Is the number one origin mothers today make a contribution up their children shortage of money?
My mother's generation seemed to lack men who stood up to their responsibilities (i.e. a guy would would marry them) as the biggest reason for surrendering a child, but today it seems to be financial support.
Do you think if most surrendering mothers have more than enough money they would keep their children?
I guess it depends on what species of adoption your are speaking of.
-Newborn
-International
-Foster
-Step parent
I think each group has their own reason.
And when you say "Money" do you mean inability to provide the basic requirements for a child or not being able to maintain a desirable lifestyle if parenting a child?
There are so abundant variations of this question, that I think it's fundamental impossible to give a clear answer.
I am so back an forth on this, because in THIS country and other close to it, there is no real reason some one CAN'T parent their child because of money.
I reckon poverty can add to stress that can lead to abuse, and later children being placed in foster care or for adoption.
I think cut down the number compeltly. We have what is call the working poor in this country makes just to much for assistance but not adequate to live. They live in an never ending cycle of in and out of poverty.
I also consider lack of universal health coverage. There are tons people again who work to much to get Medicaid but their job does not propose insurance or if it does it is way to expensive.
It won't cut it out all together many tons people who surrender are college students where they have to put together a choice finish school or raise a child. Yes hundred if not thousands do it but if you own no family support or are not close to home or working and going to school a baby would miserable dropping out and going into poverty. Surrendering gives them a chance.
What I trully think will back is better sex education access to birth control and teaching people to use it correctly.
I can't report to you how many people don't read the package or converse to their doctor and don't know that antibiotics makes the pill less effective and in consequence a second method needs to be used. I know two people who got pregant approaching that.
Answers: Sunny,
The man, during the BSE,would have provided the financial support that I needed. Mothers of that era couldn't provide for their children on their own, especially if they be only teenagers.
Women were persecuted for being pregnant, and discriminated against, within employment. So finances were still...the bottom line.
My family wouldn't give support to me, even though they were well-off. The agency I went to was corrupt.
I contemplate that, from what I have heard from today's mothers, it is somewhat different. The laws today do protect women's civil rights. There are benefits available today that BSE mothers couldn't draw from.
BUT...the industry is manipulative with "open adoption" and the timeframes are ensnaring mothers to sign surrenders previously than ever.
And young mothers can still be forced or threatened by their parents if they don't understand their rights.
ETA: some grandparents of today can be really nasty. A pregnant teen really wants support if she is to keep her baby while facing down a hostile grandparent. It isn't easy for these youthful mothers, and they don't know where to turn.
I think if surrendering mothers received a proper schooling that include how to budget and were aware of social support programs like food stamps, WIC, Medicaid, TA-NF, The salvation army , food pantries, and weren't made to perceive terrible for needing help and be aware that adoptive parents USE WELFARE to adopt than more women would be keeping and raising their baby.
I mean if you hold to borrow, fund raise, take out a loan to adopt then apparently you can't afford it. That's only common sense. If you can't save money then adopt apparently you are not responsible next to money.
Sunny thanks for asking this wonderful question.
I deduce it is because some are just young and their own parents think it would be best. Their is to much minister to out there now for it to be money.
Yes absolutely. Financial circumstances are cited time and time again by women who want their babies, but can't see a route to afford to raise them.
Some women are caught between not being financially lucid and not being poor ample to qualify for certain welfare benefits. Also society appears to stigmatize and demonize 'welfare mothers' it takes a strong-willed person to overcome that prejudice.
No because welfare is available to those same mother.
I ponder environment, parents, readiness, lack of support,or even just age play a sector in a woman's choice to give up her child. I think even surrounded by today's world I think some women still give up their child because of men who wouldn't stand up to their responsibilities.
No, not surrounded by the UK as they can get cheap affordable housing through housing associations and council housing. If they don't work they get full housing benefit and council tax benefit - if they're contained by private rented accomodation they may have to pay a small amount of rent. Regardless of whether a mother is working or not she gets child benefit conceivably other benefits depending on her wage. If she is unemployed she gets income support or job seekers allowance.
I wonder in this morning why so many girls still get pregnant and have to cause this horrible decision.
Birth control is easy to get, any one can buy condoms, it's not similar to back in my day, my mom didn't detail me anything.
It makes me sick that with all the sex training available, girls are still taking chances and getting pregnant.
But to answer your question, no I don't think if they have more money that they would keep their babies, I think if they had a plan and own flesh and blood support, they would keep their babies.
