Please backing me , I'm so downcast !!?
I'm at the point where i have no clue what to do.. my dad was only just diagnosed with generalized cancer and given 6 months to live. This was back surrounded by may. He is now in hospital with a collapsed lung and low oxygen even.. im praying for a miracle but my mother said we'll be lucky if he's here in two weeks. I am not a cryer.. i never have been, but i've be crying my eyes out for almost the past week. I'm not trying to make people have a feeling sorry for me i just want some advice.. I was extremely close next to my dad it's not fair. I don't really get along with my mother, we hold a love hate relationship going on.. i just feel so unfilled right now.. my dads dying, i have a bad relationship next to my mother and my boyfriend is ignoring me when i need him the most. Sorry for my ranting :( Just helpp
My grandfather died back within 1994. It was the hardest thing I ever went through. He help raise me. They gave him 6 months to live and he died 3 months later 1 wk in the past my birthday. I was happy he was no longer contained by pain anymore, but I was mad as hell that he be gone. No one understood what he meant to me. It gets easier as time go by. Your boyfriend is probably having a hard time dealing with annihilation. Try to make some kind of amends with your mother, hopefully previously your father passes on. I always thought that god was trialling me. Because for a long time I hated him for taking my grandfather away from me. And you need to rant, whether it be to strangers or friends, let it out. It is the first step to embracing. You and your mother need each other right now. Let your dad know that you will be ok, even if it hurts you beyond words. And spend as much time beside him as you can. You will be thankful later.
i'm really truly sorry for your situation!
I'm sorry to say that there really is nothing else you can do except form your dad feel loved every minute of his time, whether that be 6 months or shorter. It's totally fine for you to be crying and your boyfriend probably doesn't know how to handle this kind of situation.
So.my final thoughts.
Never grant up on a miracle. Anything can happen!
I'm praying for your whole family! especially your dad
Keep strong and maintain praying.
Youre boyfriend is ignoring either because he's not sure how to deal/react to this situation OR because he's a douchebag.. I hope its not the end one.
You are allowed to be sad and cry and feel this way. Its clearly normal in this situation. And it sucks, and its f*cking horrible that a you're life will still jump on and you're going to lose one of the most important people in your energy. Miracles are rare and few. Im so sorry. I dont know what else to say.
Please, please, make the most of the time theres moved out. Spend as much time as you can with your father. Be strong for your mother because you two needs each other no concern how bad things are.
Crying is not bad thing.
I am so sorry go is going like this for you. Pray. Try just talking to your mother, letting her know how you are outlook about your dad.
I pray you get through this; I know you will get through this, although it will be unyielding.
If you need to talk, feel free to e-mail me anytime.
tamitemple123@yahoo.com
Tami
it'll all be ok hang on to praying.although i don't know you my prayers will be with you and your family.take effort
I went through the same stuff next to my step dad about a year ago.
He had ALS.
Everything will be okay,It's going to be super hard.
But you're true friends should be nearby for you to help.
(:
Its okay. I am very sorry about your father and I would like to agree to you know I am praying for your family. Just try to develop a relationship with your mother. Maybe your father being sick will bring you closer. And if your boyfriend is ignore right now, I would dump him. He isn't here for you and he should be. So just go next to the flow right now. Things happen for a reason. Good luck!
Sincerely,
Victoria Elizabeth
Oh my god, that's so dismayed. You can talk to me if you need anyone [email me through the YA profile] I'll be praying for you, your dad, and your family :)
Answers: U r not ranting at all.Been nearby myself. My mother died of ovarian ca, and my father was a real ***.He never came to the hospital because he does not similar to sick people.I cried and cried also.Just to let you know, you are not alone.I know its not fair, I wish it was my dad instead of mom, but I don't know why certain things happen.Why do some family die early and some live to be a 100.All I know is, losing my mother, made a better person out of me.Do not think you are adjectives alone,you would be surprised who just might be there to help you.Even though your mother is not near at the moment, she just might change her outlook in duration and be a better person in the future.Don't tender up!
