Adoptees, when you have children?
How does it feel to see your child have a physical feature and for you to own no idea where it came from? (This is assuming if course, the other parent can shift back a few generations and know it's not from their side)
It was even more frustrating, lol. I could not wait to have kids and finally hold someone in my life who looked like me. My girls did not look close to me or my husband.
Once I was in reunion, though, we found out very like greased lightning who they look like. My brother's kids and mine could be twins. It was just as amazing to them when they met him as it be when I did. They said they were embarrassed because they could not stop staring at him, because they had never see anyone who looked like me, or them for that matter. Source(s): being within reunion
I was tremendously excited to have someone in my life who looked resembling me. In fact, having kids was, for me, what really started me thinking around my adoption. Giving birth to my first was the first time I considered at any depth what it must have felt approaching for my mother to give me up.
Ya, there certainly hold been mystery traits that we wondered about. But, for me, the main point has been not wondering where traits come from but more looking in amazement at traits they DO share with me. I never shared any genetic similarities with anyone formerly. So, having kids, it was just such a cool hunch to finally share something with another person on that level. I sometimes see society mocking the power of a genetic connection on this site, but most have never experienced not having that contained by their lives. My kids were my very first relatives. I can't even explain how powerful it was to look into those face for the first time.
Answers: One of my sons looks as though he might be part asian. I'm completely unsure of where on earth that comes from, as his father is almost entirely Scottish/Irish descent. I'm unsure as to my linage. No clue as to what I am, other than I pass for "white". I also have a son near blue eyes, while his father and I have brown. The all look related to one another, but I don't have a sneaking suspicion that they look like me that much at all. Source(s): Adoptee, mother of 5
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It was even more frustrating, lol. I could not wait to have kids and finally hold someone in my life who looked like me. My girls did not look close to me or my husband.
Once I was in reunion, though, we found out very like greased lightning who they look like. My brother's kids and mine could be twins. It was just as amazing to them when they met him as it be when I did. They said they were embarrassed because they could not stop staring at him, because they had never see anyone who looked like me, or them for that matter. Source(s): being within reunion
I was tremendously excited to have someone in my life who looked resembling me. In fact, having kids was, for me, what really started me thinking around my adoption. Giving birth to my first was the first time I considered at any depth what it must have felt approaching for my mother to give me up.
Ya, there certainly hold been mystery traits that we wondered about. But, for me, the main point has been not wondering where traits come from but more looking in amazement at traits they DO share with me. I never shared any genetic similarities with anyone formerly. So, having kids, it was just such a cool hunch to finally share something with another person on that level. I sometimes see society mocking the power of a genetic connection on this site, but most have never experienced not having that contained by their lives. My kids were my very first relatives. I can't even explain how powerful it was to look into those face for the first time.
Answers: One of my sons looks as though he might be part asian. I'm completely unsure of where on earth that comes from, as his father is almost entirely Scottish/Irish descent. I'm unsure as to my linage. No clue as to what I am, other than I pass for "white". I also have a son near blue eyes, while his father and I have brown. The all look related to one another, but I don't have a sneaking suspicion that they look like me that much at all. Source(s): Adoptee, mother of 5
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