Please- Only actual adoptees of foreign countries to USA answer?
I am seriously considering adopting a child from Ethiopia, as someone who has been through it- be you glad to be adopted and brought here or would you rather have stayed down? I am interested in how you personally feel in the order of it and your personal story, if you are willing to share. Can you please include the country you were born in and how infirm you were when you were adopted and if you know it, the agency so I can also gain some perspective within that aspect as well? I would like to hear it whether your story was unpromising or good.
I would greatly appreciate your input. I would not like to start fights or rudeness on here I would lately like your story or thoughts on it. Both sides of the spectrum are welcome.
Hi.
I'm adopted. I was adopt from Korea as a baby. I came here when I was almost three months old. My family is Caucasian and I am the only Asian so that make me a transracial adoptee as well as an international adoptee. While I love my adoptive parents very much and definitely consider them my parents, I also hold dealt with a lot of identity issues stemming from mortal a different race from almost everyone I saw growing up, and pain from the loss of my natural clan.
I was adopted through Welcome House, which is part of the Pearl S. Buck International adoption agency. While I can't speak much to the nouns of them, I will tell you that their partner in Korea, Holt Korea, is unethical and set for doctoring records and falsifying information. Usually an American agency will partner with an agency within the country you wish to adopt from.
Personally, I can only advocate for domestic adoption. In my experience, and from what I have learned about adoption, the affects of removing a child from his culture, stripping him of his untaught language, and forcing a new lifestyle and heritage on him can be emotionally difficult on top of the already bumpy adoption loss.
It has been difficult for me to come to terms beside a lot of my pain surrounding adoption. Some adoptees never feel this course, but most will feel pain and sadness surrounding have been surrendered for adoption.
If you would like to hear a little bit more in the order of my journey, you can check out my blog at http://thequeenofdenial.wordpress.com
ETA: I came from Korea. Would I have fairly stayed and faced sickness and starvation? No. That is a myth perpetuated by the media and by adoption agencies trying to tug at your heartstrings and your purse strings. I am basically as likely to face sickness, starvation and poverty here in the United States as I be in Korea. I do not think that all of the family in Korea are dying and poor. Nor do I think them to be all mournful. Source(s): Surprisingly self actualized adult adoptee
I am not an adoptee, so can't answer your question in that respect. However, I wanted to suggest you outlook the documentary "Adopted" by Barb Lee. It focuses on an adult adoptee from Korea and her relationship with her family and her struggle to be a full human being given the lack of history and personal culture. When you purchase the movie, you also get a companion DVD that includes a lot of interviews of adoptive parents, grown adoptees, and professionals. It is a good resources for starting this kind of research. Following is a link to the movie's website:
http://www.adoptedthemovie.com/
There are also some excellent books available that address the issues involved contained by international adoption. Two of my favorites are "Beyond Good Intentions".
http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Good-Intent…
and "In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories"
http://www.amazon.com/Their-Own-Voices-T…
Good luck on your journey.
Answers: I think the country of birth is irrelevant to the query tbh. Some adoptees are going to be glad they were adopted, and some adoptees are going to be pissed/annoyed/hurt that they were adopt.
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I would greatly appreciate your input. I would not like to start fights or rudeness on here I would lately like your story or thoughts on it. Both sides of the spectrum are welcome.
Hi.
I'm adopted. I was adopt from Korea as a baby. I came here when I was almost three months old. My family is Caucasian and I am the only Asian so that make me a transracial adoptee as well as an international adoptee. While I love my adoptive parents very much and definitely consider them my parents, I also hold dealt with a lot of identity issues stemming from mortal a different race from almost everyone I saw growing up, and pain from the loss of my natural clan.
I was adopted through Welcome House, which is part of the Pearl S. Buck International adoption agency. While I can't speak much to the nouns of them, I will tell you that their partner in Korea, Holt Korea, is unethical and set for doctoring records and falsifying information. Usually an American agency will partner with an agency within the country you wish to adopt from.
Personally, I can only advocate for domestic adoption. In my experience, and from what I have learned about adoption, the affects of removing a child from his culture, stripping him of his untaught language, and forcing a new lifestyle and heritage on him can be emotionally difficult on top of the already bumpy adoption loss.
It has been difficult for me to come to terms beside a lot of my pain surrounding adoption. Some adoptees never feel this course, but most will feel pain and sadness surrounding have been surrendered for adoption.
If you would like to hear a little bit more in the order of my journey, you can check out my blog at http://thequeenofdenial.wordpress.com
ETA: I came from Korea. Would I have fairly stayed and faced sickness and starvation? No. That is a myth perpetuated by the media and by adoption agencies trying to tug at your heartstrings and your purse strings. I am basically as likely to face sickness, starvation and poverty here in the United States as I be in Korea. I do not think that all of the family in Korea are dying and poor. Nor do I think them to be all mournful. Source(s): Surprisingly self actualized adult adoptee
I am not an adoptee, so can't answer your question in that respect. However, I wanted to suggest you outlook the documentary "Adopted" by Barb Lee. It focuses on an adult adoptee from Korea and her relationship with her family and her struggle to be a full human being given the lack of history and personal culture. When you purchase the movie, you also get a companion DVD that includes a lot of interviews of adoptive parents, grown adoptees, and professionals. It is a good resources for starting this kind of research. Following is a link to the movie's website:
http://www.adoptedthemovie.com/
There are also some excellent books available that address the issues involved contained by international adoption. Two of my favorites are "Beyond Good Intentions".
http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Good-Intent…
and "In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories"
http://www.amazon.com/Their-Own-Voices-T…
Good luck on your journey.
Answers: I think the country of birth is irrelevant to the query tbh. Some adoptees are going to be glad they were adopted, and some adoptees are going to be pissed/annoyed/hurt that they were adopt.
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