14 year older girl come to stay for 5 weeks and is running uninhibited?
A friends daughter has come to stay in our cottage for 5 weeks form over sees and she have brought two hangers on who I have to cook and clean up for.
After catching her friend within bed with a much older teen, i made a rule that there be to be NO boys in the cottage past 1 am. I am very strict on that rule, but she doesn't appear to be taking it in. I hate the bad vibes and the lying. Its be a week and I have 4 to go...
Any suggestions? Was my rule ok? am I being disinterested. I have seen the boys she hangs out next to and they are 18+ and drive and drink and smoke cannabis. her mother is very bohemian, but she told me that I must control her.
I want to contact her mother, but I feel that if I do it will all blow up within my face
:( :(
I'm sorry to say, but it has already blown up within your face. The bad vibes and the lying will continue. You can however, mitigate some of the problem through two resources. One, require that the two "hangers on" return immediately to were they come from, if not the friends daughter must leave as well. Contact their families if obligation be. You should not be responsible for them if you don't want to be, and since they are causing trouble for you, send them home. Two: Talk with the friends daughter directly, lacking expectation of response, and let her know that you will not put up with a 14 year old man irresponsible, and throwing her body around like it is a worthless. Sex is a very spiritual thing, but nearby is nothing spiritual about drinking, smoking cannabis, and running wild beside adolescent frivolity. That is just hormones. Offer her strong love, and even if she completely rebels, keep hold of offering her love, and hopefully, in the back of her mind somewhere, she'll start to respect you, and hopefully herself, and she'll lay off the wildness some, and start exploring who she is inside, beyond in recent times her desires. Hope this helps. I know it is not easy. I've been dealing next to my grandchildren who have a long history of dysfunction in their lives.
Send her back, she is not your child and you don't have to bar her. Call her mother and say that you are having issues with her and you are sending her put money on early. Her mother has to know she behaves close to this and well she's her responsibility not yours.
Answers: First off if she's doing those things and you tell her that she can't do indisputable things she needs to obey you. You need to put your foot down. These girls are 14, do you want to be the one held responcible when one of them get pregnant? I don't think so. For 14, they shouldn't even be with boys alone. If you need to give an account her mom what's going on then so be it. You wouldn't want the girl to get into sum sort of situation and her mother wonder if you were watching this girl or not. I don't suggest your being harsh at all, I contemplate you should just make them stay at the cabbin and NO BOYS ALLOWED! They are 14 for christ sake, there mode to young to be having sex with boys and 18 and over. That's concidered rape! So I suggest you receive that girl in control or you may be held responcible.
at 14 and 15 and even having boys over?! your asking for them to mess their life up telephone their mom and rip them a new one!!
You need to lay down the law be paid ur self clear or it will never work
or scare the crap out of her it works for my son
Commanding respect for yourself and your rules is important. She is not obey you what-so-ever. If it were me, I wouldn't allow her to hang out with boys previous 9:00pm. She's not your child...what if she gets pregnant on your watch? How would that blow up in your obverse? I'd sit her down and tell her how things are going to be. 1st mess up on her part would send her home.
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After catching her friend within bed with a much older teen, i made a rule that there be to be NO boys in the cottage past 1 am. I am very strict on that rule, but she doesn't appear to be taking it in. I hate the bad vibes and the lying. Its be a week and I have 4 to go...
Any suggestions? Was my rule ok? am I being disinterested. I have seen the boys she hangs out next to and they are 18+ and drive and drink and smoke cannabis. her mother is very bohemian, but she told me that I must control her.
I want to contact her mother, but I feel that if I do it will all blow up within my face
:( :(
I'm sorry to say, but it has already blown up within your face. The bad vibes and the lying will continue. You can however, mitigate some of the problem through two resources. One, require that the two "hangers on" return immediately to were they come from, if not the friends daughter must leave as well. Contact their families if obligation be. You should not be responsible for them if you don't want to be, and since they are causing trouble for you, send them home. Two: Talk with the friends daughter directly, lacking expectation of response, and let her know that you will not put up with a 14 year old man irresponsible, and throwing her body around like it is a worthless. Sex is a very spiritual thing, but nearby is nothing spiritual about drinking, smoking cannabis, and running wild beside adolescent frivolity. That is just hormones. Offer her strong love, and even if she completely rebels, keep hold of offering her love, and hopefully, in the back of her mind somewhere, she'll start to respect you, and hopefully herself, and she'll lay off the wildness some, and start exploring who she is inside, beyond in recent times her desires. Hope this helps. I know it is not easy. I've been dealing next to my grandchildren who have a long history of dysfunction in their lives.
Send her back, she is not your child and you don't have to bar her. Call her mother and say that you are having issues with her and you are sending her put money on early. Her mother has to know she behaves close to this and well she's her responsibility not yours.
Answers: First off if she's doing those things and you tell her that she can't do indisputable things she needs to obey you. You need to put your foot down. These girls are 14, do you want to be the one held responcible when one of them get pregnant? I don't think so. For 14, they shouldn't even be with boys alone. If you need to give an account her mom what's going on then so be it. You wouldn't want the girl to get into sum sort of situation and her mother wonder if you were watching this girl or not. I don't suggest your being harsh at all, I contemplate you should just make them stay at the cabbin and NO BOYS ALLOWED! They are 14 for christ sake, there mode to young to be having sex with boys and 18 and over. That's concidered rape! So I suggest you receive that girl in control or you may be held responcible.
at 14 and 15 and even having boys over?! your asking for them to mess their life up telephone their mom and rip them a new one!!
You need to lay down the law be paid ur self clear or it will never work
or scare the crap out of her it works for my son
Commanding respect for yourself and your rules is important. She is not obey you what-so-ever. If it were me, I wouldn't allow her to hang out with boys previous 9:00pm. She's not your child...what if she gets pregnant on your watch? How would that blow up in your obverse? I'd sit her down and tell her how things are going to be. 1st mess up on her part would send her home.
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