Gave my babe up for adoption! =[?
im so sad!! when i was 16 i got pregnant, and i be too young and i wanted her to have a better vivacity than i did. My mom died when i was 3, and my dad left me behind a couple minutes after her destruction. And since then i lived with aunts and uncles. I went from house to house until i be 15. and i just knew i couldnt take supervision of her. And now i regret it but i know it was for the best..
Will she ever forgive me?
what if i have kids after that on and i keep them because im stable will she resent me?
me and her adoptive parents agreed to have an open adoption, but when she turned 1 and they moved to Utah! and i live surrounded by California, I've been so depressed lately!
ur a * jkjk um she wont think any less of u hopefully but, still try and keep contact beside the parents and stay in her life
It is other the hardest choice in life to make, nearby is not a day where you will forget but if you truly believe in your heart that it is inevitably the best choice contained by regards to your baby's needs, then be beaming for her, for you have done the right thing.
okay if she hates u then no if she does then listen to ur heart and if she doens't later yea she will.. don't worry>
Still you must try to keep in contact. Make her understand why you did so, and first, arrange for her to come back when you are ready for it.
You made a good judgment. If she seems like she "hates" you for it, don't beat yourself up. Eventually she will apprehend that you just cared for her life. Everything will be simply fine. She won't resent you.
Don't worry, it was the right thing to do...
First, you need to be strong and be happy beside yourself that you made this decision for the best. No one else can forgive you before you forgive yourself. I am sure she will understand once she is ripened enough what a great thing you have done for her by sacrifice your own blood to give new life to your child by placing her surrounded by a fit home. She will understand at one point how much better things are with the path you enjoy taken. Down the line your kids should understand. Just know that you still love them all equally.
She won't resent you. She will look for you one day, be open and honest and I'm sure she will decline in love with you. As a child adopted out at birth I can convey you the biggest thrill for me was to look into the face of another person who looked somewhat like me and see myself in them.
Good luck and please remember that you gave your child what you couldn't make available her at 16 the stability of having one home.
P.s the adoptive parents are probally afraid to answer their phone as they know how much you have matured and that the strongest bond is the one between mother and child.
Blessings to you.
I am adopt.
That child is theirs now. And I am sure she has a good energy with them. She has had a better existence than you could of given her at the time of her birth. I don't resent my birth mother. She did what was best for me at the time of my birth. That took courage and love. And if she has children now and a devout life all the better. I grew up with parents who loved me who looked-for a baby and who could afford to raise one.
Leave the parents alone. Let them know how to get contained by touch with you and ask them to send out a photo and update on occasion. Do not in recent times show up at their door. They are her family, let them be.
Get on with your childhood and your life.
I believe you made a great decision based on what was going on within your life. I have never had to breed that decision but I do sympathize with women who do. I bet she is being raise by parents who really wanted a baby and can afford to have her and rob care of her better than you could. Your life would be a struggle forever if you kept her. You can honor her by being a successful woman and have more children only when you know your stable in life and beside a man that will be just as good for your child as you are.
If a child is raised by apt parents, it doesn't matter if they were the birth parents or not it matters that they be loved and got everything they needed. If you ever have a chance within the future to explain to your daughter what happened, I am sure she will understand. What 16 year ripened girl who has no support system can raise a child while she is trying to raise herself.
Answers: I gave thumbs up to exactly ONE of your answers. It really steams me when people who own NO connection try to answer these questions.
As a surrendering mother who has be in reunion for years now, I want to extend my heart felt sympathy to you. The dull pain of surrender never goes away. It changes over time, you get used to it, but it never go away.
As for your daughter hating you, its possible. No one can tell you what another person is going to have a feeling. Especially when they don't know the person. You need to keep contained by mind that several factors play into this. You have no idea what you child is going to be told going on for you and what your reasoning's were for surrendering her. You have no idea how your child is going to lift that information even if its covered with flower pedals and rainbows. she will be her own individual person and she will feel her own individual responses and anguish about being adopted. It also depends on what benign of life she has, good, fruitless, indifferent, not all adoptee's get great homes with wonderful parents. It depends if her adoptive parents shift on to have their own biological children. It happens, even to couples who have be diagnosed as never being able to.
And you are a perfect example of OPENED ADOPTION IN ACTION. They aren't enforceable, their baggage worker probably told them to agree with anything you wanted and when its all over and legalized, they can do what ever they please, because OPENED ADOPTIONS ARE NOT ENFORCEABLE.
I am sorry for your loss. I know you felt it was the best thing to do, and perchance it was. You have no way of knowing until you reunite near your daughter and she tells you that it was okay, she doesn't resent you for it and that she had a great duration. Then and only then will you know for sure. Until then, you're going to enjoy to just live with it.
Utah is a great state for concealing children, probably why they moved there. Which tell me they did their homework and had no intentions of honoring your opened adoption.
I'm sure there are days when you don't have a feeling like it but I promise you will live. You'll be a little more cynical but you'll live.
Please pass your story of open adoption on to as many people as you can. Surrendering mothers need to know.
