I don't want to see the councillor?
so i have a really bad relationship with my parents, i try to avoid them to avoid arguments. i haven't be doing so great a job of that lately. three times in the past two weeks i enjoy come in in tears, almost unable to speak, once i have no shoes on. i think i may be depressed, not necessarily anything to do with my parents. but anyway, friday was one of currently. my mum shoved me out the door and my dad drove me because he couldn't trust me to go in. i walk into college, trying to not be noticed, i'm never normally noticed anyway, but after i get teachers and y8s asking if i'm okay. i tell them i'm fine, basically going to clean up in the loos and they let me step, but then i run into the school councillor. she takes me into her Office and a jump because it would be rude not to, so she starts talking to e telling me it's okay to cry and how we were friends presently. And then she starts telling me how their gonna bring this person i to relief with my self confidence (is there anything wrong with seeing the truth?) i avoid coming to her at break to dangle out with the problem kids, but i have an appointment tomorrow, i only took it so i didn't seem to be rude. but i don't want to go. i don't want to talk to anyone. i want to be on my own. what can i do. any help please? I REALLY don't want to jump...
I don't like my parents and my maternal grandmother, so I other try to avoid them.
Just go and see your counsellor a few times and if you don't like it, then don't walk again and talk to someone else e.g a friend you can trust. Your counsellor just means all right, she must really care about you and you are better off discussion to someone who can help instead of keeping things bottled up inside.
Or call Childline:
Childline: 0800 1111
I didn't find your question the least possible bit boring or uninteresting.
Growing up is hard work. Talking to adults who are trying to help you should be a positive as we're adjectives been there, we remember how painful the teen years can be.
Let ancestors help you, they're doing so because they care,
Lisa (mother of 14 year old daughter)
Just think, what hard will come of going this once. You can see if it help, and if it doesn't, you don't have to come back.
If you do have depression, and go to a doctor, you would end up going to a councillor as they will not give anti-depressants to a minor (under 18) unless it is a last resort beneath very special circumstances.
i think that you should try to talk to your parent si kinda own the same problem jus tel the counselor that youve been a little depressed becuz of your relationship next to your boyfriend or sumthing you should be fine..ps im 16 years old i kno ..
I reason you should go. It can help you fix your relationship with your parents and your depression. Just turn and get everything off your chest. You'll feel much better, and consequently you can work on your depression and self esteem issues. The counselor seems likes she really wants to support, so let her. Best of luck.<3His Sunshine
Well, this could only give support to you. If it doesn't help you it isn't going to make things worse so you might as well distribute it a go.
Answers: Hi, here is my opinion...
It seems like you hold self esteem issues, I'm not sure about depression, but you definitely should stop being so down on yourself, although I don't know you individually I am sure you have lots going for you, even if you don;t realise it. People are obv concerned about you which shows they care, even if you don't want the attention.
I would strongly suggest that you don't bunk rotten school or get mixed up in the wrong crowd, this will a moment ago make life worse for you, will lead to more focus and attention on yourself, adn will be paid people more likely to suggest councilling.
I think sometimes when kids don;t obtain on with their parents, sometimes it is better in the long run to obey them, keep hold of your head down and just think to the adjectives. If your parents are actually abusing you then consult childline, a tutor or the police, but you willknowo yourself if it is this, or just tensions.
It is so easy to nose-dive out with your parents, esp when you are a teenager, it just seem like both parents and children rub each other up the wrong way. Is here any way you could try and calm things down by just not creating a fuss for a few weeks, even if you guess they are being unreasonable? It might be difficult, and you might think you shouldn't have to, but a moment ago remember you are putting a face on, to make things easier for yourself in the long run.
Please don't dream up that I am not sympathising with you, because I am. I remember in school I be pretty much forced to see a councillor because of stuff going on at home. I am the least open and talkative personage ever, and I got this horrid women, it just made things worse and I eventually got out of it.
Although conversation to people can really help, and it is important to get the impression that you can talk to someone about your problems, and not feel overwhelmed, as if the world is crashing down around you, not everyone suits councilling, adn you will hold to decide whether or not talking to someone might actually give a hand. For many many people it is a release, and allows them to vent their problems to someone that isn't directly involved contained by the situation. They can offer you help with dealing beside situations etc, but as I have said, it certainly wasn't for me, and I don't think anyone should be forced to chat to people if they don;t want to.
You say a couple of times that you felt it be rude not to talk to the people, in this mode you sound exactly like me, I never wanted a fuss, and didn't want to brand name an issue out of refusing to talk to the councillor. Remember that if you do go to your appointment, you can say-so as much or as little as you want. Do you have a class or form teacher that you could have a sudden word with and say that you really dont want to go and see the councillor?