Oh honey I'm so sorry :(
I have had a family accomplice die of cancer this year. Keep close to your family and friends they can help you get through this.
xxxxx
my dad died wen i was 13 just chat 2 sum1 that makes u feel btr and ignor every1 els. if thr isnt sum1 u can talk 2 rite surrounded by a journal or something. that made me feel btr. and sory, but God will make it betr.
I dont what to say aloud girl..
Just stay strong and BELIEVE.
Life sucks... trust me
Theirs always going to up and downs.
Good luck sweetie my prayers are with you
:)
Well, quit spending your time crying and go hang out with him. I just now lost a parent and the sooner you can start speaking with him, laughing with him and letting him know you love him, the better. I can assure you, he will lose consciousness before he pass and you don't have time to waste. Make him happy. The best style to die is to have people you care something like near you. Sometimes, just being within and saying nothing is ok. Trust me, he doesn't want you to be sad for him.
I also lost my father. A detective came to our door the day before Christmas and told me the sudden shocking report. I was 12. There is nothing I can say to brand you feel better but I will offer you the things I have academic. I don't know what happens when you die but It's important for you to tell him how you discern now if you can. You'll feel better during the grieving process.
The only entity that we have and makes us all surrounded by the whole world equal is our birth, our body's, and our death.since it happens to adjectives life it can't be so bad. My whole time felt different after he died. As if he is near me, making sure I get by ok.And I other have the feeling I will see him again sometime. And my grandmother and brother too. Go to him now and narrate him how much you love him and how you will grow up as a good person and mother and grandmother and that you will someday be together again.Help him make the transition from natural life to death knowing you will be ok. He is probably more concerned about that than anything. And most importantly, treat him as a living loving human being, thank him for his guidance and report him we'll meet again real soon. He is not dead. Only particularly ill. Nothing will or can or should make you feel anything but melancholy at such a time. God bless you and your dad.
in attendance really isnt any advice to give just run to your dad every day and get him what ever he needs.
You can't transformation the fact that your dad might die butin the mean time you should try to see him as much as you can my nan just died of Kidney disappointment and I only saw her once in Hospital I regret that so much now. So If he does Pass away You know you spent as much time next to him as you could and every time you went to see him even if he wasnt awake you made him happy. Your mother is also losing her partner so shes going through as tough time as you. but when your fathers home or its you and your mother your relationship will grow extremly strong because of what you enjoy been through either way. The best adivce is not to Fear whats coming but to live the time you enjoy now.
awwww im sooo sorry and dont verbs about ur bf
he is going to regret not helping you he's an ***
well anyways dont worry give or take a few anything everything is going
to bee okay sweetie
;-'{ I'm truly very sorry !!.,. The very best you can do in the situation of advanced cancer : Is pray !! & with the sole purpose whenever you are able to ... Comfort your family member!! by process of telephone calls, Letting them know as`much as you possibly can & or let them see that you are keeping track of the thoroughness they get !!... Maybe if possible have two family unit members check either by phone of visit twice a week!?! Just integer out who'll be able to mornings,noons & evenings !?! & keep in contact next to eachother of or about the care,meals,baths,meds etc. My pompous Father died just a few months ago also !?! ;-'{ "I WISH YOU & FAMILY / members the best of luck"~!. ;-'{ r`'R'`r
the best point you can do is just think he;ll be in a better place lacking being sick anymore...just think of it as something thats worthy for him...
and try not to get too down because every moment you spend being sad is a moment of satisfied you wont get back...
dont you think he desires you to be happy??
This is the time when you an your mother are going to need eachother the most. I think through you two have a love hate relationship but try to overcome it. God forbid anything happens to your father you two are adjectives you have.
As for your bf, if he's being insensitive right now and truly doesn't confer a damn then you're better off without him. You're stressed and sorrowing enough to have some guy stressing you out even more.