I can not say giving her up was right or wrong...only that you be thinking of the baby when you did. Sure, there are some selfish inner health involved either way but the majority were base on the reality of the situation.
I recommend social services. Talk with their legal dept. Make sure everything is as it should be. The newborn will not resent you. Try to keep tabs when you can and do not be afraid to talk near someone about how this is affecting you.
The move was a disappointment, but get another outside feelings to see if you were really informed and able to make this result.
I am more concerned at your own state of mind when making this decision than I am with the adoptive parents. You still have rights and you can still safekeeping which you obviously do. Find out your options but remember you are not making a black or white decision here. It woudl enjoy been VERY hard on you but that is something you want to ease up on yourself. You are troubled by the situation and honestly that says a lot of appropriate things about you.
Hopefully your child will hold had a brilliant upbringing and won't resent the kids you may end up having when you're settled. It's reasonably likely if she chooses to find you in the future she'll be at ease to have more brothers/sisters and have a bigger family.
It seem like you did the right thing, but if it's getting you that depressed it might be a good concept to talk to someone about it, whether it's friends/family or even a professional. Just think in the region of what the adoptive parents can offer her that you wouldn't have been competent to at that age.
i am in place to adopt your baby. please update me. i just love babies and my friend do not have kids for tons years. they love to adopt.
She may not be able to follow your reasons while she's young. It may hurt her at first but she'll grow to understand why you have to do it.
I'm sure it was hard for you to give her up for adoption but I estimate it was very loving of you to do that for her. Some teen parents are selfish and even though they enjoy no way to raise a child, they do it anyway, putting they're child through many unyielding and unfair times just because they didn't have the heart to administer their baby a better life.
She'll definitely forgive you.
DONT HVE SEX OR GO VISIT HER SORRY GOD BLESS U
If she comes looking for you she obviously will want foundation. Tell her this, straight from the heart. I would forgive you, seems very sincere. You only did what be best because you love her.
Hey.. i'm only 17.. so this may not be much of a comfort.. but have you seen the 17 and pregnant show on MTV? This couple Caitlynn & her boyfriend gave here baby carly up for adoption.. You just have to be strong, and it sounds approaching you did it awhile ago.. so you just have to i guess live with it.. she know you love her. You did probably the best you could do for her. thank god you didn't have an abortion or something.. you know? Bc if you did.. she'd be dead. So, you deff. did the best for her!! And one day im sure you will hold kids again and your one that you gave up for adoption will not resent you. & The couple you gave your baby too, i'm sure if you dance online and google them or something of the sort, you could track them down. Nothing is wrong with an open adoption, i think thats really nice. Like stilll seeing pictures and adjectives that of your baby.. so, yeah.. they should deff. keep in touch near you. It's normal for you to feel depressed.
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what if i have kids after that on and i keep them because im stable will she resent me?
me and her adoptive parents agreed to have an open adoption, but when she turned 1 and they moved to Utah! and i live surrounded by California, I've been so depressed lately!
ur a * jkjk um she wont think any less of u hopefully but, still try and keep contact beside the parents and stay in her life
It is other the hardest choice in life to make, nearby is not a day where you will forget but if you truly believe in your heart that it is inevitably the best choice contained by regards to your baby's needs, then be beaming for her, for you have done the right thing.
okay if she hates u then no if she does then listen to ur heart and if she doens't later yea she will.. don't worry>
Still you must try to keep in contact. Make her understand why you did so, and first, arrange for her to come back when you are ready for it.
You made a good judgment. If she seems like she "hates" you for it, don't beat yourself up. Eventually she will apprehend that you just cared for her life. Everything will be simply fine. She won't resent you.
Don't worry, it was the right thing to do...
First, you need to be strong and be happy beside yourself that you made this decision for the best. No one else can forgive you before you forgive yourself. I am sure she will understand once she is ripened enough what a great thing you have done for her by sacrifice your own blood to give new life to your child by placing her surrounded by a fit home. She will understand at one point how much better things are with the path you enjoy taken. Down the line your kids should understand. Just know that you still love them all equally.
She won't resent you. She will look for you one day, be open and honest and I'm sure she will decline in love with you. As a child adopted out at birth I can convey you the biggest thrill for me was to look into the face of another person who looked somewhat like me and see myself in them.
Good luck and please remember that you gave your child what you couldn't make available her at 16 the stability of having one home.
P.s the adoptive parents are probally afraid to answer their phone as they know how much you have matured and that the strongest bond is the one between mother and child.
Blessings to you.
I am adopt.
That child is theirs now. And I am sure she has a good energy with them. She has had a better existence than you could of given her at the time of her birth. I don't resent my birth mother. She did what was best for me at the time of my birth. That took courage and love. And if she has children now and a devout life all the better. I grew up with parents who loved me who looked-for a baby and who could afford to raise one.
Leave the parents alone. Let them know how to get contained by touch with you and ask them to send out a photo and update on occasion. Do not in recent times show up at their door. They are her family, let them be.
Get on with your childhood and your life.