As a Grandma, I could never let my son give up his daughter. I would do anything I could to help them, I would never make him feel ashamed. Luckily he married and afterwards had a baby. Source(s): First mom to Cheri 1972 and Mom to James 1977
yes. i cant qualify for welfare or WIC because i live with my dad next to 5 other people, and he makes 500$ too much to qualify. im too young to drive leagaly, and even mcdonolds turned me down for a position. i dont expect my dad to take care of my mistake of having sex until that time i was married. and because i woundt DARE let the father, the man who molested me, visit my child. hes a filthy pig. my baby wouldnt have a daddy. and i think everyone should.
yes I think so. I think profoundly of adoptions are because, of money but, not all.
I think within will still be some who surrender, but for the most part money would change a lot of minds.
I think it's lack of encouragement and support, combined with scarcity of awareness about the available resources, not pure lack of money.
A low income mother will have access to: welfare, state subsidized housing, Medicaid, trial aid, WIC and/or foodstamps, utility vouchers, unemployment benefits, food pantries, thrift stores, and any other form of community outreach available in her area. It's not similar to a woman without means or a partner is left in need any practical help, as she would have been contained by the past. A woman isn't going to become wealthy this way, but nearby is certainly help available to a struggling young nearest and dearest trying to meet the requirements to stay afloat.
The problem is, accepting aid is stigmatized, wealthier is seen as better even if basic wishes can be met in either home, and women in crisis pregnancies are normally denied emotional support, or encouragement that they could be good mothers.
So no, I don't think only just giving mothers more money and doing nothing else for them would change anything, at least within North America, because so many services are already available, and many times not taken advantage of.
Rather, I presume what is needed is a more holistic attitude shift toward encouraging and supporting mothers. Money isn't unnecessary, but I think the bigger issue in the current social situation is outlook and stigma.
Maybe in some cases. My daughter placed a child over 3 years ago and I can tell you that the reason she did so were not financial.
I don't know, my child's birth mom is a college graduate working as a social worker. Some women a moment ago make a choice.
Dear Sunny,
While there are multiple reason people list such as finances, age, marital status, social pressure, etc., it adjectives really boils down to two things in my mind: KNOWLEDGE and SUPPORT.
While I do think that there are some associates who simply do not want to parent (and I think they are EXTREMELY RARE), it is my opinion that the vast majority of adoption occur because of a lack of knowledge on the slice of the expectant parent(s) - including my own. The average person is unaware of the complexities and issues of adoption. Add to that an unplanned pregnancy and a lack of basic/truthful/honest acquaintance about biology, parenting, fiscal responsibility, available resources, etc. and you have a prime target for an adoptive situation.
Much of this lack of ease comes from poor support systems. First there is the society surrounding the individual and then there is the personal support system of the expectant parent(s). The societal attitudes and available teaching towards parenting vary fro place to place. For example: In the US age is often a big factor because the general attitude is that relations should wait to have children until they have career,own a home, etc. and therefore teens (who are BIOLOGICALLY read to reproduce) are NOT considered "proper" parents, where as it is not as much a factor in voice, African nations where teen parenting is common. Hence, age is a more typical motivation for relinquishment in the US than it is in African countries. The way we instruct our children reflects the prevailing societal attitude and in turn effects the "acceptance" of different parenting scenarios - things resembling abstinence only programs in lofty schools. Society "teaches" us what "it" deems acceptable and omit often important information in proclaim to assure compliance which leaves people without the whole understanding necessary to make a well informed conclusion. In the US, women are expected to wait to reproduce while ignoring biological limitations are taught suitably. (I personally disagree with this idea. I deliberate honest and whole education is better.)
The amount of individual assistance/support also has a great influence over choice. Even surrounded by societies that frown on certain situations, if the individual has good personal support, societal philosophy can be ignored and vice-versa. Expectant parents with supportive families and friends roughly choose to parent and there are certainly cases of people who society deem "acceptable" to parent who feel they can't because of a crummy support system.
I believe that lack of knowledge and dearth of support are at the root of almost all family separation. Much abuse and delinquency even stems from lack of knowledge/support. Certainly, there are other factors such as mental complaint, addiction, etc.; however, IMO, the most common reasons for relinquishment/removal are due to a lack of instruction, support or both. To me, it is sad that people aren't even aware that if they don't have support, they can find it because it IS out near. I also find it depressing that there is such available MISinformation but the truth about somethings is more difficult to find.