Talk to someone, anyone that is liable to listen and actually help you through your problem. Remember that evrything happens for a basis and that god wouldn't make you go through this hardship if he didn't own a bigger plan in store for you.
u cant give up on hope. pray for him every morning night afternoon... whenever. spend as much time as u can beside him. try making him laugh, reminisce on some memories. and how old are you.. fourteen? fifteen? its natural for u to enjoy a 'love hate' relationship with ur mom. its just part of growing up. and as for ur boyfriend... screw him. thats the ultimate thing u need to be worrying about presently... but if he ignores u in ur time of need hes not worth it and u could seize a much better guy. i hope everything turns out okay.. :)
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My grandfather died back within 1994. It was the hardest thing I ever went through. He help raise me. They gave him 6 months to live and he died 3 months later 1 wk in the past my birthday. I was happy he was no longer contained by pain anymore, but I was mad as hell that he be gone. No one understood what he meant to me. It gets easier as time go by. Your boyfriend is probably having a hard time dealing with annihilation. Try to make some kind of amends with your mother, hopefully previously your father passes on. I always thought that god was trialling me. Because for a long time I hated him for taking my grandfather away from me. And you need to rant, whether it be to strangers or friends, let it out. It is the first step to embracing. You and your mother need each other right now. Let your dad know that you will be ok, even if it hurts you beyond words. And spend as much time beside him as you can. You will be thankful later.
i'm really truly sorry for your situation!
I'm sorry to say that there really is nothing else you can do except form your dad feel loved every minute of his time, whether that be 6 months or shorter. It's totally fine for you to be crying and your boyfriend probably doesn't know how to handle this kind of situation.
So.my final thoughts.
Never grant up on a miracle. Anything can happen!
I'm praying for your whole family! especially your dad
Keep strong and maintain praying.
Youre boyfriend is ignoring either because he's not sure how to deal/react to this situation OR because he's a douchebag.. I hope its not the end one.
You are allowed to be sad and cry and feel this way. Its clearly normal in this situation. And it sucks, and its f*cking horrible that a you're life will still jump on and you're going to lose one of the most important people in your energy. Miracles are rare and few. Im so sorry. I dont know what else to say.
Please, please, make the most of the time theres moved out. Spend as much time as you can with your father. Be strong for your mother because you two needs each other no concern how bad things are.
Crying is not bad thing.
I am so sorry go is going like this for you. Pray. Try just talking to your mother, letting her know how you are outlook about your dad.
I pray you get through this; I know you will get through this, although it will be unyielding.
If you need to talk, feel free to e-mail me anytime.
tamitemple123@yahoo.com
Tami
it'll all be ok hang on to praying.although i don't know you my prayers will be with you and your family.take effort
I went through the same stuff next to my step dad about a year ago.
He had ALS.
Everything will be okay,It's going to be super hard.
But you're true friends should be nearby for you to help.
(:
Its okay. I am very sorry about your father and I would like to agree to you know I am praying for your family. Just try to develop a relationship with your mother. Maybe your father being sick will bring you closer. And if your boyfriend is ignore right now, I would dump him. He isn't here for you and he should be. So just go next to the flow right now. Things happen for a reason. Good luck!
Sincerely,
Victoria Elizabeth
Oh my god, that's so dismayed. You can talk to me if you need anyone [email me through the YA profile] I'll be praying for you, your dad, and your family :)
Answers: U r not ranting at all.Been nearby myself. My mother died of ovarian ca, and my father was a real ***.He never came to the hospital because he does not similar to sick people.I cried and cried also.Just to let you know, you are not alone.I know its not fair, I wish it was my dad instead of mom, but I don't know why certain things happen.Why do some family die early and some live to be a 100.All I know is, losing my mother, made a better person out of me.Do not think you are adjectives alone,you would be surprised who just might be there to help you.Even though your mother is not near at the moment, she just might change her outlook in duration and be a better person in the future.Don't tender up!
Oh honey I'm so sorry :(
I have had a family accomplice die of cancer this year. Keep close to your family and friends they can help you get through this.
xxxxx
my dad died wen i was 13 just chat 2 sum1 that makes u feel btr and ignor every1 els. if thr isnt sum1 u can talk 2 rite surrounded by a journal or something. that made me feel btr. and sory, but God will make it betr.
I dont what to say aloud girl..
Just stay strong and BELIEVE.
