches such as that guy telling people that had to move about through the adoption ordeal without a voice to shut up and keep reality to themselves or moronic infertile women next to an agenda like Cam agreeing with him/it. Its a close call.
Instead of berating nation that are trying to prevent more atrocities from occurring.. that bitter Pap should take a look at his psychological problems and agenda. He should stay away all children never mind just babies. No child she be forced to live beside a verbally abusive Stranger. Source(s): That guy sounds like a bottom to be exact envious of Fertile women in general. He's pissed that he doesn't have a uterus and blames fertile women for it.
THAT is going to give me nightmares. I bet Yahoo! could help you find out who he is and report him to the proper authorities. A guy like that should not be allowed to babysit permit alone adopt a kid.
ETA: So if we follow the logic of the poster below me, any adoptee who challenges an adoptive parent deserves to be verbally abused. Lovely.
I'm glad SHE didn't adopt me but I feel sorry for her kids. Yikes!
No. If I had a nickel for every profanity laced email Ive received from a pap on Y!A, Id be rich. I other report them, then I save the emails/and or link to their q/a...ESPECIALLY if they are trolling for babies. It frightens me.
And BTW- I dont give attention to women who work full time should be allowed to adopt. Their adoptive child needs extra attention, and a daycare provider isn't going to cut it.
I hold heard that potential adoptive parents who post at Y!A trolling for babies frequently send vile email messages to those who thwart their need to acquire a rapid and easy infant. Rest assured. They hang out on Y!A hoping to hook a sucker because there is no approach in he!! that they could pass a home study.
This man is just another of matching ilk who thinks that women should be honored to pop out a womb fresh infant to fulfill their desire.
I am sorry, Sunny, that you had to read his filthy spew. I keep my email sour. I do not tolerate fools well.
ETA - Dang - I did not answer the question. No, I do think that this human being would be a good adoptive parent. I think that he is not a typical adoptive parent. He is not all that unusual, but he is not typical.
Yeah great. Doesn't nouns like the abusive type at all.
I'd abhor to see what happens when his mini me brings home an A-
yeah, he wrote me too: "Just because you apparently have a bad experience with your adoptive parent(s) don't take your cases out on me JB - I would say that a child in the screwed up state foster care systems of the USA would be ALOT better bad with a great parent like me, its probably best if you keep your sexist stupid view to yourself and take your bitter pill because you obviously have foremost issues or mental problems."
what made me laugh was that he assumed that it was because he be a 46 year old male...when in reality if a 46 year old female had asked more or less adopting I would have said the exact same thing.
I would approaching to reiterate that I don't think he'd be a good AP. He asked for my opinion as an fully developed adoptee, and then when I gave it, he verbally abused me. Source(s): developed adoptee
Very interesting indeed. I can't serve but wonder what kind of parent someone with such intense anger issues would be. If he is so willing to be in words abusive to a stranger online what would he be saying to a child or teen when they start asking hard question? I think this person would make a horrid parent of any charitable but an especially awful AP. He sounds very hostile and jumpy. Not a good combination IMO. Hopefully nobody will ever be giving this piece of trash a child.
WOW. Just WOW. He couldn't have just said, "I don't work, so problem solved"?
Let's see if I can find a nice way of putting this...it other worries me when PAP's can't handle a discussion about the REAL best interests of a child. If thinking about what a child will shift through is too much to ask of someone, it's best that they steer clear of adoption.
And it would be in THIS guy's best interests to take some anger management classes and probably some "chill pills" prescribed by the local come first doc. At best, his response was a severe overreaction.
Definitely not good adoptive parent matter. Actually, I wouldn't even recommend a puppy in his case.
Some first families and some adoptive family are exactly alike. It would be hard to separate them. And that is very glum. We all could do a lot better evidently.
I have to say his response to you triggers me a great deal. I be raised by an amother who had severe anger issues. Whatever bile she felt close to spouting at that moment got spouted. If her instinct was to reach out and slap, she did that too. If she really feel like lacing it to us, she grabbed the nearest doubt. Seeing a flyswatter can still set me off and render me a shaking 7 yo again. There was no room for disagreement with my amom. The singular truth out there was hers.
People with anger problems should NOT know how to adopt. If someone is able to treat a stranger with such disregard, what will happen when his achild rebel, or asks questions, or has an opinion different to him? Source(s): It make me queasy when I see people trying to justify an outright verbal attack on someone as something that they "deserved". There be a time where my amom thought I was very deserving of anything she could come up beside.
Sunny, I never thought I'd agree with you on anything but I expect children are better off in a 2-parent home where one (usually the mom) stays home too. And this guy be obviously a jerk, or maybe he's a troll. But the certainty that you made his email public & copied it so everyone could see it & offer their opinion about it shows profusely more about you than it does about him. When I first started coming here it didnt take me long to see that you close to to ask loaded questions & give answers that are controversial, & you can be quite snarky too. So it shouldnt surprise you that someone might not agree next to you or treat you with respect.
All I see is an email that you most likely deserved. You're pretty good at dishing out the snark.appreciably you can't take it though.
This person is probably is fine parent. Just pi$$ed at you.
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