What should I do.?
My boy friend is claiming he's not the father of our baby. I am currently 9 weeks pregnant. I was talking near one of my friends they said I could just adopt it out. And I thought about it but I could never just sign out my baby. I want to raise my child. I don't want to have an abortion approaching my boyfriend said and I don't want to make an adoption plan like my friend suggest.
Doesn't time change things, won't my boy friend want to angle his baby once it is born? Shouldn't a DNA test clear everything up and get of adjectives misunderstandings?
I purely wanted to point out that most fathers who don't live with their children DON'T reward child support (http://www.urban.org/publications/310334… The article I sited says 2/3s don't pay formal support. My daughter's father never paid a dime. This is not something you should rely on within making your decision. If you think you can do it on your own financially, go for it. I did it (with my mom's help) and it's possible. Adoption isn't something to be enter into lightly, but neither is raising a child. You have some time vanished to think about it. Do what's best for you.
Well if you boyfriend said to have an abortion it should be clear he doesnt want the baby whether its his or not. You should hang on to the baby and raise him/her if you have the money and the love to do it, but but for then put the baby for adoption and give him/her to a family circle that will have the money and the love.
Answers: No, he is a Jacka##. That will never change.
Don't hold an abortion just because your boyfriend says so and don't surrender because a friend suggested it.
You want to raise your kid so do that otherwise you'll only regret it if you don't. This is your baby, your body and your decision and next to a boyfriend and a friend like yours who needs enemies. Don't listen to them and follow your heart.
I meditate you should parent your child like you want. After your child is born then you can do a DNA test to prove that your bf is the father. He might not be a correct father but you can be a good mother. And he will have to pay child support at the really least.
A DNA assessment won't make him a good father.
DNA testing, your love, "loving instinct" once he sees the baby, time, or anything else won't ever guarantee he'll be a good father.
It will probably manufacture him resentful and mean.
You need to decide here and very soon that you are the child's mother and will do what's best for YOU and the baby. That means, getting the necessary court papers and enforce his paternity, and also keeping your distance from him.
Maybe he'll come around.
Maybe time will change his mind.
Hope for the best, PLAN FOR THE WORST!
You need to contact a social worker, or the family court surrounded by your area. Find out what your rights are, find out what paperwork you need to prove paternity. Find out if there are deadline, or any other "loopholes" that could get him off scot free.
I really recommend a lawyer.
Well nobody can kind those decisions for you. I will tell you my story and you can take it or move off it.
Well my boyfriend and I broke up and 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with my oldest son (who is almost 12). My boyfriend said no means of access was it his (and i was 100% sure it was). He told me to have an abortion. I told him no... I don't believe contained by that for myself. I was adopted as a child and did think roughly speaking placing my son for adoption. However, I didn't have a wonderful adopted family.. within was good and bad, but I couldn't put my son thru what I have been thru. I was lucky.. I knew I couldnt' save him and do it on my own.. so my boyfriend's mom said she would help me. She saw how I was broken up about the trueness I was going to have to place him for adoption. So we made a plan and I kept my son. (I know I was lucky and an unusual situation) Paternity be done (state mandated) and it came back 99.76% my ex-boyfriend was the father. So he compensated childsupport until my husband adopted my son. My son's birth father was not involved in his life span for years, except he saw him a handful of times when my son was little. Now days we are all on good vocabulary and get together for holidays. It's not a typical scenario... but my son't birthdad never came around the way our son needed him to at the right time.
Don't build your decisions based on what he may or may not do. You do what you know is best... what you can do. Do you have a support system? Do you hold a goal in mind for yourself.. life perceptive. Can you make it with the support system that is available to you.
This is ultimatly your decree and yours alone. If you choose adoption, know that it is the most loving thing you can do for a child, when you go into with your eyes widespread open. Best of luck and trust yourself. Source(s): Adoptee, Mother of 3 and life experience
A DNA test will prove he is the biological father and will require him to support his child. We will hope he will hold a change of heart once he sees his son or daughter. For men, babies are often more of an abstract concept until they truly see them. For you, you live with that little one 24/7 and you are his or her mom and you already love him or her. : )
Wishing you all well.
He might know he is a dad. Many guys say they are not sure the baby is theirs so they hold an excuse to not be responsible. Maybe once he sees the baby he will change. There is no gaurantee though. I be going to if he doesn't want to be a father even if he finds out the baby is his that won't make him be there for you and the kid. I mean think about it does he own a reason to feel this way. Is he essentially jealous? Have you been unfaithful?
go to maury.. not being a smart *** but dna trial cost alot.. if you take him to the maury show you find out for free and its not bad at all.. I see it on tv alot
Unfortunately your boyfriend have shown his true colors. It's wise to heed the warning.
You really need to get this decision based on what you can provide for your child, and not count on him. However that doesn't mean that you, along near friends or family, can't provide your child with a wonderful life.