Knowledge is power and support is strength. Source(s): JMHO. I could go on in the order of this for an hour but I'll stop. I hope you understand what I'm getting at. :)
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Do you think if most surrendering mothers have more than enough money they would keep their children?
I guess it depends on what species of adoption your are speaking of.
-Newborn
-International
-Foster
-Step parent
I think each group has their own reason.
And when you say "Money" do you mean inability to provide the basic requirements for a child or not being able to maintain a desirable lifestyle if parenting a child?
There are so abundant variations of this question, that I think it's fundamental impossible to give a clear answer.
I am so back an forth on this, because in THIS country and other close to it, there is no real reason some one CAN'T parent their child because of money.
I reckon poverty can add to stress that can lead to abuse, and later children being placed in foster care or for adoption.
I think cut down the number compeltly. We have what is call the working poor in this country makes just to much for assistance but not adequate to live. They live in an never ending cycle of in and out of poverty.
I also consider lack of universal health coverage. There are tons people again who work to much to get Medicaid but their job does not propose insurance or if it does it is way to expensive.
It won't cut it out all together many tons people who surrender are college students where they have to put together a choice finish school or raise a child. Yes hundred if not thousands do it but if you own no family support or are not close to home or working and going to school a baby would miserable dropping out and going into poverty. Surrendering gives them a chance.
What I trully think will back is better sex education access to birth control and teaching people to use it correctly.
I can't report to you how many people don't read the package or converse to their doctor and don't know that antibiotics makes the pill less effective and in consequence a second method needs to be used. I know two people who got pregant approaching that.
Answers: Sunny,
The man, during the BSE,would have provided the financial support that I needed. Mothers of that era couldn't provide for their children on their own, especially if they be only teenagers.
Women were persecuted for being pregnant, and discriminated against, within employment. So finances were still...the bottom line.
My family wouldn't give support to me, even though they were well-off. The agency I went to was corrupt.
I contemplate that, from what I have heard from today's mothers, it is somewhat different. The laws today do protect women's civil rights. There are benefits available today that BSE mothers couldn't draw from.
BUT...the industry is manipulative with "open adoption" and the timeframes are ensnaring mothers to sign surrenders previously than ever.
And young mothers can still be forced or threatened by their parents if they don't understand their rights.
ETA: some grandparents of today can be really nasty. A pregnant teen really wants support if she is to keep her baby while facing down a hostile grandparent. It isn't easy for these youthful mothers, and they don't know where to turn.
I think if surrendering mothers received a proper schooling that include how to budget and were aware of social support programs like food stamps, WIC, Medicaid, TA-NF, The salvation army , food pantries, and weren't made to perceive terrible for needing help and be aware that adoptive parents USE WELFARE to adopt than more women would be keeping and raising their baby.
I mean if you hold to borrow, fund raise, take out a loan to adopt then apparently you can't afford it. That's only common sense. If you can't save money then adopt apparently you are not responsible next to money.
Sunny thanks for asking this wonderful question.
I deduce it is because some are just young and their own parents think it would be best. Their is to much minister to out there now for it to be money.
Yes absolutely. Financial circumstances are cited time and time again by women who want their babies, but can't see a route to afford to raise them.
Some women are caught between not being financially lucid and not being poor ample to qualify for certain welfare benefits. Also society appears to stigmatize and demonize 'welfare mothers' it takes a strong-willed person to overcome that prejudice.
No because welfare is available to those same mother.
I ponder environment, parents, readiness, lack of support,or even just age play a sector in a woman's choice to give up her child. I think even surrounded by today's world I think some women still give up their child because of men who wouldn't stand up to their responsibilities.
No, not surrounded by the UK as they can get cheap affordable housing through housing associations and council housing. If they don't work they get full housing benefit and council tax benefit - if they're contained by private rented accomodation they may have to pay a small amount of rent. Regardless of whether a mother is working or not she gets child benefit conceivably other benefits depending on her wage. If she is unemployed she gets income support or job seekers allowance.
I wonder in this morning why so many girls still get pregnant and have to cause this horrible decision.
Birth control is easy to get, any one can buy condoms, it's not similar to back in my day, my mom didn't detail me anything.
It makes me sick that with all the sex training available, girls are still taking chances and getting pregnant.
But to answer your question, no I don't think if they have more money that they would keep their babies, I think if they had a plan and own flesh and blood support, they would keep their babies.
