Anyone ever given their babe-in-arms up for adoption because they feel they be to youthful and untrained.?
did you later have regrets??
this isn't about me, its going on for my 19year old friend. she needs opinions in the past deciding
When I finally met her many years later all I could utter was I'm sorry, does that tell you anything?
For the record: EEWWW at how many people who enjoy never relinquished or surrendered their child for adoption are answering this question.
Yes, once when I was 19 I relinquished my son for adoption. For me, it was the lowest point of my existence because it was a declaration that I wasn't good ample for him, and it's been hell trying to come to some sort of okay with that action. I be good enough for him, and he good ample for me. I should have risen up to face the reasons of why I feel I wasn't good enough, instead I chose adoption believing in the adjectives wipe the slate clean theory and that adoptive parents were better than me. I be good enough and I owed no one else my babe.
I regret everything... and it's no reflection though on the wonderfulness of who my son is now.
Tell your friend she can put up for sale him on eBay.
I lost my son contained by the 1960 which is known as the bse/ems
I was coerced if i would have specified what they had in mind for my son
I would have taken him and run as fast and far away as I could
their is nothing worst than losing a child to adoption not a day go by that I don't know if he is alive or dead did he have a good home we never know
their is plenty of aid out their so you can keep your child and go to school kinship is one moral way we must fight to keep our child
you will regret it the rest of your life span if you don't
they never tell you the long term effect it will have on you it hurts
so impossible Source(s): a mother of loss
I AM RIGHT NOW TRYING TO ADOPT A BABY FROM A TEENAGE MOTHER WHO JUST HAD HER. SHE ALSO HAS A 10 MONTH AND NOT ABLE FINANCIALLY AND PSYCHICALLY TAKE CARE OF TWO CHILDREN. ADOPTION IS A GOOD THING. SOME PEOPLE CANT HAVE CHILDREN AND THERE OWN.
with adoption in the UK is it possible to choose who your child gets adopt by? i couldn't handle not knowing what kind of life my child be living.
sometimes adoption is meant to be. there are people who can't own children of their own who would make lovely parents, whereas there are some people who can enjoy children of their own and not meant to be parents.
my friend rob was adopted and the mum and dad that raise him feel like his real parents. he's even told me and i can explain to.
Your 19 year matured friend needs to cop on and pull herself together and start doing the human thing of dealing near the results of sex. If your friend has an abortion or gives the baby up for adoption, consequently your friend isn't human. That would make your friend a selfish animal. She'll regret adoption later within life.
no i havent but ive heard of alot that have ..and if to be precise what your friend decides please tell her to be assured that there are plenty of relations out there who would love and look after the baby who cant have babies of their own and would dispense naything for that chance..so tell her never to feel guilty if specifically the decision that she really feels she has come too.
Answers: Speaking as someone abandoned to adoption, my advice is DON'T DO IT!
If you don't want to bring up your kid yourself, after have a bloody abortion - otherwise it isn't only the mother who'll be living a screwed up life, but also the child she abandon. Source(s): Adoptee
i hae an adopt brother and i often think about his birth mother. i am usually torn between gratitude and sorrow.
gratitude because she 'acted' as the takings through which my brother could come into my life. sorrow because, now that i have children, i can assume how much it hurts to give your child up.
i think your friend will have to suffer that in mind...it will hurt
but it may also open up a happy closing moments
the only thing is...unless she chooses an open adoption or is a VERY strong party she may be the one who ends up unhappy until her child chooses to find her (or not)
the bottom line is that by giving a child up for adoption we remove from sight the most precious 'thing'.something the love and nurture towards nature installs in every mother
i have hear that many women who decide to give up their child finishing up keeping it...that probably is the happiest ending because after the turmoil the child is less likely to be taken for granted
i am from europe hence not informed just about us support for lone mothers (that is if your friend is american and single) but i have had children in my twenties and it wasn't effortless but i wouldn't change it...they have made me who i am and life hasn't stopped any
and lastly, tell your friend that it is not what we make of life. what matter is what we make of the things life throws at us
I lost my son to adoption 11 years ago. Thankfully I lone regret it when I think about it, sadly I conjecture about it at least 20 times a day...
I deem you should show the blog post that Ballaerina linked to your friend. While reading it I kept nodding my head and had tears well in my eyes. What she wrote is exactly how I, and many other surrendering mother's, feel.
My daughter did. She made the decision.
