Should i adopt my deceased freind's kids?
i myself have 8 kids and pregnant with twins so it will be 10 soon well almost 5 months ago my freind passed away due to cancer and left her 2 young children a little boy 4 (chance) and her striking 6 year old (Sonny) they are going to foster care because well not a soul really wants them and im thinking of taking them but i dont know if it will overload me or not they are very shy children but like al young-looking kids they get very hyper i am the God mother of both and i think it will be wonderful if i could hold custody of them because they know very few family members near grandmother and grandfather are also not living and there father left them when the boy was 2 and my freind couldnt contact him its similar to he just disappeared?
would adopting these wonderful children be a good conception for our family or is i toom uch pressure it would hurt me if ik there going to foster home and being mistreated when i am here to relieve them?
of course you should the kids know you so it will be easy to adjust and if you dont you will other regret not taking them in
I agree with monkeykitty.
These kids would not just "meld" into your familial. They are grieving, and experiencing the biggest change they've likely every known, or will ever know again. They will stipulation a lot of emotional energy, contemplation, support. They will not be "just like" your bio kids.
Think it over.
you should definitely adopt!
They're young. I'm sure they'll recover and love you forever. Anyway, lol, I scrounging this in the best of all ways.. but is there a difference REALLY between raise 10 and raising 12?
Why didn't she have the paper work surrounded by order, So when she is gone her kids would have a place to go? Great mom!
if you have the financial and emotional resources to adopt them then go for it!!
Answers: Without knowing you or much about your situation, I really can't say whether you would be overloaded. Do you have the stormy energy for two more kids, who are probably grieving heavily? Does your house have space for them? Can you afford to care for them? No one can really answer that but you, and the requests of your current family already depending on you do have to be balanced next to the needs of these children.
Twelve kids is doable. I would not recommend someone in your situation go out and adopt children you don't know, but when it's the children of a friend who have need of a home, that's kind of a different situation. It would be best to keep them out of foster care and beside familiar people if at all possible.
Maybe you could start near temporary guardianship. If the situation goes smoothly, you could decide at that point to generate more permanent arrangements (adoption or permanent guardianship.) If it seems close to more than you can handle, at least it will buy time to track down more relatives or friends willing to step up, short the kids going through the trauma of the foster care system.
Thanks for caring, and best of luck with anything you decide.
This is entirely the outcome of you and your family.
If you feel that you are able to endow with these children the support and love they need, then by adopting these kids you are giving them a payment. A gift of a loving family and security.
Adopting your friends children is a wonderful piece.
But if you feel that this will damage your family and place too much pressure on you and your biological kids next I am afraid that your own children and family should be you number one priority.
You are obviously a loving, maternal woman and I am sure you and your partner will get the right decision.
And wow! 10 kids! I am the eldest of 6 and loved being part of a big family circle but 10! Wow! You deserve a medal! What's 2 more?!
You should adopt them.
I'm sure they'll fit in with your family unit.
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The other kids can teach them the rules and such if you're busy with the twins.
Don't put them in foster contemplation, they'll be shuffled around and it won't be good for them.
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would adopting these wonderful children be a good conception for our family or is i toom uch pressure it would hurt me if ik there going to foster home and being mistreated when i am here to relieve them?
of course you should the kids know you so it will be easy to adjust and if you dont you will other regret not taking them in
I agree with monkeykitty.
These kids would not just "meld" into your familial. They are grieving, and experiencing the biggest change they've likely every known, or will ever know again. They will stipulation a lot of emotional energy, contemplation, support. They will not be "just like" your bio kids.
Think it over.
you should definitely adopt!
They're young. I'm sure they'll recover and love you forever. Anyway, lol, I scrounging this in the best of all ways.. but is there a difference REALLY between raise 10 and raising 12?
Why didn't she have the paper work surrounded by order, So when she is gone her kids would have a place to go? Great mom!
if you have the financial and emotional resources to adopt them then go for it!!
Answers: Without knowing you or much about your situation, I really can't say whether you would be overloaded. Do you have the stormy energy for two more kids, who are probably grieving heavily? Does your house have space for them? Can you afford to care for them? No one can really answer that but you, and the requests of your current family already depending on you do have to be balanced next to the needs of these children.
Twelve kids is doable. I would not recommend someone in your situation go out and adopt children you don't know, but when it's the children of a friend who have need of a home, that's kind of a different situation. It would be best to keep them out of foster care and beside familiar people if at all possible.
Maybe you could start near temporary guardianship. If the situation goes smoothly, you could decide at that point to generate more permanent arrangements (adoption or permanent guardianship.) If it seems close to more than you can handle, at least it will buy time to track down more relatives or friends willing to step up, short the kids going through the trauma of the foster care system.
Thanks for caring, and best of luck with anything you decide.
This is entirely the outcome of you and your family.
If you feel that you are able to endow with these children the support and love they need, then by adopting these kids you are giving them a payment. A gift of a loving family and security.
Adopting your friends children is a wonderful piece.
But if you feel that this will damage your family and place too much pressure on you and your biological kids next I am afraid that your own children and family should be you number one priority.
You are obviously a loving, maternal woman and I am sure you and your partner will get the right decision.
And wow! 10 kids! I am the eldest of 6 and loved being part of a big family circle but 10! Wow! You deserve a medal! What's 2 more?!
You should adopt them.
I'm sure they'll fit in with your family unit.
[;
The other kids can teach them the rules and such if you're busy with the twins.
Don't put them in foster contemplation, they'll be shuffled around and it won't be good for them.
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