What enjoy I misunderstood?
I just got an email telling me that I misunderstood something because I posted at lowest possible "twice" that having a closed adoption and requesting a medical history will not work. In both my answers I explained that in order to own a medical history that is worth the paper its printed on means up date. And I didn't think anyone who agreed to a closed adoption would agree to do continuous updates. I don't see "BOTH" parents doing this on a long term basis and not expect any contact.
It be pointed out to me that "THIS PERSON" never stated that the parents were young nor were the noble parents.
I'm confused, Are there 50 year old women surrendering children these days?
If I misunderstood, please explain which part of the pack I am wrong about? Several other people answered these same questions beside almost exactly the same information. In order to have a medical history you obligation contact.
What have I misunderstood?
VictoriaU has pretty much been harrassing anyone who tell her anything she doesn't want to hear. And since most of us here are not going to agree with someone lying to their child about the fact that they are adopt, she has been harrassing and blocking most of the people who are regulars here at this forum.
Obviously medical history change. When my adoptive grandfather was my age, he was the picture of health. When he first have his children, his medical history was spotless. Forty some years later he died of lung cancer and emphysema. If all my Dad have was the spotless medical history of his 20 something Dad, he would have never realized that he be at a higher risk for lung cancer.
All things in life (especially medical information) are flux and not at adjectives static. You cannot expect the medical history of today to be sufficient for tomorrow. Your best bet to ensure an accurate medical history for your adopted children is to keep the adoption unfold. Source(s): Surprisingly self actualized adult adoptee
I didn't see your previous question...but you are correct in your explanation.
In order to get updated medical history, the family must provide it on a regular argument. They must do this throughout life.
They must do this, either directly to the child or the adoptive parents, or through an intermediary, like an agency.
It seem much more likely that it would happen in an unseal adoption, where the natural family have actual contact with the adoptive family and the child.
Many mothers would be uncomfortable turning over their medical history to a governing body agency,or an adoption agency, and in fact, that would be a violation of their privacy.
I don't construe you have misunderstood anything but like a lot of ethnic group around here there are just some of them who will only read and become conscious what they want to read and understand...regardless of what was said in the first place.
Victoria cleary doesnt realize that those ages are young in todays world. You know, sometimes she seems to cause sense, then she posts a question about a "birthmother" specifically so stereotypical of what uninformed people think a first mother in, thats its disturbing.
The soon to be birth mother that I am talking about is 29 years behind the times. And the grand parents are 50 and 47. What you misunderstood is that I was not speaking about every single suitcase I am speaking about one woman who does not want her child and has said she would rather the adoption be closed so that she wont own to be reminded that she gave up her child. I did not block you for your opinion, I blocked you for being rude and spiteful towards me seeing as how you don't even know me.
EDIT: Also if you look in this question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;… you will see what kind of birth mother I am speaking nearly. She has expressed to me and her parents that she would simply not be intrested in putting the childs life and its requests before hers.
Gemma S has obviosuly twisted the words I said around, just read her answer.
EDIT: As I said surrounded by the question "She told me the main reason she does not want to be a mother is because she is not done have fun in her life to put someone else before herself. And that she would enjoy had an abortion but she waited too late, so its clear to me that she have no feeling towards her baby at all."
For some point some of the posters are having a hard time with not reading since they answer.
Lori, you haven't misunderstood anything. Vickie have the problem. Vickie just doesnt want to listen to anyone who knows the reality of the adoption world.
There is no valid point in rehashing was said in insinuation to closed adoptions and seeking a medical history as "it" wont listen.
Vickie:
". you for being rude and hateful towards me seeing as how you don't even know me."
Wow. Given that you LABELED the adoptees contained by here "angry" and "hateful", without actually "knowing any of them". Double Standards or better put as "the pot calling the kettle black".
"For some reason some of the posters are have a hard time with not reading before they answer."
OUCH. Learn to comprehend Vickie it will work wonders contained by this section.