I often think she might, at most minuscule she thinks of him.
She does feel that he is in worthy hands.
She now has two boys by bridal.
No, but she needs to think about it a long time!!
Yes I did, I regret it, it really screwed me up. I had a lifetime of twinge.
I think giving up a kid is the most heart wrenching thing someone could do.
It would break my heart to have to do that, especially if my friends were have babies and its so hard not to get excited and want to go out shopping for babe stuff. The scans and the kicks...
You form a bond when the baby is contained by you and i would feel empty givng the baby away.
I reflect on I would feel guilty for the rest of my life.
Im not saying it shouldnt be done, but surrounded by my opinion I could never do it.
The child would also be left with hysterical effects and questions like - why wasnt I wanted and why be I given away. In todays world having a baby at 19 is not uncommon and here is so much support out there which can support mums and the baby can still have a great time.
In away its slightly selfish becasue young mums do have so several resources out there to help them... the support they dont have is a full time babysitter...
No, I be coerced and yes I have always regretted not raising my son
Here's a great article. It's called "What Adoption is Really Like" - she should noticeably read it.
http://www.feministing.com/archives/0143…
Many girls have and it is a mature and kindly thing to do. Even with help from ethnic group, it is almost impossible to finish school, have a job and bump up a child all at the same time.
Then, there is the realilty that statistically, individual 1 of 10 boys stay with the girl and fewer are able to provide anything for the child
I was forced to give my daughter up, when I was 17. I did not want to, but rear then I could let her live in the street, which would hold happened. When she was 18, I sent her all of the information, I have, because I knew she would be old enough to read. Fortunately the person who stole her from me, was an in-laws aunt.
My daughter lived through hell growing up. She was abused, mentally and physically. She be even told they wished she were gone.
I went through hell, not knowing what she be going through, if she had a decent life, if she be happy. If I could go back and do it adjectives over again, I would take the streets.
No but what she really wants to think about is whether or not it is best for the baby.
Maybe your friend is really scared about having her infant and that's why she's considering adoption... pass giving birth and the sleepless nights and the total change of existence having a child is quiet rewarding...and i think she will be more traumatise something like give up the baby she will carry during 9months than to grant up on few nights sleep...
To Tyretreno, keep going to church on sunday instead of come here and make unlikeable useless comments.
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this isn't about me, its going on for my 19year old friend. she needs opinions in the past deciding
When I finally met her many years later all I could utter was I'm sorry, does that tell you anything?
For the record: EEWWW at how many people who enjoy never relinquished or surrendered their child for adoption are answering this question.
Yes, once when I was 19 I relinquished my son for adoption. For me, it was the lowest point of my existence because it was a declaration that I wasn't good ample for him, and it's been hell trying to come to some sort of okay with that action. I be good enough for him, and he good ample for me. I should have risen up to face the reasons of why I feel I wasn't good enough, instead I chose adoption believing in the adjectives wipe the slate clean theory and that adoptive parents were better than me. I be good enough and I owed no one else my babe.
I regret everything... and it's no reflection though on the wonderfulness of who my son is now.
Tell your friend she can put up for sale him on eBay.
I lost my son contained by the 1960 which is known as the bse/ems
I was coerced if i would have specified what they had in mind for my son
I would have taken him and run as fast and far away as I could
their is nothing worst than losing a child to adoption not a day go by that I don't know if he is alive or dead did he have a good home we never know
their is plenty of aid out their so you can keep your child and go to school kinship is one moral way we must fight to keep our child
you will regret it the rest of your life span if you don't
they never tell you the long term effect it will have on you it hurts
so impossible Source(s): a mother of loss
I AM RIGHT NOW TRYING TO ADOPT A BABY FROM A TEENAGE MOTHER WHO JUST HAD HER. SHE ALSO HAS A 10 MONTH AND NOT ABLE FINANCIALLY AND PSYCHICALLY TAKE CARE OF TWO CHILDREN. ADOPTION IS A GOOD THING. SOME PEOPLE CANT HAVE CHILDREN AND THERE OWN.
with adoption in the UK is it possible to choose who your child gets adopt by? i couldn't handle not knowing what kind of life my child be living.
sometimes adoption is meant to be. there are people who can't own children of their own who would make lovely parents, whereas there are some people who can enjoy children of their own and not meant to be parents.
my friend rob was adopted and the mum and dad that raise him feel like his real parents. he's even told me and i can explain to.