Good luck beside everything, take every day as it comes, and remember you are a wonderful strong person that can overcome anything.
p.s sorry for the huge post, I hope you read it, and it help in some way.
sometimes we all have to do something we dont want to you dont know it might oblige getting out some feelings you just might feel rather bit better
just try talking to her
Although you may not want to speak to your councilor, you me actually benefit from it. But if you really don't want to try to spend more time around other people who will assist you heal. Try to make so friends.
Mate I wouldn't want to go if that was me any. Just bunk off school, I'm depressed and that's what I do, the moment take you over and merely bunk. Don't tell anybody though, and if anybody askes just stare at them.
Sounds like you hold issues. either with your parents your friends yourself or just the world... your much to immature to be carrying around that kind of burden.. You might not feel safe chitchat to a councilor at school. but you need to find someone you do feel protected talking to..
Someone you are able to tell ALL the things you are emotion. no matter if it is about you hate the bearing carpet feels on your bare foot to all the hate in the world upsets you to someone is molesting you.. but you inevitability to find someone you can trust. trust them to not run and tell your parents.. or to tell your friends or to laugh at you.. someone freshly to listen.
if all else fails.. find that person online.. that bearing they never have to see your face or know who you are and no way to find you. but what you let somebody know them will help you to release all the feelings you are bottling up
and if you can't find someone.. transport me an email. I will be that person
Oh boy do i enjoy a story for you:(it may help alot)
So i am in class and i wrote this poem i was supposed to write one but it be...weird. I said i wanted to die and i see dead ethnic group. Well i got went to the counslers office. Well i did not want to do this so when they hold me up there i sit down a say(she said it was okay to curse) So i say Okay this is ridiculous **** you. And i get up to leave. She said if you leave i have to speak about your mom about this. So i sat back down and she made me speech about my problems.I ended up crying my eyes out and feeling 1000000000000000000000000000000000000000… better after words. So if you haven't talk about this to anyone youi need to so take my direction and give it a shot.
It may help to speak to her, you might as well walk a couple of times before you deciede u dont want to
I think that maybe you should run talk to her. I understand that you don't want to, you may be embarrased or like keeping to yourself but sometimes we own to talk to someone. Its good to get adjectives your frustrations out. She could probably giv e you some advice on your parents and self esteem. Maybe even make an apt. Wit all of you so that you guys can obtain some family counseling. You may bot want that either but its for the best.
You should also try staying away from "the problem" kids because you're going to end up getting contained by trouble and making matters worse.
Stick up for yourself, the councellor cant make you do something you dont want to do, you dont own to talk to her, tell her to eff off lol im 16 and ego hate it too lol its your life just do what you want, a short time ago dont go and if she comes up to you and asks why you didnt just say you dont call for to speak to her and that you didnt want to go because you didnt want to go, afterall its your decision she cant do anything roughly speaking it lol its totally your choice but i know id personally hate it ive other had people telling me what to do and stuff and i lately tell it like it is i tell them to depart from me alone lol you have to do what you think good luck xxx
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I don't like my parents and my maternal grandmother, so I other try to avoid them.
Just go and see your counsellor a few times and if you don't like it, then don't walk again and talk to someone else e.g a friend you can trust. Your counsellor just means all right, she must really care about you and you are better off discussion to someone who can help instead of keeping things bottled up inside.
Or call Childline:
Childline: 0800 1111
I didn't find your question the least possible bit boring or uninteresting.
Growing up is hard work. Talking to adults who are trying to help you should be a positive as we're adjectives been there, we remember how painful the teen years can be.
Let ancestors help you, they're doing so because they care,
Lisa (mother of 14 year old daughter)
Just think, what hard will come of going this once. You can see if it help, and if it doesn't, you don't have to come back.
If you do have depression, and go to a doctor, you would end up going to a councillor as they will not give anti-depressants to a minor (under 18) unless it is a last resort beneath very special circumstances.
i think that you should try to talk to your parent si kinda own the same problem jus tel the counselor that youve been a little depressed becuz of your relationship next to your boyfriend or sumthing you should be fine..ps im 16 years old i kno ..
I reason you should go. It can help you fix your relationship with your parents and your depression. Just turn and get everything off your chest. You'll feel much better, and consequently you can work on your depression and self esteem issues. The counselor seems likes she really wants to support, so let her. Best of luck.<3His Sunshine
Well, this could only give support to you. If it doesn't help you it isn't going to make things worse so you might as well distribute it a go.
Answers: Hi, here is my opinion...
It seems like you hold self esteem issues, I'm not sure about depression, but you definitely should stop being so down on yourself, although I don't know you individually I am sure you have lots going for you, even if you don;t realise it. People are obv concerned about you which shows they care, even if you don't want the attention.
I would strongly suggest that you don't bunk rotten school or get mixed up in the wrong crowd, this will a moment ago make life worse for you, will lead to more focus and attention on yourself, adn will be paid people more likely to suggest councilling.
