Why do some ethnic group presume that I should not adopt?
I have five children already all of which are mine. My husband and I have arranged to adopt for the first time. I told some people at work and they all think its not a angelic idea to adopt after having 5 kids already. I don't see why they would think that. Not simply can I financially support our adoptive child, but I can also provide it with something he or she was deprived of a loving mother, father, and family. But some citizens say its all about how much money you fashion.
I disagree with that 100% I make well over $600k a year. And I know for a reality that money is not all it takes to raise a child.
Poor people make higher kids all the time and they sometimes turn out well. Rich kids don't always turn out ably. If you have enough love in your heart I don't suggest anything else matters. The only thing that would stop me from adopt is the fact that no matter how good of a parent I be the child would still want to find his/her biological parents. That's just instinct, I think to want to know who gave birth to you but I enjoy a few friends who were adopted and their parents love them just as much as they would love a kid they give birth to. They also love their adoptive parents. Everyone is different but if you want to do it go for it. Too many kids don't get to own parents.
I don't think you shouldn't adopt because of money. I think you shouldn't adopt because you plan on lying to your child, according to some of your other answers.
You also own a lack of respect for their first family that is pretty adjectives. Keep in mind, if you talk that way more or less them to your child, they will end up resenting YOU. Children internalize things like that.
I don't really care how several other kids you have, or how much money you have. It's meaningless in the frontage of bad parenting. Source(s): Adoptee and Adoptive Mom
Answers: First past its sell-by date, why do you care what others think? You have 5 wonderful children already, you hold been able to take portion in that, it's your choice if you feel you are ready to attention for a child who is less fortunate. If you are able to give a child who is stuck within the system a loving home that's for you to decide not your co workers or anyone else for that matter except the agency you are going through, I would reccomend looking to your local Child Protection Services first though, being that most of those children are near because they are not getting the right treatment else where. You are a wonderful person for not only have your children but willing to take care of others! Good luck within the adoption process, remember one thing if you can, you are who you are because That's how our maker wanted you , don't agree to anyone else tear that down!
If you build over $600K a year then when are you being a parent?
There ARE things more important than money.
I don't suppose you should be banned from adopting, but I think that IF you enjoy 5 kids already and work a lot (Just guessing), then there may be a better people for a child and if you're the best parent willing to adopt a certain child, then I voice you should be allowed.
It should all come down to "Is THIS home the best home we could find for THIS child" not who should/could adopt.
"But some society say its all about how much money you label."
No, it's all about how much your willing to income.
I reflect if you can provide a good home, food and love then it doesnt matter how tons kids you have, I think adoption is beautiful and it really shouldnt thing if people tell you not to do it, your the one who will raise the child.
Well because, you already have five children. Not many populace can handle that many kids. If you have satisfactory money to support another child and you know you can handle it go for it. It is your life and one and only you know what you are capable of. If this is something that is important to you shift for it who cares what other people thing.
Good luck
i think thats a great idea its what u want not others
1. You already have five children. Raising adopt children is not the same as raising biological children. Adoption is complex, especially for the adoptee, who had to lose his/her entire clan in order to be available for adoption. Adoptees need extra time, love, supervision, and attention. When will you give your adoptee(s) this extra time?
2. You already have five children. What will it be like for THE ONLY PERSON NOT RELATED TO YOU to move within and suddenly have to fit in with these seven strangers? Can you picture how uncomfortable that would be?
3. You already have five children. If that's not enough, enjoy some more of your own! Why do you need other people's children, too?
4. Your assumption that adoptees don't already have loving mothers shows your lack of training about adoption. 98% of surrendering mothers WANT their children, but feel unable to parent for one judgment or another. Just because a child is in need of a new kinfolk, that DOES NOT mean the first family didn't love/want them.
5. You called a human individual "it". 'Nuf said.
Why do you want to adopt a child?
Do you feel that it's an opportunity to give a child a home? If so, you should look into domestic foster care next to older children who really are in desperate need of homes.
Is it because you want another child and expect raise an adopted child to be roughly the same experience as raising your biological children? If so, adopt a child could come as quite a shock. Being adopted is hard on children. Certain traits are adjectives and an adopted child can easily feel close to the outcast for being different.
Some questions you may want to consider: How will my other children react to an adopt sibling? How will my family react, will the adopted child be official the same as if he/she had come from my own womb? How would you educate the child roughly his/her adoption and biological roots? It's important for children to always know they are adopted, it should be an ongoing conversation throughout the child's existence. How would you feel about having an embark on adoption or your child searching for their biological parents? How will bringing an adopted child into your family affect your existing children? An adopt child will need a lot of support and attention, with five children already would it be fiesta to stretch those time and emotional resources even thinner? This decision will affect the child and your entire family. It's not a result to take lightly.
Maybe because of your attitude about it. Maybe because you don't really want to adopt : http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;… and that is undeserved to a child.