Life sucks... trust me
Theirs always going to up and downs.
Good luck sweetie my prayers are with you
:)
Well, quit spending your time crying and go hang out with him. I just now lost a parent and the sooner you can start speaking with him, laughing with him and letting him know you love him, the better. I can assure you, he will lose consciousness before he pass and you don't have time to waste. Make him happy. The best style to die is to have people you care something like near you. Sometimes, just being within and saying nothing is ok. Trust me, he doesn't want you to be sad for him.
I also lost my father. A detective came to our door the day before Christmas and told me the sudden shocking report. I was 12. There is nothing I can say to brand you feel better but I will offer you the things I have academic. I don't know what happens when you die but It's important for you to tell him how you discern now if you can. You'll feel better during the grieving process.
The only entity that we have and makes us all surrounded by the whole world equal is our birth, our body's, and our death.since it happens to adjectives life it can't be so bad. My whole time felt different after he died. As if he is near me, making sure I get by ok.And I other have the feeling I will see him again sometime. And my grandmother and brother too. Go to him now and narrate him how much you love him and how you will grow up as a good person and mother and grandmother and that you will someday be together again.Help him make the transition from natural life to death knowing you will be ok. He is probably more concerned about that than anything. And most importantly, treat him as a living loving human being, thank him for his guidance and report him we'll meet again real soon. He is not dead. Only particularly ill. Nothing will or can or should make you feel anything but melancholy at such a time. God bless you and your dad.
in attendance really isnt any advice to give just run to your dad every day and get him what ever he needs.
You can't transformation the fact that your dad might die butin the mean time you should try to see him as much as you can my nan just died of Kidney disappointment and I only saw her once in Hospital I regret that so much now. So If he does Pass away You know you spent as much time next to him as you could and every time you went to see him even if he wasnt awake you made him happy. Your mother is also losing her partner so shes going through as tough time as you. but when your fathers home or its you and your mother your relationship will grow extremly strong because of what you enjoy been through either way. The best adivce is not to Fear whats coming but to live the time you enjoy now.
awwww im sooo sorry and dont verbs about ur bf
he is going to regret not helping you he's an ***
well anyways dont worry give or take a few anything everything is going
to bee okay sweetie
;-'{ I'm truly very sorry !!.,. The very best you can do in the situation of advanced cancer : Is pray !! & with the sole purpose whenever you are able to ... Comfort your family member!! by process of telephone calls, Letting them know as`much as you possibly can & or let them see that you are keeping track of the thoroughness they get !!... Maybe if possible have two family unit members check either by phone of visit twice a week!?! Just integer out who'll be able to mornings,noons & evenings !?! & keep in contact next to eachother of or about the care,meals,baths,meds etc. My pompous Father died just a few months ago also !?! ;-'{ "I WISH YOU & FAMILY / members the best of luck"~!. ;-'{ r`'R'`r
the best point you can do is just think he;ll be in a better place lacking being sick anymore...just think of it as something thats worthy for him...
and try not to get too down because every moment you spend being sad is a moment of satisfied you wont get back...
dont you think he desires you to be happy??
This is the time when you an your mother are going to need eachother the most. I think through you two have a love hate relationship but try to overcome it. God forbid anything happens to your father you two are adjectives you have.
As for your bf, if he's being insensitive right now and truly doesn't confer a damn then you're better off without him. You're stressed and sorrowing enough to have some guy stressing you out even more.
Talk to someone, anyone that is liable to listen and actually help you through your problem. Remember that evrything happens for a basis and that god wouldn't make you go through this hardship if he didn't own a bigger plan in store for you.
u cant give up on hope. pray for him every morning night afternoon... whenever. spend as much time as u can beside him. try making him laugh, reminisce on some memories. and how old are you.. fourteen? fifteen? its natural for u to enjoy a 'love hate' relationship with ur mom. its just part of growing up. and as for ur boyfriend... screw him. thats the ultimate thing u need to be worrying about presently... but if he ignores u in ur time of need hes not worth it and u could seize a much better guy. i hope everything turns out okay.. :)
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