Your 19 year matured friend needs to cop on and pull herself together and start doing the human thing of dealing near the results of sex. If your friend has an abortion or gives the baby up for adoption, consequently your friend isn't human. That would make your friend a selfish animal. She'll regret adoption later within life.
no i havent but ive heard of alot that have ..and if to be precise what your friend decides please tell her to be assured that there are plenty of relations out there who would love and look after the baby who cant have babies of their own and would dispense naything for that chance..so tell her never to feel guilty if specifically the decision that she really feels she has come too.
Answers: Speaking as someone abandoned to adoption, my advice is DON'T DO IT!
If you don't want to bring up your kid yourself, after have a bloody abortion - otherwise it isn't only the mother who'll be living a screwed up life, but also the child she abandon. Source(s): Adoptee
i hae an adopt brother and i often think about his birth mother. i am usually torn between gratitude and sorrow.
gratitude because she 'acted' as the takings through which my brother could come into my life. sorrow because, now that i have children, i can assume how much it hurts to give your child up.
i think your friend will have to suffer that in mind...it will hurt
but it may also open up a happy closing moments
the only thing is...unless she chooses an open adoption or is a VERY strong party she may be the one who ends up unhappy until her child chooses to find her (or not)
the bottom line is that by giving a child up for adoption we remove from sight the most precious 'thing'.something the love and nurture towards nature installs in every mother
i have hear that many women who decide to give up their child finishing up keeping it...that probably is the happiest ending because after the turmoil the child is less likely to be taken for granted
i am from europe hence not informed just about us support for lone mothers (that is if your friend is american and single) but i have had children in my twenties and it wasn't effortless but i wouldn't change it...they have made me who i am and life hasn't stopped any
and lastly, tell your friend that it is not what we make of life. what matter is what we make of the things life throws at us
I lost my son to adoption 11 years ago. Thankfully I lone regret it when I think about it, sadly I conjecture about it at least 20 times a day...
I deem you should show the blog post that Ballaerina linked to your friend. While reading it I kept nodding my head and had tears well in my eyes. What she wrote is exactly how I, and many other surrendering mother's, feel.
My daughter did. She made the decision.
I often think she might, at most minuscule she thinks of him.
She does feel that he is in worthy hands.
She now has two boys by bridal.
No, but she needs to think about it a long time!!
Yes I did, I regret it, it really screwed me up. I had a lifetime of twinge.
I think giving up a kid is the most heart wrenching thing someone could do.
It would break my heart to have to do that, especially if my friends were have babies and its so hard not to get excited and want to go out shopping for babe stuff. The scans and the kicks...
You form a bond when the baby is contained by you and i would feel empty givng the baby away.
I reflect on I would feel guilty for the rest of my life.
Im not saying it shouldnt be done, but surrounded by my opinion I could never do it.
The child would also be left with hysterical effects and questions like - why wasnt I wanted and why be I given away. In todays world having a baby at 19 is not uncommon and here is so much support out there which can support mums and the baby can still have a great time.
In away its slightly selfish becasue young mums do have so several resources out there to help them... the support they dont have is a full time babysitter...
No, I be coerced and yes I have always regretted not raising my son
Here's a great article. It's called "What Adoption is Really Like" - she should noticeably read it.
http://www.feministing.com/archives/0143…
Many girls have and it is a mature and kindly thing to do. Even with help from ethnic group, it is almost impossible to finish school, have a job and bump up a child all at the same time.
Then, there is the realilty that statistically, individual 1 of 10 boys stay with the girl and fewer are able to provide anything for the child
I was forced to give my daughter up, when I was 17. I did not want to, but rear then I could let her live in the street, which would hold happened. When she was 18, I sent her all of the information, I have, because I knew she would be old enough to read. Fortunately the person who stole her from me, was an in-laws aunt.
My daughter lived through hell growing up. She was abused, mentally and physically. She be even told they wished she were gone.
I went through hell, not knowing what she be going through, if she had a decent life, if she be happy. If I could go back and do it adjectives over again, I would take the streets.
No but what she really wants to think about is whether or not it is best for the baby.
Maybe your friend is really scared about having her infant and that's why she's considering adoption... pass giving birth and the sleepless nights and the total change of existence having a child is quiet rewarding...and i think she will be more traumatise something like give up the baby she will carry during 9months than to grant up on few nights sleep...
To Tyretreno, keep going to church on sunday instead of come here and make unlikeable useless comments.
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