Why is the hang about so difficult? We of late want to adopt and are not picky!?
We have applied through DSS, private adoption, you name it. I keep reading contained by the papers about kids getting hurt or killed by their parents and every time I think to myself...I would enjoy given anything to take care of and love those kids. I guess I am just attitude like this wait will never end. We are lawfully ready/approved for adoption...and are totally okay with either gender and any see and quite a few special needs..but here we sit, day after light of day, waiting for the phone to ring. Anyone else out there going through it too? Maybe we can commiserate. I am hearing that a lot of agencies and even DSS is flooded beside people who are no longer trying to adopt internationally and that is what has slowed things down so much. Which is a GOOD entry for the kids waiting..
We waited two and a partially years. You're not alone. We just reminded ourselves often that, as you said, this is great for the kids - it means they AREN'T waiting.
Enjoy this time. Take extra trips to see clan and friends, sleep in as often as possible, and have deeply of sex. ;-) It's well worth the wait if your goal is to pass a home to a child who truly needs one. Isn't it fabulous to know that there ARE no kids, right this very moment, who so desperately have need of a home? It means the system in your state is working the way it should.
Congrats, and worthy luck!
U sound similar to a great person and ur going to make wonderful parents. Ur baby will come to u, its surrounded by gods hands.
Answers: I totally agree with Gaia. Right now, my husband and I are making a point of going out, even if it's just for a bike ride, walking, and sleeping contained by. ;) I'm not much of a "sleeper-inner", but I'm definitely trying to make sure I'm well rested.
Like Gaia said, merely focus on having the time to yourself now. Foster your relationships and friendships, do some baking (and freeze it!), read some good books. Take a waltz class. Hit some spin classes. Play loud music past 6pm. You'll be glad you did. :P
Everything will happen exactly when it's supposed to, and the kids who need you will also necessitate you to be rested and healthy so that you can focus on them.
I know it's easier said than done. I am in the same boat, but I know that everything will start right on time. :)
Good luck!
OH! One thing I *must* add...my husband and I be offered a match a few days before we were even licensed. I be so excited, and wanted to say 'yes', but there be too many things that just wouldn't work. Make sure you don't take a meeting that isn't a fit just because you've been waiting a long time, or because you think that your worker will "punish" you for aphorism 'no'. If it's not a situation that you can handle, it will be detrimental to everyone involved. The week after she offered us the match, we met with our worker, and she be able to place those kids with a family now, who ended up having some huge things in adjectives with them. Again, things work out how they're supposed to. :) Don't fret.
ETA: 7rin: While I totally understand what you're saying, I chew over many of us who are adopting in the public system already take in that adoption is a result of a loss, especially since the kids we are adopting have had the secondary challenge of abuse/neglect.
However, when we say we are waiting for a child, we are not wishing bad, or hoping for a child to be ripped from the arms of the only people they know. Believe me. Most of the time, we are just frustrated at how masses kids are in transit, or in temporary meticulousness, while we wait to provide permanent stability. We know we are not the best case scenario overall, but for where on earth we are, right now, we are the best case scenario. Most of us really are very well-intentioned. Please don't mistake our excitement over getting to be a segment of these kids' lives for joy that their lives have been difficult, or that they are grieving. We don't close to what brought them to us, but all the more reason to want them with us as soon as possible. We really a moment ago want to help them heal, as much as they can, given the circumstances.
While I understand your post re: kids being killed/tortured.etc.; I do have to ask, you DO realise that for you to "find a kid" that it means that that kid MUST BE torn away from the only thing it know (i.e. it's biological mother), don't you?
I only ask because it sounds as if you're so so desperate to get your hands on someone else's off-spring, when - surrounded by the kindest of worlds - said off-spring would never EVER need to leave it's OWN BIOLOGICAL MOTHER just to know how to make someone else happy.
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We waited two and a partially years. You're not alone. We just reminded ourselves often that, as you said, this is great for the kids - it means they AREN'T waiting.
Enjoy this time. Take extra trips to see clan and friends, sleep in as often as possible, and have deeply of sex. ;-) It's well worth the wait if your goal is to pass a home to a child who truly needs one. Isn't it fabulous to know that there ARE no kids, right this very moment, who so desperately have need of a home? It means the system in your state is working the way it should.
Congrats, and worthy luck!
U sound similar to a great person and ur going to make wonderful parents. Ur baby will come to u, its surrounded by gods hands.
Answers: I totally agree with Gaia. Right now, my husband and I are making a point of going out, even if it's just for a bike ride, walking, and sleeping contained by. ;) I'm not much of a "sleeper-inner", but I'm definitely trying to make sure I'm well rested.
Like Gaia said, merely focus on having the time to yourself now. Foster your relationships and friendships, do some baking (and freeze it!), read some good books. Take a waltz class. Hit some spin classes. Play loud music past 6pm. You'll be glad you did. :P
Everything will happen exactly when it's supposed to, and the kids who need you will also necessitate you to be rested and healthy so that you can focus on them.
I know it's easier said than done. I am in the same boat, but I know that everything will start right on time. :)
Good luck!
OH! One thing I *must* add...my husband and I be offered a match a few days before we were even licensed. I be so excited, and wanted to say 'yes', but there be too many things that just wouldn't work. Make sure you don't take a meeting that isn't a fit just because you've been waiting a long time, or because you think that your worker will "punish" you for aphorism 'no'. If it's not a situation that you can handle, it will be detrimental to everyone involved. The week after she offered us the match, we met with our worker, and she be able to place those kids with a family now, who ended up having some huge things in adjectives with them. Again, things work out how they're supposed to. :) Don't fret.
ETA: 7rin: While I totally understand what you're saying, I chew over many of us who are adopting in the public system already take in that adoption is a result of a loss, especially since the kids we are adopting have had the secondary challenge of abuse/neglect.
However, when we say we are waiting for a child, we are not wishing bad, or hoping for a child to be ripped from the arms of the only people they know. Believe me. Most of the time, we are just frustrated at how masses kids are in transit, or in temporary meticulousness, while we wait to provide permanent stability. We know we are not the best case scenario overall, but for where on earth we are, right now, we are the best case scenario. Most of us really are very well-intentioned. Please don't mistake our excitement over getting to be a segment of these kids' lives for joy that their lives have been difficult, or that they are grieving. We don't close to what brought them to us, but all the more reason to want them with us as soon as possible. We really a moment ago want to help them heal, as much as they can, given the circumstances.
While I understand your post re: kids being killed/tortured.etc.; I do have to ask, you DO realise that for you to "find a kid" that it means that that kid MUST BE torn away from the only thing it know (i.e. it's biological mother), don't you?
I only ask because it sounds as if you're so so desperate to get your hands on someone else's off-spring, when - surrounded by the kindest of worlds - said off-spring would never EVER need to leave it's OWN BIOLOGICAL MOTHER just to know how to make someone else happy.
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