Maybe because you seem to have marital/control/temper issues: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
Who knows...
you shouldnt adopt cause u will never love someone elses kid as much as ur own!
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I disagree with that 100% I make well over $600k a year. And I know for a reality that money is not all it takes to raise a child.
Poor people make higher kids all the time and they sometimes turn out well. Rich kids don't always turn out ably. If you have enough love in your heart I don't suggest anything else matters. The only thing that would stop me from adopt is the fact that no matter how good of a parent I be the child would still want to find his/her biological parents. That's just instinct, I think to want to know who gave birth to you but I enjoy a few friends who were adopted and their parents love them just as much as they would love a kid they give birth to. They also love their adoptive parents. Everyone is different but if you want to do it go for it. Too many kids don't get to own parents.
I don't think you shouldn't adopt because of money. I think you shouldn't adopt because you plan on lying to your child, according to some of your other answers.
You also own a lack of respect for their first family that is pretty adjectives. Keep in mind, if you talk that way more or less them to your child, they will end up resenting YOU. Children internalize things like that.
I don't really care how several other kids you have, or how much money you have. It's meaningless in the frontage of bad parenting. Source(s): Adoptee and Adoptive Mom
Answers: First past its sell-by date, why do you care what others think? You have 5 wonderful children already, you hold been able to take portion in that, it's your choice if you feel you are ready to attention for a child who is less fortunate. If you are able to give a child who is stuck within the system a loving home that's for you to decide not your co workers or anyone else for that matter except the agency you are going through, I would reccomend looking to your local Child Protection Services first though, being that most of those children are near because they are not getting the right treatment else where. You are a wonderful person for not only have your children but willing to take care of others! Good luck within the adoption process, remember one thing if you can, you are who you are because That's how our maker wanted you , don't agree to anyone else tear that down!
If you build over $600K a year then when are you being a parent?
There ARE things more important than money.
I don't suppose you should be banned from adopting, but I think that IF you enjoy 5 kids already and work a lot (Just guessing), then there may be a better people for a child and if you're the best parent willing to adopt a certain child, then I voice you should be allowed.
It should all come down to "Is THIS home the best home we could find for THIS child" not who should/could adopt.
"But some society say its all about how much money you label."
No, it's all about how much your willing to income.
I reflect if you can provide a good home, food and love then it doesnt matter how tons kids you have, I think adoption is beautiful and it really shouldnt thing if people tell you not to do it, your the one who will raise the child.
Well because, you already have five children. Not many populace can handle that many kids. If you have satisfactory money to support another child and you know you can handle it go for it. It is your life and one and only you know what you are capable of. If this is something that is important to you shift for it who cares what other people thing.
Good luck
i think thats a great idea its what u want not others
1. You already have five children. Raising adopt children is not the same as raising biological children. Adoption is complex, especially for the adoptee, who had to lose his/her entire clan in order to be available for adoption. Adoptees need extra time, love, supervision, and attention. When will you give your adoptee(s) this extra time?
2. You already have five children. What will it be like for THE ONLY PERSON NOT RELATED TO YOU to move within and suddenly have to fit in with these seven strangers? Can you picture how uncomfortable that would be?
3. You already have five children. If that's not enough, enjoy some more of your own! Why do you need other people's children, too?
4. Your assumption that adoptees don't already have loving mothers shows your lack of training about adoption. 98% of surrendering mothers WANT their children, but feel unable to parent for one judgment or another. Just because a child is in need of a new kinfolk, that DOES NOT mean the first family didn't love/want them.
5. You called a human individual "it". 'Nuf said.
Why do you want to adopt a child?
Do you feel that it's an opportunity to give a child a home? If so, you should look into domestic foster care next to older children who really are in desperate need of homes.
Is it because you want another child and expect raise an adopted child to be roughly the same experience as raising your biological children? If so, adopt a child could come as quite a shock. Being adopted is hard on children. Certain traits are adjectives and an adopted child can easily feel close to the outcast for being different.
Some questions you may want to consider: How will my other children react to an adopt sibling? How will my family react, will the adopted child be official the same as if he/she had come from my own womb? How would you educate the child roughly his/her adoption and biological roots? It's important for children to always know they are adopted, it should be an ongoing conversation throughout the child's existence. How would you feel about having an embark on adoption or your child searching for their biological parents? How will bringing an adopted child into your family affect your existing children? An adopt child will need a lot of support and attention, with five children already would it be fiesta to stretch those time and emotional resources even thinner? This decision will affect the child and your entire family. It's not a result to take lightly.
Maybe because of your attitude about it. Maybe because you don't really want to adopt : http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;… and that is undeserved to a child.
Maybe because you seem to have marital/control/temper issues: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
Who knows...
you shouldnt adopt cause u will never love someone elses kid as much as ur own!
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