I don't know what I should read aloud to her...?
Today one of my friends, Arkie, told me she is pregnant. She is only 16 (like me), but doesn't turn 17 until next March, she is also pretty slutty...I feel unpromising saying that about her but it is the truth, she has have sex with at least 15 guys without even human being in a relationship with them.
But I thought she had changed a bit and she have a boyfriend, but I know him and he's not a nice guy, he is pretty abusive and always called Arkie a b*tch and tubby and yells at her in public and everything so I don't know what he would be like if she told him she be pregnant, but she said she hasn't yet.
As her friend, obviously, I will be there for her doesn`t matter what she decides to do but I think it's best if she gets an abortion since she's of late not in the best place right now to have a newborn, I don't know whether I should talk to her about maybe getting an abortion or whether I should newly leave it and let her do what she wants. I lone want what is best for her and I know that having a baby will only form things worse...
Oh and she doesn't have a job, doesn't go to college, lives with a friend and has pretty much no money..
What should I do/say?
Thanks loves!
- Katy x
Well I think through she isn't in a good place to raise the child and I am pro-choice on abortion but its up to her to establish whats she wants to do. Just stand by her no matter what, its okay to talk to her around it but you don't want to offend her if she isn't on the same terms as you.
simply talk to her and let her know you are there to support her.
ultimately though, she wants to grow up and make her big girl decisions for herself.
EDIT- okay, sorry. here you go. ^^^
This is just my belief, but if you think such things of your friend and you don't like what she's doing, and you feel it's kida beneath you, I don`t know you should'nt be freands. People do what they do for a reason. Sometimes there are no mistakes. Sometimes a girl doesn't get pregnants by catastrophe, sometimes she's just plain slutty and trashy. Think about it. Do you need adjectives this drama at this time of your life? You should be having fun living a "normal" young enthusiasm. I know what it feels lke to carry outher people's burdend. People who constantly want drama in their lives. I abominate it. I had a friend who would sleep around and come to me every second week and think she might be preagnant. DRAMA DRAMA! It just get too much.
Anyway, you decide for yourself. If you think it was kinda a mistake, conceivably you should just support her and move on, but if its gonna be non stop drama, i say put a bet on away.
Be wise, always think of yourself first
parley to her about her situation and discuss if it would be best for her to keep the baby or to put the tot up for adoption after its born
i am anti-Abortion. I suggest adoption?
But about her boyfriend, If he's abusive, I suggest you own her over at your place and if she decides to tell him, to do it either over the phone or near an audiance. So he can't hurt her, and if he tries, you're all there.
And I don't think he'd be a extraordinarily good father because he'd probably be an abusive father. Someone has to report her human being beat because if she doesn't, and he fights for custody, it can be a she said, he said case and he will bring back half custody or the child if she keeps it.
Oh, and she doesn't have to report it. It will still be valid if she have marks and you report it. It will be investigated and your tip can be anonymous.
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You obviously care very much for your friend. As her friend you do entail to talk to her about her options. I am so sick of race thinking adoption is just great for everybody involved and that she can go on to lead a commonplace life!? What normal life can you organize after a massive life altering event such as giving up your baby. Anyhow, talk to her try to help out her to have the foresight to see how her decisions whatever they running out up being will affect her future and the futures of all party involved in her decisions. As for her abusive boyfriend, let somebody know her to wait until he passes out, sew him into the bedsheets and beat him near a broom handle! AAha just kidding...sort of...
She have got to get away from him, she is worth more then that, to you to her relations and to herself even if she does not see that right now.
You are a good friend, you will know what to say, you hold common sense so speak from your heart and keep giving her your frienship.
Good luck
It sounds like abortion would be the best option for her, because if her boyfriend finds out, she's screwed, and she doesn't sound responsible ample if she were to keep the child for herself.
Just support her decision, and hold her away from her boyfriend for a while.
Wow. Hmm my guidance would be you should talk to her and bring up the topic of abortion (Yes I am pro-choice. Everyone else if you don't like it - shut up! Katy asked a question.not a debate), and see how she react to it. As you can see on here some people are horrified at the thought.
If abortion isn't something she could do (I know I couldn't - I'm pro-choice but I just couldn't do it), you could bring up adoption.
Apart from doing that and trying to be there for her near isn't much else you can do. If her boyfriend is abusive tell someone...she doesn't deserve to be hurt and yelled out.
Good luck hun...hope everything works out =]
I agree with the first person that you should first ask her what she thinks she should do. If she mentions abortion as a possibility, be in particular supportive of that idea. If she doesn't, you could mention it in a gentle method, but the specific way to do that depends on your relationship with her...
