How terrifying is reunion?
For me, I be terrified before the actual reunion. I didn't know or understand the inner health I was going through and had no clue how many others have already been down that path. But no amount of fear be going to keep me from reuniting with my son.
Since that initial fear, I've experienced great pleasure, sadness, joy and exhileration. More fear, some tears, lots of laughs and smiles . . . and so much more.
And every one of those emotion, every up and down was 100% worth it! Source(s): First/Natural mom reunited with my son two and a half years ago.
I wouldn't call it worrisome. A better way to describe it would be its a rollercoaster ride of emotions. I went though so plentiful intense and almost overwhelming emotions; nevertheless it is a moment of time that I cherish.
That is the most important part beside any re-union, dont let your emotions take that moment away from you.
Well I met my brother for the first time yesterday and it was cool. It wasn't scary at all..we are have a blast!
Why does it hold to be 'scary'? It's not like we are meeting the Boogieman or Boogielady..or do you think explicitly what you will meet?
Most times in reunion, we just collect our mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, sisters, brothers...that are on the whole...just average population. And yes, some people can seem a bit weird...but what household doesn't have one of those? Are there no 'weird' people within adoptive families?
What ARE you talking about?
terrifying, exhilarating, refreshing, gut wrenching, panic inducing, freeing.
made me want to vomit on myself.
the most wonderful thing i hold ever done.
worth it in my opinion. i'd do it all over contained by a heartbeat
For me it was very alarming and I had to deal with emotion that I had 'locked up' up inside of myself. However we have been reunited for almost five years in a minute and I don't regret one moment of it.
Nerve wracking, intense, humbling, self reflective, and oooohhhh sooo worth it.
A little bit. You'll either have really high expectations (that might be crushed), or really low expectations (that hold you depressed beforehand).
I wasn't anxious at all but we had talked on the phone and emailed respectively other for over a year.
its the worst feeling in the world so meany things go through your person in charge . i met mine last week and i hated every min off it
curious why you ask. are you planning a reunion?
Answers: You know, I think every experience is pretty different, since every person involved is different.
I really enjoyed reuniting beside my birth-brother. We're not super close now or anything, but it was interesting, since we are only two years apart. Super nice guy, but we a moment ago have really different value systems, so we don't have much surrounded by common, which is why we're not really close.
Meeting my birthmom was kind of bittersweet. I cogitate I expected someone a little more motherly. But, she never parented any children so it could be that she just didn't really know how to act. She be really open, though, which I liked. She told me everything about her relatives (as in, extended) and gave me some interesting insights. She was also completely honest beside me, and while some of it hurt (like the fact that she never wanted any children, and hadn't originally planned to meet me), it feel good to hear it from her mouth, and I don't regret it for a moment. It also felt awesome to know that she was competent to achieve so much as a result of the adoption. Some of my own "adoption issues" stemmed from the fact that I worried about her well-being over the years. Knowing she be doing well and doing what she enjoyed made me feel better, and give me a lot of peace.
I am actually proud of my first mom. I feel similar to she is really strong, and I'm proud of her for doing what was best for her and choosing something unconventional (like career, nurture and singlehood) at a time when that was basically considered unacceptable. She's conspicuously one of the original feminists. Meeting her gave me that pride, which is pretty cool. She and my mother met also, and still talk, which is a nice attitude. It's never bad to have more people keeping for you.
All in all, whatever information you win, it gives you some truth, and that's wonderful. :-)
I'd say the best thing to do, is to move about in with no expectations (I know how difficult that is!). Remember, birth relations or not, they are just people. Give them the benefit of the doubt, and try not to over-analyze the situation. ;)
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