Becoming a surrogate mom?
i want to become a surrogate mom. i had my first kid 5 months ago. i love being a parent it is the most amazing thing that could ever come to pass in ones live. i want to give that gift to someone else! how would i move about about to do this? it breaks my heart when couples cant have children. and i would like it to be completly here kid. there sperm egg etc. and i dont want paid for this.
I personally could not be a surrogate. For a while when I be pregnant with my son i felt as tho I was zilch more then a surrogate, a baby incubator if you will for the couple who planned on adopting my son. I feel this way because the couple would refer to him as their son even tho he wasn't born yet it really hurt me. You will still bond with the child regardless of whose sperm and egg. I meditate your thought is a very nice and generous one but I would really wait a while formerly doing the surrogate route. In the mean time enjoy your child and enjoy anyone a mommy!
It's one thing to have a broken heart for those that can't own children of their own - but you're not even thinking of what a mess the child will be when they grow up!
First and foremost - the child's welfare should be the most important concern.
It messes with a child to be born to one - and then raise by another - all for the sake of making adults happy.
Make sure you read these blogs - by those that were conceived to fulfill fully fledged dreams -
http://cryokidconfessions.blogspot.com/
http://sonofasurrogate.tripod.com/blog/
http://childrenhaverights-saynotoreprote…
Help children - first and foremost - as they are they one's that can't help themselves.
Adults will work it out for themselves.
Please don't help make a toddler - only to give it away.
I understand that you expect well, but just know that the baby will bond near you in-utero as it's mother. When you give the baby over to their biological mother, they will experience a type of rejection identical to what an adopt child goes through. Please don't help create more children/adults who suffer from attachment disorder. It's very concrete. Source(s): I'm an adult adoptee.
While i can't fault you for wanting to do a good thing, i would advocate you to wait at least a year after having your child back deciding to do something like this. Even if the baby's not yours, you'll still feel everything and bond next to the baby. PLUS, you'll be pregnant at a time when you'll wanna be there for your child.
As for getting paid, yea, not a dutiful idea, if you remember medical bills and stuff like that.
in what state do you live? i know how it feels to want to sustain someone, and you said you would not charge thats very godly a blessing for couples who want children so bad and unable to hold any. husband and i have tried for years with no luck, but what state are you in? email me leftfeet2006@yahoo.com i may know how to help you get info
contact a local fertility clinic and ask them if there are agencies they work with. I would recommend checking out the fertility clinic first to see if they are reputable. Maybe one associate next to a big university. You can probably also search online for surrogate agencies, but that might be harder to find out if they are ethical or not.
Answers: You truly have a heart of gold ingots but you really need to think about yourself and the infant. The parents will be getting everything they want while the kid will be emotionally messed up when he starts realizing what has been done... how will the parents explain that one? Also you WILL bond beside that baby and because of your kind heart I can tell that would break your heart to enjoy him taken. Concentrate on raising your child.
well you can find an agency who will support you select a couple in need of a baby. they other pay u though (like 100,000)
its nice to know trhere are caring people out here
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I personally could not be a surrogate. For a while when I be pregnant with my son i felt as tho I was zilch more then a surrogate, a baby incubator if you will for the couple who planned on adopting my son. I feel this way because the couple would refer to him as their son even tho he wasn't born yet it really hurt me. You will still bond with the child regardless of whose sperm and egg. I meditate your thought is a very nice and generous one but I would really wait a while formerly doing the surrogate route. In the mean time enjoy your child and enjoy anyone a mommy!
It's one thing to have a broken heart for those that can't own children of their own - but you're not even thinking of what a mess the child will be when they grow up!
First and foremost - the child's welfare should be the most important concern.
It messes with a child to be born to one - and then raise by another - all for the sake of making adults happy.
Make sure you read these blogs - by those that were conceived to fulfill fully fledged dreams -
http://cryokidconfessions.blogspot.com/
http://sonofasurrogate.tripod.com/blog/
http://childrenhaverights-saynotoreprote…
Help children - first and foremost - as they are they one's that can't help themselves.
Adults will work it out for themselves.
Please don't help make a toddler - only to give it away.
I understand that you expect well, but just know that the baby will bond near you in-utero as it's mother. When you give the baby over to their biological mother, they will experience a type of rejection identical to what an adopt child goes through. Please don't help create more children/adults who suffer from attachment disorder. It's very concrete. Source(s): I'm an adult adoptee.
While i can't fault you for wanting to do a good thing, i would advocate you to wait at least a year after having your child back deciding to do something like this. Even if the baby's not yours, you'll still feel everything and bond next to the baby. PLUS, you'll be pregnant at a time when you'll wanna be there for your child.
As for getting paid, yea, not a dutiful idea, if you remember medical bills and stuff like that.
in what state do you live? i know how it feels to want to sustain someone, and you said you would not charge thats very godly a blessing for couples who want children so bad and unable to hold any. husband and i have tried for years with no luck, but what state are you in? email me leftfeet2006@yahoo.com i may know how to help you get info
contact a local fertility clinic and ask them if there are agencies they work with. I would recommend checking out the fertility clinic first to see if they are reputable. Maybe one associate next to a big university. You can probably also search online for surrogate agencies, but that might be harder to find out if they are ethical or not.
Answers: You truly have a heart of gold ingots but you really need to think about yourself and the infant. The parents will be getting everything they want while the kid will be emotionally messed up when he starts realizing what has been done... how will the parents explain that one? Also you WILL bond beside that baby and because of your kind heart I can tell that would break your heart to enjoy him taken. Concentrate on raising your child.
well you can find an agency who will support you select a couple in need of a baby. they other pay u though (like 100,000)
its nice to know trhere are caring people out here
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