I definitely imagine you SHOULD talk with her though. Yeah, it is her life, but it sounds approaching you are pretty close and she clearly wanted to talk to you about the situation. In my experience, citizens have a hard time asking for help when they want it. She might lose friends over this--people who look down on her or who don't know how to help. If you stand by her anyway, she will probably value your help and friendship so much.
It's is a difficult situation and I really hope things turn okay. I'm sorry you and your friend have to deal with this.
EDIT: roughly the abusive boyfriend--get him OUT of the picture. look for a hotline on google, go to the police, talk to a doctor, ask a educationalist or counselor if you are in school...etc.
I can`t bear to say this, but are you sure that the baby is her boyfriend's? Anyway, if he is abusive she requests to get out of that relationship as soon as she can, especially with a baby on the instrument. I in know what support keeping a father from his child, but if he is as abusive as he sounds, then I don`t know it's for the best? I don't know.
Is she thinking about having an abortion? Ultimately it is her choice, but she is going to be going through a lot right very soon. All I can suggest is to be there for her. If she asks for your opinion, give it to her, but until next, it might be a good idea to step out of the situation until Arkie needs you.
I am sorry, this sounds similar to a really tough situation for all who are involved. I hope you can resolve it.
Answers: I think you should sit down beside her as a friend and ask her what her intentions are. Don't come straight out and say "I think you should have an abortion", because she might seize extremely upset or offended and that's not the best thing right now.
While you're conversation, maybe hint at the abortion idea but engender sure you point out how you're willing to stick with her no matter what she does. If she does desire to have this baby, she's going to need adjectives the help she can get.
One thing you do involve to do though, is help her get away from this guy. He's clearly not a good piece for her, especially as she's pregnant, and you need to tell her that.
Good luck sweetheart, you're a good friend.
The best for everyone involved is to put the baby up for adoption. Good for the baby - he/she get to live. Good for the adopting couple - reason obvious. Good for your friend - get to live a normal teenage existence. Any other choice is selfish (keeping the little one and playing mommy) or murder (abortion).
I come up with you should sit down with her, and ask her what she thinks she should do. Hint at an abortion, but if she seems annoyed then back off.
Good Luck =]
I honestly think, SHE HAS MADE HER BED NOW SHE MUST LIE IN IT...
Have her hold the baby and give the blessing to someone who would appreciate God's gift.
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But I thought she had changed a bit and she have a boyfriend, but I know him and he's not a nice guy, he is pretty abusive and always called Arkie a b*tch and tubby and yells at her in public and everything so I don't know what he would be like if she told him she be pregnant, but she said she hasn't yet.
As her friend, obviously, I will be there for her doesn`t matter what she decides to do but I think it's best if she gets an abortion since she's of late not in the best place right now to have a newborn, I don't know whether I should talk to her about maybe getting an abortion or whether I should newly leave it and let her do what she wants. I lone want what is best for her and I know that having a baby will only form things worse...
Oh and she doesn't have a job, doesn't go to college, lives with a friend and has pretty much no money..
What should I do/say?
Thanks loves!
- Katy x
Well I think through she isn't in a good place to raise the child and I am pro-choice on abortion but its up to her to establish whats she wants to do. Just stand by her no matter what, its okay to talk to her around it but you don't want to offend her if she isn't on the same terms as you.
simply talk to her and let her know you are there to support her.
ultimately though, she wants to grow up and make her big girl decisions for herself.
EDIT- okay, sorry. here you go. ^^^
This is just my belief, but if you think such things of your friend and you don't like what she's doing, and you feel it's kida beneath you, I don`t know you should'nt be freands. People do what they do for a reason. Sometimes there are no mistakes. Sometimes a girl doesn't get pregnants by catastrophe, sometimes she's just plain slutty and trashy. Think about it. Do you need adjectives this drama at this time of your life? You should be having fun living a "normal" young enthusiasm. I know what it feels lke to carry outher people's burdend. People who constantly want drama in their lives. I abominate it. I had a friend who would sleep around and come to me every second week and think she might be preagnant. DRAMA DRAMA! It just get too much.
Anyway, you decide for yourself. If you think it was kinda a mistake, conceivably you should just support her and move on, but if its gonna be non stop drama, i say put a bet on away.
Be wise, always think of yourself first
parley to her about her situation and discuss if it would be best for her to keep the baby or to put the tot up for adoption after its born
i am anti-Abortion. I suggest adoption?
