Has anyone adopt a teen? Any suggestion?
Has anyone adopted/fostered a troubled teen? Did you have other children? How did it affect the household? Any advice?
My husband's mother adopted three teenage boys. It be great. They were happy and healthy and lived a better life span than they had before.
Well mine was 10 when he came to live next to me, just on the cusp of being a teen. We had a thorny time for a while because he was so difficult, but I wouldn't change it for the world. He grew up in time and overcame most of his issues.
In the birth I had to deal with greatly of drinking and disrespect, and some other things. He never stole from me, but one of his friends did.
Not all teens have major problems, though. Some of them bring the other route and try to become the perfect child. It just all depends on the kid himself. Take the time to go and get to know him/her first.
Answers: Oh geez.
I stayed in a foster home as a teen and the ancestral had 2 other children, younger than me. I was very troubled.but "troubled" routine I was screaming out for someone to care, someone to set boundaries, someone to take an interest contained by me, and someone to "parent me."
When my foster parents set appropriate boundaries, "taught me" appropriate behaviors, encouraged me to respect myself and them, and took an interest in me, it adjectives worked out. It took time, but they did not give up.
(Email me if you want some details about ways they parented a troubled teen.)
When you decide to foster children, you are not decide to have children in your home who are perfect. Most foster kids come from traumatic background and respond 100% appropriately for what they have experienced. It's not easy, but if you apply appropriate parenting tools, it can be a joy to keep under surveillance the changes.
We foster two teens and with one of the teens we have a child a yr younger. It was not detrimental to her.
If you have younger children in your home I would NOT appropriate in teens.
Well, it wasn't an adoption or a fostering situation, but my VERY troubled teenage stepdaughter came to live with us for a short while concluding year and it was a nightmare. She consistently broke every rule we set for her (and we weren't expecting much from her; it was rules like "no smoking" and "no drugs"), she flunked most of her classes at academy, she lied constantly about EVERYTHING, she stole money from us, she gave her boyfriend chlamydia, she tried to convince my husband that he'd be better off if he vanished me, she stole money and jewelry from her BF's mother, she got grounded for skipping school and promptly ran bad and stayed out all night, only to be brought home by the police the following morning, etc. etc. etc. When she declared that living near us was "too hard" and she had decided to move backbone with her mom, it was the happiest day of my time. A couple of days after she left, I discovered that she had stolen my son's wallet containing $160 (he was nine at the time; do you hold any idea how long it takes a kid that age to save up that type of money?). I understand that she had a really crappy upbringing (she was raise by her crazy mother, who prevented her from having any kind of relationship with her father, my husband), but a crappy upbringing doesn't excuse screw over the ONLY people who want to help you and give you a haphazard at a better life, and definitely doesn't excuse stealing from your own little brother. She's not welcome here anymore, and if she does want to come and look in her father at some point, my four kids and I will vacate the premises until she's gone again. And of course I'll take any valuables with me for safekeeping, because she'll steal anything that's not red hot or nail down.
Sorry to be such a downer, and I'm not saying your situation would turn out ANYTHING like ours, but make sure you're extremely aware of what you're getting yourself and your family into before you do this. I hope it works out for you.
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My husband's mother adopted three teenage boys. It be great. They were happy and healthy and lived a better life span than they had before.
Well mine was 10 when he came to live next to me, just on the cusp of being a teen. We had a thorny time for a while because he was so difficult, but I wouldn't change it for the world. He grew up in time and overcame most of his issues.
In the birth I had to deal with greatly of drinking and disrespect, and some other things. He never stole from me, but one of his friends did.
Not all teens have major problems, though. Some of them bring the other route and try to become the perfect child. It just all depends on the kid himself. Take the time to go and get to know him/her first.
Answers: Oh geez.
I stayed in a foster home as a teen and the ancestral had 2 other children, younger than me. I was very troubled.but "troubled" routine I was screaming out for someone to care, someone to set boundaries, someone to take an interest contained by me, and someone to "parent me."
When my foster parents set appropriate boundaries, "taught me" appropriate behaviors, encouraged me to respect myself and them, and took an interest in me, it adjectives worked out. It took time, but they did not give up.
(Email me if you want some details about ways they parented a troubled teen.)
When you decide to foster children, you are not decide to have children in your home who are perfect. Most foster kids come from traumatic background and respond 100% appropriately for what they have experienced. It's not easy, but if you apply appropriate parenting tools, it can be a joy to keep under surveillance the changes.
We foster two teens and with one of the teens we have a child a yr younger. It was not detrimental to her.
If you have younger children in your home I would NOT appropriate in teens.
Well, it wasn't an adoption or a fostering situation, but my VERY troubled teenage stepdaughter came to live with us for a short while concluding year and it was a nightmare. She consistently broke every rule we set for her (and we weren't expecting much from her; it was rules like "no smoking" and "no drugs"), she flunked most of her classes at academy, she lied constantly about EVERYTHING, she stole money from us, she gave her boyfriend chlamydia, she tried to convince my husband that he'd be better off if he vanished me, she stole money and jewelry from her BF's mother, she got grounded for skipping school and promptly ran bad and stayed out all night, only to be brought home by the police the following morning, etc. etc. etc. When she declared that living near us was "too hard" and she had decided to move backbone with her mom, it was the happiest day of my time. A couple of days after she left, I discovered that she had stolen my son's wallet containing $160 (he was nine at the time; do you hold any idea how long it takes a kid that age to save up that type of money?). I understand that she had a really crappy upbringing (she was raise by her crazy mother, who prevented her from having any kind of relationship with her father, my husband), but a crappy upbringing doesn't excuse screw over the ONLY people who want to help you and give you a haphazard at a better life, and definitely doesn't excuse stealing from your own little brother. She's not welcome here anymore, and if she does want to come and look in her father at some point, my four kids and I will vacate the premises until she's gone again. And of course I'll take any valuables with me for safekeeping, because she'll steal anything that's not red hot or nail down.
Sorry to be such a downer, and I'm not saying your situation would turn out ANYTHING like ours, but make sure you're extremely aware of what you're getting yourself and your family into before you do this. I hope it works out for you.
Listen to Looney Tunes. Source(s): Looney!! So happy you're posterior!
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