I think sometimes when kids don;t obtain on with their parents, sometimes it is better in the long run to obey them, keep hold of your head down and just think to the adjectives. If your parents are actually abusing you then consult childline, a tutor or the police, but you willknowo yourself if it is this, or just tensions.
It is so easy to nose-dive out with your parents, esp when you are a teenager, it just seem like both parents and children rub each other up the wrong way. Is here any way you could try and calm things down by just not creating a fuss for a few weeks, even if you guess they are being unreasonable? It might be difficult, and you might think you shouldn't have to, but a moment ago remember you are putting a face on, to make things easier for yourself in the long run.
Please don't dream up that I am not sympathising with you, because I am. I remember in school I be pretty much forced to see a councillor because of stuff going on at home. I am the least open and talkative personage ever, and I got this horrid women, it just made things worse and I eventually got out of it.
Although conversation to people can really help, and it is important to get the impression that you can talk to someone about your problems, and not feel overwhelmed, as if the world is crashing down around you, not everyone suits councilling, adn you will hold to decide whether or not talking to someone might actually give a hand. For many many people it is a release, and allows them to vent their problems to someone that isn't directly involved contained by the situation. They can offer you help with dealing beside situations etc, but as I have said, it certainly wasn't for me, and I don't think anyone should be forced to chat to people if they don;t want to.
You say a couple of times that you felt it be rude not to talk to the people, in this mode you sound exactly like me, I never wanted a fuss, and didn't want to brand name an issue out of refusing to talk to the councillor. Remember that if you do go to your appointment, you can say-so as much or as little as you want. Do you have a class or form teacher that you could have a sudden word with and say that you really dont want to go and see the councillor?
Good luck beside everything, take every day as it comes, and remember you are a wonderful strong person that can overcome anything.
p.s sorry for the huge post, I hope you read it, and it help in some way.
sometimes we all have to do something we dont want to you dont know it might oblige getting out some feelings you just might feel rather bit better
just try talking to her
Although you may not want to speak to your councilor, you me actually benefit from it. But if you really don't want to try to spend more time around other people who will assist you heal. Try to make so friends.
Mate I wouldn't want to go if that was me any. Just bunk off school, I'm depressed and that's what I do, the moment take you over and merely bunk. Don't tell anybody though, and if anybody askes just stare at them.
Sounds like you hold issues. either with your parents your friends yourself or just the world... your much to immature to be carrying around that kind of burden.. You might not feel safe chitchat to a councilor at school. but you need to find someone you do feel protected talking to..
Someone you are able to tell ALL the things you are emotion. no matter if it is about you hate the bearing carpet feels on your bare foot to all the hate in the world upsets you to someone is molesting you.. but you inevitability to find someone you can trust. trust them to not run and tell your parents.. or to tell your friends or to laugh at you.. someone freshly to listen.
if all else fails.. find that person online.. that bearing they never have to see your face or know who you are and no way to find you. but what you let somebody know them will help you to release all the feelings you are bottling up
and if you can't find someone.. transport me an email. I will be that person
Oh boy do i enjoy a story for you:(it may help alot)
So i am in class and i wrote this poem i was supposed to write one but it be...weird. I said i wanted to die and i see dead ethnic group. Well i got went to the counslers office. Well i did not want to do this so when they hold me up there i sit down a say(she said it was okay to curse) So i say Okay this is ridiculous **** you. And i get up to leave. She said if you leave i have to speak about your mom about this. So i sat back down and she made me speech about my problems.I ended up crying my eyes out and feeling 1000000000000000000000000000000000000000… better after words. So if you haven't talk about this to anyone youi need to so take my direction and give it a shot.
It may help to speak to her, you might as well walk a couple of times before you deciede u dont want to
I think that maybe you should run talk to her. I understand that you don't want to, you may be embarrased or like keeping to yourself but sometimes we own to talk to someone. Its good to get adjectives your frustrations out. She could probably giv e you some advice on your parents and self esteem. Maybe even make an apt. Wit all of you so that you guys can obtain some family counseling. You may bot want that either but its for the best.
You should also try staying away from "the problem" kids because you're going to end up getting contained by trouble and making matters worse.
Stick up for yourself, the councellor cant make you do something you dont want to do, you dont own to talk to her, tell her to eff off lol im 16 and ego hate it too lol its your life just do what you want, a short time ago dont go and if she comes up to you and asks why you didnt just say you dont call for to speak to her and that you didnt want to go because you didnt want to go, afterall its your decision she cant do anything roughly speaking it lol its totally your choice but i know id personally hate it ive other had people telling me what to do and stuff and i lately tell it like it is i tell them to depart from me alone lol you have to do what you think good luck xxx
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