As a Grandma, I could never let my son give up his daughter. I would do anything I could to help them, I would never make him feel ashamed. Luckily he married and afterwards had a baby. Source(s): First mom to Cheri 1972 and Mom to James 1977
yes. i cant qualify for welfare or WIC because i live with my dad next to 5 other people, and he makes 500$ too much to qualify. im too young to drive leagaly, and even mcdonolds turned me down for a position. i dont expect my dad to take care of my mistake of having sex until that time i was married. and because i woundt DARE let the father, the man who molested me, visit my child. hes a filthy pig. my baby wouldnt have a daddy. and i think everyone should.
yes I think so. I think profoundly of adoptions are because, of money but, not all.
I think within will still be some who surrender, but for the most part money would change a lot of minds.
I think it's lack of encouragement and support, combined with scarcity of awareness about the available resources, not pure lack of money.
A low income mother will have access to: welfare, state subsidized housing, Medicaid, trial aid, WIC and/or foodstamps, utility vouchers, unemployment benefits, food pantries, thrift stores, and any other form of community outreach available in her area. It's not similar to a woman without means or a partner is left in need any practical help, as she would have been contained by the past. A woman isn't going to become wealthy this way, but nearby is certainly help available to a struggling young nearest and dearest trying to meet the requirements to stay afloat.
The problem is, accepting aid is stigmatized, wealthier is seen as better even if basic wishes can be met in either home, and women in crisis pregnancies are normally denied emotional support, or encouragement that they could be good mothers.
So no, I don't think only just giving mothers more money and doing nothing else for them would change anything, at least within North America, because so many services are already available, and many times not taken advantage of.
Rather, I presume what is needed is a more holistic attitude shift toward encouraging and supporting mothers. Money isn't unnecessary, but I think the bigger issue in the current social situation is outlook and stigma.
Maybe in some cases. My daughter placed a child over 3 years ago and I can tell you that the reason she did so were not financial.
I don't know, my child's birth mom is a college graduate working as a social worker. Some women a moment ago make a choice.
Dear Sunny,
While there are multiple reason people list such as finances, age, marital status, social pressure, etc., it adjectives really boils down to two things in my mind: KNOWLEDGE and SUPPORT.
While I do think that there are some associates who simply do not want to parent (and I think they are EXTREMELY RARE), it is my opinion that the vast majority of adoption occur because of a lack of knowledge on the slice of the expectant parent(s) - including my own. The average person is unaware of the complexities and issues of adoption. Add to that an unplanned pregnancy and a lack of basic/truthful/honest acquaintance about biology, parenting, fiscal responsibility, available resources, etc. and you have a prime target for an adoptive situation.
Much of this lack of ease comes from poor support systems. First there is the society surrounding the individual and then there is the personal support system of the expectant parent(s). The societal attitudes and available teaching towards parenting vary fro place to place. For example: In the US age is often a big factor because the general attitude is that relations should wait to have children until they have career,own a home, etc. and therefore teens (who are BIOLOGICALLY read to reproduce) are NOT considered "proper" parents, where as it is not as much a factor in voice, African nations where teen parenting is common. Hence, age is a more typical motivation for relinquishment in the US than it is in African countries. The way we instruct our children reflects the prevailing societal attitude and in turn effects the "acceptance" of different parenting scenarios - things resembling abstinence only programs in lofty schools. Society "teaches" us what "it" deems acceptable and omit often important information in proclaim to assure compliance which leaves people without the whole understanding necessary to make a well informed conclusion. In the US, women are expected to wait to reproduce while ignoring biological limitations are taught suitably. (I personally disagree with this idea. I deliberate honest and whole education is better.)
The amount of individual assistance/support also has a great influence over choice. Even surrounded by societies that frown on certain situations, if the individual has good personal support, societal philosophy can be ignored and vice-versa. Expectant parents with supportive families and friends roughly choose to parent and there are certainly cases of people who society deem "acceptable" to parent who feel they can't because of a crummy support system.
I believe that lack of knowledge and dearth of support are at the root of almost all family separation. Much abuse and delinquency even stems from lack of knowledge/support. Certainly, there are other factors such as mental complaint, addiction, etc.; however, IMO, the most common reasons for relinquishment/removal are due to a lack of instruction, support or both. To me, it is sad that people aren't even aware that if they don't have support, they can find it because it IS out near. I also find it depressing that there is such available MISinformation but the truth about somethings is more difficult to find.
Knowledge is power and support is strength. Source(s): JMHO. I could go on in the order of this for an hour but I'll stop. I hope you understand what I'm getting at. :)
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