I believe you made a great decision based on what was going on within your life. I have never had to breed that decision but I do sympathize with women who do. I bet she is being raise by parents who really wanted a baby and can afford to have her and rob care of her better than you could. Your life would be a struggle forever if you kept her. You can honor her by being a successful woman and have more children only when you know your stable in life and beside a man that will be just as good for your child as you are.
If a child is raised by apt parents, it doesn't matter if they were the birth parents or not it matters that they be loved and got everything they needed. If you ever have a chance within the future to explain to your daughter what happened, I am sure she will understand. What 16 year ripened girl who has no support system can raise a child while she is trying to raise herself.
Answers: I gave thumbs up to exactly ONE of your answers. It really steams me when people who own NO connection try to answer these questions.
As a surrendering mother who has be in reunion for years now, I want to extend my heart felt sympathy to you. The dull pain of surrender never goes away. It changes over time, you get used to it, but it never go away.
As for your daughter hating you, its possible. No one can tell you what another person is going to have a feeling. Especially when they don't know the person. You need to keep contained by mind that several factors play into this. You have no idea what you child is going to be told going on for you and what your reasoning's were for surrendering her. You have no idea how your child is going to lift that information even if its covered with flower pedals and rainbows. she will be her own individual person and she will feel her own individual responses and anguish about being adopted. It also depends on what benign of life she has, good, fruitless, indifferent, not all adoptee's get great homes with wonderful parents. It depends if her adoptive parents shift on to have their own biological children. It happens, even to couples who have be diagnosed as never being able to.
And you are a perfect example of OPENED ADOPTION IN ACTION. They aren't enforceable, their baggage worker probably told them to agree with anything you wanted and when its all over and legalized, they can do what ever they please, because OPENED ADOPTIONS ARE NOT ENFORCEABLE.
I am sorry for your loss. I know you felt it was the best thing to do, and perchance it was. You have no way of knowing until you reunite near your daughter and she tells you that it was okay, she doesn't resent you for it and that she had a great duration. Then and only then will you know for sure. Until then, you're going to enjoy to just live with it.
Utah is a great state for concealing children, probably why they moved there. Which tell me they did their homework and had no intentions of honoring your opened adoption.
I'm sure there are days when you don't have a feeling like it but I promise you will live. You'll be a little more cynical but you'll live.
Please pass your story of open adoption on to as many people as you can. Surrendering mothers need to know.
I can not say giving her up was right or wrong...only that you be thinking of the baby when you did. Sure, there are some selfish inner health involved either way but the majority were base on the reality of the situation.
I recommend social services. Talk with their legal dept. Make sure everything is as it should be. The newborn will not resent you. Try to keep tabs when you can and do not be afraid to talk near someone about how this is affecting you.
The move was a disappointment, but get another outside feelings to see if you were really informed and able to make this result.
I am more concerned at your own state of mind when making this decision than I am with the adoptive parents. You still have rights and you can still safekeeping which you obviously do. Find out your options but remember you are not making a black or white decision here. It woudl enjoy been VERY hard on you but that is something you want to ease up on yourself. You are troubled by the situation and honestly that says a lot of appropriate things about you.
Hopefully your child will hold had a brilliant upbringing and won't resent the kids you may end up having when you're settled. It's reasonably likely if she chooses to find you in the future she'll be at ease to have more brothers/sisters and have a bigger family.
It seem like you did the right thing, but if it's getting you that depressed it might be a good concept to talk to someone about it, whether it's friends/family or even a professional. Just think in the region of what the adoptive parents can offer her that you wouldn't have been competent to at that age.
i am in place to adopt your baby. please update me. i just love babies and my friend do not have kids for tons years. they love to adopt.
She may not be able to follow your reasons while she's young. It may hurt her at first but she'll grow to understand why you have to do it.
I'm sure it was hard for you to give her up for adoption but I estimate it was very loving of you to do that for her. Some teen parents are selfish and even though they enjoy no way to raise a child, they do it anyway, putting they're child through many unyielding and unfair times just because they didn't have the heart to administer their baby a better life.
She'll definitely forgive you.
DONT HVE SEX OR GO VISIT HER SORRY GOD BLESS U
If she comes looking for you she obviously will want foundation. Tell her this, straight from the heart. I would forgive you, seems very sincere. You only did what be best because you love her.
Hey.. i'm only 17.. so this may not be much of a comfort.. but have you seen the 17 and pregnant show on MTV? This couple Caitlynn & her boyfriend gave here baby carly up for adoption.. You just have to be strong, and it sounds approaching you did it awhile ago.. so you just have to i guess live with it.. she know you love her. You did probably the best you could do for her. thank god you didn't have an abortion or something.. you know? Bc if you did.. she'd be dead. So, you deff. did the best for her!! And one day im sure you will hold kids again and your one that you gave up for adoption will not resent you. & The couple you gave your baby too, i'm sure if you dance online and google them or something of the sort, you could track them down. Nothing is wrong with an open adoption, i think thats really nice. Like stilll seeing pictures and adjectives that of your baby.. so, yeah.. they should deff. keep in touch near you. It's normal for you to feel depressed.
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