Now is an excellent time to start conversation with everyone you would need to count on for support, asking their guidance, and how they might be willing and competent to help you.
Hoping abundant support comes your way.
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Doesn't time change things, won't my boy friend want to angle his baby once it is born? Shouldn't a DNA test clear everything up and get of adjectives misunderstandings?
I purely wanted to point out that most fathers who don't live with their children DON'T reward child support (http://www.urban.org/publications/310334… The article I sited says 2/3s don't pay formal support. My daughter's father never paid a dime. This is not something you should rely on within making your decision. If you think you can do it on your own financially, go for it. I did it (with my mom's help) and it's possible. Adoption isn't something to be enter into lightly, but neither is raising a child. You have some time vanished to think about it. Do what's best for you.
Well if you boyfriend said to have an abortion it should be clear he doesnt want the baby whether its his or not. You should hang on to the baby and raise him/her if you have the money and the love to do it, but but for then put the baby for adoption and give him/her to a family circle that will have the money and the love.
Answers: No, he is a Jacka##. That will never change.
Don't hold an abortion just because your boyfriend says so and don't surrender because a friend suggested it.
You want to raise your kid so do that otherwise you'll only regret it if you don't. This is your baby, your body and your decision and next to a boyfriend and a friend like yours who needs enemies. Don't listen to them and follow your heart.
I meditate you should parent your child like you want. After your child is born then you can do a DNA test to prove that your bf is the father. He might not be a correct father but you can be a good mother. And he will have to pay child support at the really least.
A DNA assessment won't make him a good father.
DNA testing, your love, "loving instinct" once he sees the baby, time, or anything else won't ever guarantee he'll be a good father.
It will probably manufacture him resentful and mean.
You need to decide here and very soon that you are the child's mother and will do what's best for YOU and the baby. That means, getting the necessary court papers and enforce his paternity, and also keeping your distance from him.
Maybe he'll come around.
Maybe time will change his mind.
Hope for the best, PLAN FOR THE WORST!
You need to contact a social worker, or the family court surrounded by your area. Find out what your rights are, find out what paperwork you need to prove paternity. Find out if there are deadline, or any other "loopholes" that could get him off scot free.
I really recommend a lawyer.
Well nobody can kind those decisions for you. I will tell you my story and you can take it or move off it.
Well my boyfriend and I broke up and 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with my oldest son (who is almost 12). My boyfriend said no means of access was it his (and i was 100% sure it was). He told me to have an abortion. I told him no... I don't believe contained by that for myself. I was adopted as a child and did think roughly speaking placing my son for adoption. However, I didn't have a wonderful adopted family.. within was good and bad, but I couldn't put my son thru what I have been thru. I was lucky.. I knew I couldnt' save him and do it on my own.. so my boyfriend's mom said she would help me. She saw how I was broken up about the trueness I was going to have to place him for adoption. So we made a plan and I kept my son. (I know I was lucky and an unusual situation) Paternity be done (state mandated) and it came back 99.76% my ex-boyfriend was the father. So he compensated childsupport until my husband adopted my son. My son's birth father was not involved in his life span for years, except he saw him a handful of times when my son was little. Now days we are all on good vocabulary and get together for holidays. It's not a typical scenario... but my son't birthdad never came around the way our son needed him to at the right time.
Don't build your decisions based on what he may or may not do. You do what you know is best... what you can do. Do you have a support system? Do you hold a goal in mind for yourself.. life perceptive. Can you make it with the support system that is available to you.
This is ultimatly your decree and yours alone. If you choose adoption, know that it is the most loving thing you can do for a child, when you go into with your eyes widespread open. Best of luck and trust yourself. Source(s): Adoptee, Mother of 3 and life experience
A DNA test will prove he is the biological father and will require him to support his child. We will hope he will hold a change of heart once he sees his son or daughter. For men, babies are often more of an abstract concept until they truly see them. For you, you live with that little one 24/7 and you are his or her mom and you already love him or her. : )
Wishing you all well.
He might know he is a dad. Many guys say they are not sure the baby is theirs so they hold an excuse to not be responsible. Maybe once he sees the baby he will change. There is no gaurantee though. I be going to if he doesn't want to be a father even if he finds out the baby is his that won't make him be there for you and the kid. I mean think about it does he own a reason to feel this way. Is he essentially jealous? Have you been unfaithful?
go to maury.. not being a smart *** but dna trial cost alot.. if you take him to the maury show you find out for free and its not bad at all.. I see it on tv alot
Unfortunately your boyfriend have shown his true colors. It's wise to heed the warning.
You really need to get this decision based on what you can provide for your child, and not count on him. However that doesn't mean that you, along near friends or family, can't provide your child with a wonderful life.
Now is an excellent time to start conversation with everyone you would need to count on for support, asking their guidance, and how they might be willing and competent to help you.
Hoping abundant support comes your way.
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