Sorry, but a 29 year old-fashioned mother and 50 and 47 year old grandparents ARE young. Chronic health conditions, such as heart disease, dignified blood pressure, cancer, etc., often do not present until ages 60+. You have no route of knowing if these folks have medical conditions that have not yet manifest at their relatively young ages.
Lack of updates throughout life will result in inaccuate form history.
Wait...what?!
What you're saying makes faultlessly logical sense...I'm not sure how there could be a miscommunication on that.
However, if the emailer was who I think it might be, I come up with maybe that could be chalked up to insanity. ;-) Source(s): AP & Adoptee
Answers: Lori...ignore VicU..she has very soon blocked me...seems like she is blocking everyone that doesn't tell her what she requirements to hear, but evidently has no compunction about emailing people who's answers she doesn't similar to.
Medical history is completely VOLUNTARY...whether an open or closed adoption. As of yet there are no officially enforcable laws mandating that anyone share their PRIVATE medical history (and that of family members) next to another individual adult, whether that be the adoptive parent or the adoptee.
I gave what little med history I had when I be 17 and pg. I was quite the healthy specimen, as be my family. We were all YOUNG! I within fact would not incur any health problems til I was within my 40's...my mother until she was in her 60's. Would I like to be solely contacted on a regular justification by the adoption agency...interrogating me about my private medical information and that of my family?...I don't think so. Especially when I have no earthly idea of where my child be or even her name.who adopted her? Should my private medical information be made available for some clerk in an agency department to pore over..before it was handed over to the anonymous adoptors? Sorry information is a 2-way street...I am not the martyr/sacrificial mother...that I will lay undressed all facets of my medical life and my family's vivacity...for other adult people to pore over, of who I know nothing around nor even know their identity. How do I know what they would do with this info...share it with their friends for entertainment?
The adoptive parents want to know medical info from the surrendering mother...YOU contact HER yourself! Guess it wasn't too worrisome for a lot of adoptive parents surrounded by closed adoptions...I didn't hear a rally cry..to open those closed adoption so they could speak to the natural mother of their adopted child...with concerns for the robustness of their adopted child. Or did I miss that too?
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It be pointed out to me that "THIS PERSON" never stated that the parents were young nor were the noble parents.
I'm confused, Are there 50 year old women surrendering children these days?
If I misunderstood, please explain which part of the pack I am wrong about? Several other people answered these same questions beside almost exactly the same information. In order to have a medical history you obligation contact.
What have I misunderstood?
VictoriaU has pretty much been harrassing anyone who tell her anything she doesn't want to hear. And since most of us here are not going to agree with someone lying to their child about the fact that they are adopt, she has been harrassing and blocking most of the people who are regulars here at this forum.
Obviously medical history change. When my adoptive grandfather was my age, he was the picture of health. When he first have his children, his medical history was spotless. Forty some years later he died of lung cancer and emphysema. If all my Dad have was the spotless medical history of his 20 something Dad, he would have never realized that he be at a higher risk for lung cancer.
All things in life (especially medical information) are flux and not at adjectives static. You cannot expect the medical history of today to be sufficient for tomorrow. Your best bet to ensure an accurate medical history for your adopted children is to keep the adoption unfold. Source(s): Surprisingly self actualized adult adoptee
I didn't see your previous question...but you are correct in your explanation.
In order to get updated medical history, the family must provide it on a regular argument. They must do this throughout life.
They must do this, either directly to the child or the adoptive parents, or through an intermediary, like an agency.
It seem much more likely that it would happen in an unseal adoption, where the natural family have actual contact with the adoptive family and the child.
Many mothers would be uncomfortable turning over their medical history to a governing body agency,or an adoption agency, and in fact, that would be a violation of their privacy.
I don't construe you have misunderstood anything but like a lot of ethnic group around here there are just some of them who will only read and become conscious what they want to read and understand...regardless of what was said in the first place.