But about her boyfriend, If he's abusive, I suggest you own her over at your place and if she decides to tell him, to do it either over the phone or near an audiance. So he can't hurt her, and if he tries, you're all there.
And I don't think he'd be a extraordinarily good father because he'd probably be an abusive father. Someone has to report her human being beat because if she doesn't, and he fights for custody, it can be a she said, he said case and he will bring back half custody or the child if she keeps it.
Oh, and she doesn't have to report it. It will still be valid if she have marks and you report it. It will be investigated and your tip can be anonymous.
(;
You obviously care very much for your friend. As her friend you do entail to talk to her about her options. I am so sick of race thinking adoption is just great for everybody involved and that she can go on to lead a commonplace life!? What normal life can you organize after a massive life altering event such as giving up your baby. Anyhow, talk to her try to help out her to have the foresight to see how her decisions whatever they running out up being will affect her future and the futures of all party involved in her decisions. As for her abusive boyfriend, let somebody know her to wait until he passes out, sew him into the bedsheets and beat him near a broom handle! AAha just kidding...sort of...
She have got to get away from him, she is worth more then that, to you to her relations and to herself even if she does not see that right now.
You are a good friend, you will know what to say, you hold common sense so speak from your heart and keep giving her your frienship.
Good luck
It sounds like abortion would be the best option for her, because if her boyfriend finds out, she's screwed, and she doesn't sound responsible ample if she were to keep the child for herself.
Just support her decision, and hold her away from her boyfriend for a while.
Wow. Hmm my guidance would be you should talk to her and bring up the topic of abortion (Yes I am pro-choice. Everyone else if you don't like it - shut up! Katy asked a question.not a debate), and see how she react to it. As you can see on here some people are horrified at the thought.
If abortion isn't something she could do (I know I couldn't - I'm pro-choice but I just couldn't do it), you could bring up adoption.
Apart from doing that and trying to be there for her near isn't much else you can do. If her boyfriend is abusive tell someone...she doesn't deserve to be hurt and yelled out.
Good luck hun...hope everything works out =]
I agree with the first person that you should first ask her what she thinks she should do. If she mentions abortion as a possibility, be in particular supportive of that idea. If she doesn't, you could mention it in a gentle method, but the specific way to do that depends on your relationship with her...
I definitely imagine you SHOULD talk with her though. Yeah, it is her life, but it sounds approaching you are pretty close and she clearly wanted to talk to you about the situation. In my experience, citizens have a hard time asking for help when they want it. She might lose friends over this--people who look down on her or who don't know how to help. If you stand by her anyway, she will probably value your help and friendship so much.
It's is a difficult situation and I really hope things turn okay. I'm sorry you and your friend have to deal with this.
EDIT: roughly the abusive boyfriend--get him OUT of the picture. look for a hotline on google, go to the police, talk to a doctor, ask a educationalist or counselor if you are in school...etc.
I can`t bear to say this, but are you sure that the baby is her boyfriend's? Anyway, if he is abusive she requests to get out of that relationship as soon as she can, especially with a baby on the instrument. I in know what support keeping a father from his child, but if he is as abusive as he sounds, then I don`t know it's for the best? I don't know.
Is she thinking about having an abortion? Ultimately it is her choice, but she is going to be going through a lot right very soon. All I can suggest is to be there for her. If she asks for your opinion, give it to her, but until next, it might be a good idea to step out of the situation until Arkie needs you.
I am sorry, this sounds similar to a really tough situation for all who are involved. I hope you can resolve it.
Answers: I think you should sit down beside her as a friend and ask her what her intentions are. Don't come straight out and say "I think you should have an abortion", because she might seize extremely upset or offended and that's not the best thing right now.
While you're conversation, maybe hint at the abortion idea but engender sure you point out how you're willing to stick with her no matter what she does. If she does desire to have this baby, she's going to need adjectives the help she can get.
One thing you do involve to do though, is help her get away from this guy. He's clearly not a good piece for her, especially as she's pregnant, and you need to tell her that.
Good luck sweetheart, you're a good friend.
The best for everyone involved is to put the baby up for adoption. Good for the baby - he/she get to live. Good for the adopting couple - reason obvious. Good for your friend - get to live a normal teenage existence. Any other choice is selfish (keeping the little one and playing mommy) or murder (abortion).
I come up with you should sit down with her, and ask her what she thinks she should do. Hint at an abortion, but if she seems annoyed then back off.
Good Luck =]
I honestly think, SHE HAS MADE HER BED NOW SHE MUST LIE IN IT...
Have her hold the baby and give the blessing to someone who would appreciate God's gift.
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