Victoria cleary doesnt realize that those ages are young in todays world. You know, sometimes she seems to cause sense, then she posts a question about a "birthmother" specifically so stereotypical of what uninformed people think a first mother in, thats its disturbing.
The soon to be birth mother that I am talking about is 29 years behind the times. And the grand parents are 50 and 47. What you misunderstood is that I was not speaking about every single suitcase I am speaking about one woman who does not want her child and has said she would rather the adoption be closed so that she wont own to be reminded that she gave up her child. I did not block you for your opinion, I blocked you for being rude and spiteful towards me seeing as how you don't even know me.
EDIT: Also if you look in this question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;… you will see what kind of birth mother I am speaking nearly. She has expressed to me and her parents that she would simply not be intrested in putting the childs life and its requests before hers.
Gemma S has obviosuly twisted the words I said around, just read her answer.
EDIT: As I said surrounded by the question "She told me the main reason she does not want to be a mother is because she is not done have fun in her life to put someone else before herself. And that she would enjoy had an abortion but she waited too late, so its clear to me that she have no feeling towards her baby at all."
For some point some of the posters are having a hard time with not reading since they answer.
Lori, you haven't misunderstood anything. Vickie have the problem. Vickie just doesnt want to listen to anyone who knows the reality of the adoption world.
There is no valid point in rehashing was said in insinuation to closed adoptions and seeking a medical history as "it" wont listen.
Vickie:
". you for being rude and hateful towards me seeing as how you don't even know me."
Wow. Given that you LABELED the adoptees contained by here "angry" and "hateful", without actually "knowing any of them". Double Standards or better put as "the pot calling the kettle black".
"For some reason some of the posters are have a hard time with not reading before they answer."
OUCH. Learn to comprehend Vickie it will work wonders contained by this section.
Sorry, but a 29 year old-fashioned mother and 50 and 47 year old grandparents ARE young. Chronic health conditions, such as heart disease, dignified blood pressure, cancer, etc., often do not present until ages 60+. You have no route of knowing if these folks have medical conditions that have not yet manifest at their relatively young ages.
Lack of updates throughout life will result in inaccuate form history.
Wait...what?!
What you're saying makes faultlessly logical sense...I'm not sure how there could be a miscommunication on that.
However, if the emailer was who I think it might be, I come up with maybe that could be chalked up to insanity. ;-) Source(s): AP & Adoptee
Answers: Lori...ignore VicU..she has very soon blocked me...seems like she is blocking everyone that doesn't tell her what she requirements to hear, but evidently has no compunction about emailing people who's answers she doesn't similar to.
Medical history is completely VOLUNTARY...whether an open or closed adoption. As of yet there are no officially enforcable laws mandating that anyone share their PRIVATE medical history (and that of family members) next to another individual adult, whether that be the adoptive parent or the adoptee.
I gave what little med history I had when I be 17 and pg. I was quite the healthy specimen, as be my family. We were all YOUNG! I within fact would not incur any health problems til I was within my 40's...my mother until she was in her 60's. Would I like to be solely contacted on a regular justification by the adoption agency...interrogating me about my private medical information and that of my family?...I don't think so. Especially when I have no earthly idea of where my child be or even her name.who adopted her? Should my private medical information be made available for some clerk in an agency department to pore over..before it was handed over to the anonymous adoptors? Sorry information is a 2-way street...I am not the martyr/sacrificial mother...that I will lay undressed all facets of my medical life and my family's vivacity...for other adult people to pore over, of who I know nothing around nor even know their identity. How do I know what they would do with this info...share it with their friends for entertainment?
The adoptive parents want to know medical info from the surrendering mother...YOU contact HER yourself! Guess it wasn't too worrisome for a lot of adoptive parents surrounded by closed adoptions...I didn't hear a rally cry..to open those closed adoption so they could speak to the natural mother of their adopted child...with concerns for the robustness of their adopted child. Or did I miss that too?
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